I was chatting with another mum (close friend) today and we were talking about how important it is to have school mums to help out with pick ups from time to time.
She was telling me she had found a lovely couple through school and they clicked well and had similar parenting styles. And she said that from time to time they picked up each other’s kids from school.
I said I wished I could trust other parents with my daughter but I just don’t.
I’ve got mum friends at school but they are always talking about how they yell at their kids, and how they fight with their husbands. They are perfectly nice women generally and I enjoy their company, but one admits to drinking a bottle of wine a night. The other had a day when her child didn’t go to school but her child turned up the next day with a black eye and she was a bit nervous about talking about what happened but mentioned a grumpy husband. They have otherwise perfectly ordinary middle class looking lives from the outside but to me these little things are little red flags for leaving my child alone with them or relying on them for the occasional pick up.
I brought this up with my friend and said I just don’t trust anyone else enough with my DD. Simply, you just can’t tell and abuse often happens to kids from people who are known to the child.
But she said maybe they just ARE ordinary people who trust me enough to share their feelings and vulnerable moments with me.
It made me wonder… am I being too overprotective?
I would never shout at my DD for anything except if she was in danger, like running into the road for example. DD is very sensitive and gentle but has signs of ADHD so doesn’t always pay attention, so the thought that another parent might yell at her worries me.
Would you let another parent pick up your child from school? AIBU to not allow this?