To beg you not to buy cheap rubbish from Temu for party bags?

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They’re toxic and horrible, end up in the bin, total waste and the parts are a danger around toddler siblings.

I don't want to make everyone jealous but back in the 70's and 80's you got a Wades Wimsey or a Baby William matchbox doll.

I agree, I think we should collectively decide not to do party bags at all. Maybe just a slice of cake to take home. The party is enough by itself!

Louder for the people in the back. I've lost count of the amount of LED ring type things which have button batteries that just slip out of the toy - stupidly dangerous, especially when they end up in the bottom of some mixed ikea cube of doom. I don't like to spoil the DC's fun by swooping in and confiscating everything immediately, but if I wasn't on top of ensuring they were separate and then quietly disposing of them once the novelty has worn off they would 100% end up in one of those drawers with all the rest of the Happy Meal/Party bag tat. And if I wasn't overly anxious and a bit too online I probably wouldn't be aware of the danger of button batteries nor of the fact safety guidelines exist for things like toys.

It's the amazon stuff which catches people out I reckon. We've got so used to amazon as a household name that it feels like Argos or Woolworths or something and the made for export stuff crept up on there so suddenly that a lot of people don't notice, or aren't aware of the fact that those sellers don't give a shit about safety regulations.

We assume anything marketed to children must be safe and legally, it should be. That also applies to amazon etc. The problem is the number of those sellers that exist and amazon doesn't police them. Take one down and another will pop up five minutes later. The only thing you can do is avoid those products like the plague, these are the red flags I've learnt to spot:

• A brand name that doesn't have any kind of web presence anywhere other than amazon
• Weird, badly photoshopped pictures
• Square brackets 【like this】in the listing
• Suspiciously vehement claims of being "100% SAFE!!!" or "Meets all safety requirements!" or stating something that you should be able to take for granted, like baby spoons being "lead-free!"
• Listing contains grammatical errors/nonsensical English
• Product name is just a description and has half a dozen keywords in it
• Other suggested items have identical pictures despite claiming to be a different brand

I've have two DS, hosted quite few parties. Never done party bags. There is absolutely no need for them. The 'pressure' is in people's heads.
Did any kid ever say "I don't want to go to X's party because they don't do bags"?

We didn't have party bags when I was little either (I'm 56) I think a balloon & a slice of cake in a napkin to take home and sometines a little bag with a few sweets in. I guess that was probably the start of party bags... mid 70's?

I don't use temu. But it's the exact same crap you can buy from everywhere else, just cheaper, to pull you in (IMO to get your data)

Do as we have all done in the past & keep small parts away from your toddler whether it's tat or Lego 🙇🏻‍♀️. If your older child can't do that, they don't get anything unsuitable for the toddler, or only under strict supervision.

No everyone has a garden.

All of this. I hate being made to feel like a neurotic mother because I’m not super chilled about substandard and potentially dangerous toys.

That could be said for most toys being made overseas.

Came to say the same thing its like xmass crackers just cheap tat.

As far as you put there only items which follow the safety standards of the country where the party takes place.

Yes this! I used to give books I’d bought in bulk but agree the party should be enough.

OP are you using the word Temu for a catch all for 'shops'

If not, why Temu in particular? Ive never bought from them so I dont know

If you mean shops in general, well ideally we would have a less disposable society but theres no appetite for it.

Yet judging by your user name you drink appalling cheap coffee? Temu are selling stuff you could as easily buy on ebay, amazon, at a school fair. Really your post is about cheap tat, unspecific to any particular market place.

Exactly, I would never buy anything off of Temu (mainly because a lot is made using slave labour of minority groups who are kept in what is essentially a ghetto with their own culture and religion outlawed) but it always do a party bag because it’s just a lot of fun and fun for me most of all 😆

YANBU. But people won't listen, as seen on this thread. Say no to all tat.

The parents who receive the bags can spend there time doing that level of research if that’s what floats their boat 😂

God I hate this seed bollocks.

Id rather party bags didn’t exist, parents hate them and children only like them for 2 minutes

Your kids didn't read books, or had books read to them?

The type of books parents buy to split between party bags tend to be a bit shit, just chosen for their cheapness. I don’t know about other posters, but my children already have (good quality) books in abundance

Some products from Temu are exactly the same products that are sold in mainstream high street shops, Amazon or UK based wholesalers.
It all comes from the same factories.
In fact isn't Temu essentially a wholesaler which is why it's cheap?

I'm 64 and I remember party bags when I was a child

Yes I think the reason Temu is so much cheaper than other wholesalers is they offer everything to everyone- no real regional pricing or supply chain.

I completely get others saying it’s not your party bag you can’t do anything about it but honestly OP I agree with you😂

Nothing worse than your children being excited for a toy just for it to break after picking it up and doing nothing with it. I’d rather one thing in the bag than loads of cheap things they even won’t play with or will break after one use.

You can still do a cheap party bag without buying horrible plastic stuff. Bouncy balls, slap bracelets, glow sticks, sweets/choc, balloons etc. We went to a party recently and the party bag was a book based on the parties theme, bookmark and sweets. I was talking to the mum about what a great idea it was and she was telling me how all the books were charity shop finds and it cost her £10 to make 15 party bags!

It's cheap becuase there's no regulation.

Yes, this, it's all plastic tat. We have a drawer full of the stuff, multiples of the same things... fidget toys, slap bands, bouncy balls etc etc which never get used and have no other purpose. We gave second hand books (a selected by birthday child as one of her favourite books) plus a chocolate this year.