To tell you how I feel grateful today for my husband

[Jenneypops]

I'm not gloating, he's not perfect and we have our bickers, he can be lazy and has the memory of a toffee apple. But I was just sitting here thinking he's a good egg and it's nice to share that feeling.

This weekend he tidied the house yesterday morning and told me to have a lie in because I had a bad headache Today he done 2 loads of washing went and done the shopping, picked up my prescription, brought me home my favourite food magazine and some of my favourite biscuits. He then cooked a lovely full roast dinner and done all the washing up afterwards. We don't have children so he could have just done the minimum and enjoyed some free time. He's just asked if I'm feeling better would I like to sit together and enjoy a film.

Oh and he didn't kill me for buying some ludicrously expensive chocolate on Friday 🤣 hope you are all having a lovely Sunday either enjoying your own company or with friends and family.

Well. How interesting to see these responses. No one has spoilt anything for me thankfully.

My husband regularly cooks and cleans, shoulders the lions share of physical chores due to my illnesses. He is a kind, funny and a wonderful intelligent man.

For those who pity me for thinking I settle for the bare minimum, and am in an unhappy marriage for showing gratitude I extend my absolute sympathies to you that you would jump to those conclusions. What does kindness look like to you? If not making you feel safe, valued and cared for?

Eh I could almost say the exact same i actually tell hubby quite often your a good egg and he always replies and your scrambled love 🤣 we had a bad 2 years 3 family members and his mum have passed very quickly all cancer and we've just kept plodding on, looking after the family, him working and yesterday i sitting thinking even during the time when his mam was with us in her last 2 months he never once failed to make me a hot chocolate before bed, he never once stopped helping with the kids when he got in from work and all the house work and he even started cooking all the teas etc..I won't say i don't every week still say have you put the bin out or just small things which don't bother me but yes I have a very good egg and the kids a very good hard working dad..

But I was just sitting here thinking he's a good egg and it's nice to share that feeling.

He is the person is share that feeling with or perhaps his parents or someone who at least knows him.

A group of anonymous mumsnet who you don’t know from Adam? And never will… I personally find that a little odd but each to their own.

Nice to read. There’s so many posts on here about selfish dickheads, this is a nice post.

Hahaha @QPZM ”a cup of cold sick” 🤢 literally just made me feel like I might vom. What a powerful expression.

also, OP, memory like a toffee apple? I’ve never heard that one before, I like it!

I also think my DP is a pretty great partner. We’re both scatter brained and messy and I’m the one who tidies, but wow, he’s the one that cooks us adventurous surprises researching new recipes. My favourite thing about him is his good, fair, measured, emotionally intelligent and generous mind. He properly listens to me, he makes me feel heard and provides me with balance when appropriate. I looked for him for a long time.

Except that experiencing and expressing gratitude are associated with a longer life expectancy. It doesn't have to be for big things, simply recognizing the positives in your life, however small they are is enough.

And as OP has followed up to say he does pull his weight, no it wasn't a fair assumption.

presumably the studies mean expressing gratitude to the person themselves

Not anonymous online posters

I think people are reading too much into this. I think what OP is expressing is her love and gratitude for her DP because on this particular day he made her feel very loved and appreciated when she needed it the most. I think he does love and appreciate the OP every day but this day was just a bit more keenly felt by the OP and she just wanted to share that. I think it’s a beautiful thing.

Just having the feeling of gratitude, being appreciative and adopting a positive mindset is enough. Or putting it in a journal to express it.

Yup

I think it can be either - ‘journaling’ about gratitude is, I think, part of some studies.

It's a real shame people came on to just ruin your whole post. All you shared was how grateful you were for him. He sounds like a good egg and you both seem to have a happy marriage. I'm glad you've found someone who shares the load!

My dh always does most of these minus cooking as standard not as a treat but glad your happy op

Absolutely.

DH put up a shelf yesterday and then touched up the wall, before deciding the whole wall needed doing, going out getting paint and sorting it all. He took DD to sports match, made lunch and dinner, then put on some laundry.

this is normal. He eats, he wears clothes, he looks at that wall. He hasn’t done those things “for me” and so isn’t deserving of specific praise although of course I’m appreciative.

thinking that he was wonderful because he’d looked after my whilst sick seems bizarre

Its nice to appreciate the little things about each other.

I think this is lovely OP, ignore the man haters. Tedious.

I had a similar feeling about my DH this weekend. Our adult DD is having problems with her boyfriend and has come home for a few days ... he has been so so kind and understanding, chatting to her for hours about her feelings and options 😍

All those little 'unimportant' things you do for each other build up and make a happy relationship. Its good to notice and appreciate each other.

An extraordinary man is just an average woman.

PS - if mine ever had a go at me for buying expensive chocolate I’d LTB 😆

Exactly. This. Quietly do 100 instead of the usual 50% so the other one can rest is a nice thing to do. We split choreswith DH and if one is sick the other does it all and usually does something nice on top.
I think lots of posters are just not familiar with fair share and basic care so automatically assume op does usually 100%.... Like them.

There are some miserable people on here.
My DH is currently in Spain trying to sort out my residency.
He is one of life's good eggs.
He doesn't have any bad word to say about anyone, he's kind and generous with money and his time.
I'll be glad to see him when he gets home.

@Jenneypops I think that's a lovely post. In a world where so many people are doing horrible things to each other, I think it's even more important to celebrate the good. I too have those moments when I look at my DH and think "I bloody love you!" and, after 41 years, I think that's something to be happy about. Good for you!

That's BS. Actively noticing what people do for you, even if they do it every day, is part of fully appreciating them.

I have a cold and yesterday my DH took the kids out from 9-2pm so I could sleep. He took all the laundry to his mum's to do as we don't have a washing machine at the moment. Then later on he made me a dinner. This morning he let me lie in again and sorted the kids for breakfast and school.

He does this sort of thing every day. And I notice it every day. It's noteworthy because he is great every day.

This is lovely - good to hear some good stories out there.

Nope, that doesn't fly either. She would have been doing half of the chores otherwise, and likely not picking up treats for herself either, so of course he's done it FOR her. Try harder (or, better yet, don't).

That’s good and I hope you feel better today

i have a good’un too ( mini brag )