To tell you how I feel grateful today for my husband

[Jenneypops]

I'm not gloating, he's not perfect and we have our bickers, he can be lazy and has the memory of a toffee apple. But I was just sitting here thinking he's a good egg and it's nice to share that feeling.

This weekend he tidied the house yesterday morning and told me to have a lie in because I had a bad headache Today he done 2 loads of washing went and done the shopping, picked up my prescription, brought me home my favourite food magazine and some of my favourite biscuits. He then cooked a lovely full roast dinner and done all the washing up afterwards. We don't have children so he could have just done the minimum and enjoyed some free time. He's just asked if I'm feeling better would I like to sit together and enjoy a film.

Oh and he didn't kill me for buying some ludicrously expensive chocolate on Friday 🤣 hope you are all having a lovely Sunday either enjoying your own company or with friends and family.

so he could have just done the minimum and enjoyed some free time

well that would have made him a bit of a dick given you had a bad headache

Sitting next to my lovely husband right now. We went to a protest together yesterday, now lunch at a cafe and park, later we will go home and he will do the laundry.

Sounds like you have a very caring DH there. Great to look after each other if you’re not feeling great. Good to hear of a strong partnership.
My DH is my rock and we have been through some truly horrendous family times.

All those things you listed wouldn’t be noteworthy unless he hardly ever does them, meaning someone else does. I’m guessing that’s you. The other things like asking if you’re feeling better or want to watch a film are normal every day interactions. Sorry. If you’re happy though then that’s good.

That’s lovely OP. Nice to hear for a change.

Mine has made a fried breakfast for everyone, plumbed in a radiator, been food shopping, taken the youngest to his football match in the rain, ran the line, ordered a load of electrical stuff from Amazon as we are doing a load of major DIY and just made dinner.
Washed & dried the school uniforms and work stuff.

I’ve got a banging headache and other than chucked a ham into some coke in the slow cooker have languished on the sofa all day.

I agree with this tbh. But I don't have a husband so what do I know?!

Each marriage has it's barometer of what's good / great, so if the man's making you happy, I'm happy for you 😊.

Now that’s a barbed post if ever there was one!

Unless he normally does fuck all then he has literally just done what needs doing.
set your bar higher op

Ignore the spiky comments, OP. He sounds thoughtful.

Gratitude is a lovely thing to cultivate. It’s easy to get trapped in a spiral of negativity, but seeing and taking time to appreciate the good things in life is really important.

Mine’s spent the day improving our home. He’s also aware that I’ve been blue, and he hasn’t pressed me to talk about it but has offered lovely hugs and has expressed appreciation for what I’ve done today.

@Jenneypops I’m really happy for you that your man has made you happy today.

Then you should be feeling pretty ashamed that you don't cook, tidy the house or do the shopping and that you have a go at him for buying chocolate. Ah, but....

Man does something that women normally do as part of the day to day = thanks and gratitude

is the bar really set so low that putting in the washing, doing a bit of shopping, and cooking dinner is medal worthy.

Ignore the mardy arses OP.

These threads tend to go down like a cup of cold sick on Mumsnet, and yet you'll have people saying 'all men are bad' because there are very few positive stories on MN 🙄

I've even seen people saying threads like this should have a trigger warning (I kid you not!) because some women don't have nice husbands.

It's nice to feel appreciated and to also appreciate our loved ones now and then

He was kind to you. Thats lovely xx❤️
I hope he's equally as kind to you when you don't have a headache

*is the bar really set so low that putting in the washing, doing a bit of shopping, and cooking dinner is medal worthy.

Half the mn wants medals for that😂 so yes?

So many negative comments.
FWIW, I think it's nice to hear of a DH like this.
Mine will do things that I order ask him to do, but not of his own volition.

I don’t think the OP would have started this thread if he was

and the opening sentence speaks volumes

Me too! Our baby daughter has been poorly and he’s been so selfless, doing most of the night wakings and cooking delicious food. He’s just so excellent.

Well I think it's so good to read a thread about a thoughtful man who actually seems to care about his DW.

Generally speaking in the threads on MN when a woman is ill or not well her H or partner behaves like a nasty/ uncaring/ selfish excuse for a man.

And I'm so pleased OP's H behaved like a decent human being and has also made her feel pleased about her marriage.

I don't understand the unpleasant comments on this thread.

It’s lovely to feel valued and cared for.

memory of a toffee apple made me 🤣🤣

Mine would get his arse kicked if he ever commented on me buying something expensive with my own money that I work for!

Ahh, he sounds lovely. Ignore the meanies. Enjoy being looked after when you are ill.

Would a woman doing every day normal life tasks and adulting generally, be called thoughtful or praised in any way at all? It’s just living life as standard isn’t it?!
I’m not even trying to piss on OP’s chips here, feeling happy in life is never a bad thing but I just pointed out how indicative it is that these things are like a ‘treat’ to her rather than the expected, standard.

Ignore the idiotic, barbed comments, OP. You do have a good'un there. I am genuinely pleased for you.