To ask if you love your house and could imagine staying forever

[valianttortoise]

Or if various bits of it endlessly stress you out and you want to escape one day

And is this what you expected when you moved in?

I felt like this in my previous house, hated it, it never looked clean and I felt stressed constantly. Moved last month and I instantly felt at home and I’m enjoying life and work more too

I hope I never reach the point of wanting to stay somewhere forever. For me, a house will always have niggles but it does the job at the time. When the job changes (location, number of people living there, other commitments or interests) then it's time to move.

The cost of moving is so much I resent it each time! Tens of thousands in tax alone. So I'd love to find a possible forever prospect but hasn't happened yet

Oh I'm totally with you on that!! Just finding a forever house feels like giving up on life - that there's nothing else out there.

I love my house (been here 20 years) but I don't think the concept of a forever house is that helpful. I fully expect to downsize to something smaller/better connected as I get older and circumstances change.

The first house we bought was always a “good for now but not forever” house.
We lived there almost 10 years but the last 2-3 was getting a bit too much and I was really getting a bit stressed.

We’ve lived in our current house for 2 years and I love it. There is work to be done from a decorating point of view and making it ours, but it’s the perfect layout, we have enough space and rooms, and I really don’t see us moving from here unless we moved to a different city or country.

i adore this house from the day we moved in and I adore it still.

Both my husband and myself thought about moving when we retired but, we loved our house, it's location and everything about it! So we future proved it, made gardens easier to maintain, new boiler, new kitchen etc and I honestly cant see us moving at all!

Completely agree with PPs, I can’t imagine having a forever home, not when you take into account the area you’re in, or perhaps your commute to work (not so much these days). Looking back I’ve had a couple of places that would suit me now better than they did at that time, but I think the idea of a forever home is a concept from the previous generation, along with the assumption you bought that home to start a family. Lives are just not that linear any more.

I'm 49 and I counted up the number of houses I've lived in - it came to 33. So I'm staying put for at least 10 years this time!

My house isn't perfect but I couldn't be bothered to move again - it's too stressful. Also, I think no house is perfect and it's best to focus on the good things about where you are instead of always wanting something else.

I've lived in my house for 36 years. I love it just as much as the day I moved in. The location not so much. It's in a tiny village which was perfect when raising children, not so good in old age. DH refuses to move. I don't need to downsize, just move somewhere with amenities.

I love my house. It’s on the market. I think it’s too big and has three floors. As I’m 63 I think I should find something more suitable for long term. If it doesn’t sell I’ll be secretly pleased.

I disagree - I think the forever home is something form the last 20 years only and I see it as a marketing ploy

imy nana lived in the same home until she moved to care but it wasn’t a “forever home” it was a standard council house

I can imagine staying here until I die or need care - it’s not what would be advertised as a forever home - just an ordinary 3 bed estate semi. It’s home. At last after a number of moves and the first time I have chosen the location for me rather than work. But I’d never call it a forever home - just home. At last.

I love my house. I grew up in it. We only rent it as my Mum wanted to downsize so we moved in. Although it is very old and crumbling the view is amazing and we are so happy and secure here.

I love our house, because of the memories we've made here and the community it's in. That said, once the children leave home and we retire, I think we will downsize but stay in the area.

I love my house and land. We have 4 acres. But I’m sure eventually it will get too much to manage.

I love "my" house. It's rented unfortunately, but it's so great, I wish it was mine.
It needs a lot doing to it and I'd love to be able to actually do it.
The rent is a LOT but it's actually comparitively cheap for what I have. It's a large 3 bed and I feel really comfortable in it as I'm very claustrophobic and hated living in a pokey 2 bed terrace.
The front and back gardens are massive and the neighbours are amazing, oir kids are all best friends.
I hate that one day I will have the dream of owning my own house but it won't be this house. I just hope that when we so buy, I love it as much as I do here.

I like my house. The concept of a “forever” home is lame in my opinion. We don’t live forever and we get old and decrepit. A home should cater for you now. I live in a four storey home, it won’t be a great forever option when I’m 80 and can’t negotiate the stairs.

I very much want mine to be a forever house as on the surface its 'lovely'/'desirable' but i dont feel like i have it in me to do the renovations now and the money doesnt feel worth it and i dont like the area. Moving is fucking horrenous though so i hope next time its the forever house 🤞

I adore my house but it’s far too big and we need to downsize.

I love my flat & am never going to move unless I have no choice or things change drastically.

It’s exactly the right size & in a perfect location.

This was our forever home when bought it 11 years ago. I loved it until Dec 2020 when we got the neighbours from hell next door. It's gone downhill vastly since then. Unfortunately we've been through various financial set backs and we've not been able to afford to move but we're working on it. A shame because we still love the house but it's become unbearable.

There have been two houses I’ve really loved. The first was where the children grew up and the second was where the grandchildren came to stay. That one got too expensive though and the area went downhill.

I thought I’d enjoy the smaller house we moved to, but after nearly a year, I don’t. I’ll have to make the best of it though. The area is better, but there’s no sense of community and I don’t feel part of anything.

My house will be passed down. It's a unique home that DP doesn't want to sell, ever!
We won't stay here forever, but it won't be sold either. We're fortunate enough to have other options.

I do like it. It's very old and had a lot of work done, but it's also quite draining with all the bloody cleaning and upkeep. It currently needs repainting, but it's got great bones

I'm 40-odd and I want a house that lasts me I til I die because I can't afford to burn £30k + a go in tax multiple times. I can't believe many people do and I dont think it's remotely "lame". Well done you if you're that rich.

I want space to entertain, space so my husband can have home dialysis if he needs it, a garden, a nice kitchen and a bathroom on each level. I want buses and trains and amenities I can walk to in a couple of minutes. I want effective heating and hot water, a dishwasher and ideally a conservatory.

Unlikely I'd want anything different at 80.