To order an Indian takeaway while babysitting?

[IJustWantATakeaway]

I’m babysitting for my SIL and brother next weekend. I love doing it and love seeing their kids, but it always leaves me in a bit of a pickle in terms of getting dinner. I try not to order out because I’m losing weight, but this weekend I just want to treat myself.

I love Indian food but live at home and my dad cannot stand the smell of it. My mum thinks if I order it I’m being very rude and it’ll annoy them, but they always offer to pay for one so I don’t know if it’s a bit unreasonable?! How would you feel if your babysitter ordered Indian?

In my very niche situation I wouldn’t be happy because I am extremely allergic to things like garam masala and don’t want it in my house.

I would be happy for a babysitter to order most takeaways and will pay for it too.

I don’t ask permission for anything I do.

I just wanted to check I wasn’t being an arsehole.

All food smells...
Feels like a non-issue.

If someone in my family was watching my kids, I'd order them the takeaway. Indian wouldn't bother me at all, I don't think a takeaway leaves a smell like cooking it in the house does.

I’d be furious if someone ordered that to my house, even my siblings. I put a lot of effort into keeping the house smelling nice - my idea of nice - so I’d be livid if someone ordered in hot food I hadn’t agreed to. I certainly wouldn’t do it if I were the one babysitting. It’s not my house, I shouldn’t treat it as such.

If you were my sibling and babysitting for
me then the Indian take out would be on me and fridge stocked up of whatever else you like. If you’re fortunate enough to have a village to help with your kids then you should look after that village x

Wow never heard of anything allergic to that! It’s a blend of a lot of different spices. You must be allergic to a lot of spices then !

If in doubt ask them "oh, I was thinking of ordering an Indian takeaway as I've not eaten much today, would you like me to order you guys anything for when your back?"
If they're unhappy that's their cue to say they'd rather you didn't order one

Hope no actual Indian people on this thread, the level of rudeness about something a simple as non European cuisine lol. My neighbors are Indian and when we they cook the whole hallway knows, and I’m just sad they don’t invite me over for dinner more often!

What’s your idea of a nice smell? Do you only eat perfumed foods? No spices in your cooking? Sadness.

If I was your brother, I’d be paying for your Indian! Takeaway smells are gone by the morning. It’s cooking Indian food that stinks the house out for a couple of days. But even then, I’d accept my house smelling of Indian food in exchange for free babysitting!

Learnt something new tonight Indian take away stink out your house.
I never knew this my house don't stink of the Indian take once all the containers have gone.

I would check first just out of courtesy because curries do have a lingering smell and it sounds like you’d be eating in their living room in front of the telly.

I’d be really surprised if they minded though.

Same straight in the outside bin. Plates washed up. I don't see the issue.

This ^
I don’t like strong smells of food in the house, I keep door closed to contain the smell to one room and open windows after. It might be not ideal for you if you need room door opened to hear kids.
I would txt your brother and ask if it’s ok, just to be polite. Make it clear that you are asking about the smell otherwise he might think you are asking for money.
By the way if my sister was looking after DD for free she could fry smoked haddock for her dinner and I wouldn’t bat an eyelid.

Indian here and this whole thread makes me feel uncomfortable. Just wanted some light Mumsnet browsing before bed - not casual racism about how the food of my culture ‘stinks’ and how family members refuse to have it in the house like it’s going to contaminate your house and linger until the end of time. Anyway back to doom scrolling! Enjoy the curry OP! Don’t forget to pack the air freshener 🙃

The whole food smells in the house thing is your mother’s issue. It’s not really a typical issue people have, I wouldn’t even think of it. Also, Indian food smells delicious.

This. Mumsnet is really weird about a lot of things though. Can’t believe PP saying she would be ‘livid’ if curry entered her home 🤣 Whaaat.

I would suspect the people who object might be Zoflora and Mrs Hinch fans.

But you should ask permission, that's the point, it's not your house, so if you are doing something there different to what you normally do it is polite to check it's okay first.

no one can answer the question of whether your brother and SIL would mind you having a curry there except them, so why not just ask them if they mind?

If they usually offer to buy you one then you already know the answer surely?

I agree, there are some horrible comments on this thread. All food smells to some extent.

I’ve clicked you are being unreasonable because you are.. tell your brother you’re ordering an Indian takeaway don’t ask. get the takeaway and enjoy every single mouthful!!

Why don't you just ask him if he minds?

I don't like any lingering food smells in the house be it chips or curry. But, someone doing me such a kindness would be welcome to order a curry (I'd happily pay for it too).

I...just...yes...nope...absolutely speechless! 🤣

Why in the name of all that's holy, would someone ask the internet instead of their own brother and SIL?

I mean I wouldn't ask anyway, I'd just eat it and scrape the leftovers into the outside bin.

But if I was going to ask anyone, it'd be the homeowners, not Mumsnet! 🤦‍♀️