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How do you choose a car?

88 replies

sunshine244 · 17/10/2025 16:26

I am totally overwhelmed with needing to buy a new (secondhand) car. I have never been interested in cars and have had an old corsa for many years. It is now dying a death, and with two kids and a dog I need something a bit bigger. Colour, style, gadgets etc aren't of interest to me. Reliability is far more important.

I have done some initial goggling, and all that tells me is that I know even less than I thought I did 😂

How on earth do people buy cars? I can't have electric car as park away from the house. I dont want anything huge or fancy. But that really doesn't narrow it down much. If I go to a car dealer they'll totally take advantage of me, and friends and family have much more expensive cars than I can afford. Help!

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AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 17/10/2025 16:29

Took me 18 months to choose my new car. The majority on the market now don’t meet my needs.

but you do need to give some more info if you’re wanting ideas. How many doors? Engine size? How big a boot? Driving position? Manual or auto/petrol or diesel? Budget?

OneTrackMindToday · 17/10/2025 16:31

Type into google AI what your budget is and what your priorities are, and ask it what you should buy. I found it genuinely helpful. Then use filters on autotrader.

Now if anyone can give me some tips on how to haggle when I go for a test drive tomorrow as the thought makes me shrivel up...

TangerinePlate · 17/10/2025 16:35

What’s your budget and finance options

What do you need(or want if you can afford it)

What distance you drive (petrol for short distances,some diesels are not suitable fir short distances due to dpf filter-know nothing about electric or hybrids,sorry)

Cost of upkeep- maintenance, consumables (tyres for bigger cars are more expensive)

Other costs-road tax aka emissions and insurance group

Ruggerlass · 17/10/2025 16:35

Set your budget, then make a list of must haves. Unless you really hate a particular colour, I’d ignore that and go for condition, mileage and how many owners it had. I’d also check out the MOT history on the Gov website. Dealers are used to women buying cars now so you’ll be fine

CryMyEyesViolet · 17/10/2025 16:35

It has to be an uncommon colour that I like - currently have a bronzy gold car, previous car was pinky purple, next one will likely be a khaki green, mint green or pistachio green which will narrow down options.

Then I set a budget and it needs to have:
Apple CarPlay
Heated Windscreen
Heated Seats
Heated Steering Wheel
Lots of cup holders

I also want an electric car. With that level of filter there aren’t many choices left - so it’s probably going to be a Kia EV3.

MyDucksArentInARow · 17/10/2025 16:44
  1. Budget
  2. Age
  3. Maintenance Affordability (ie. a 20 YO Premium car may be in your budget, but that air suspension will be a killer if it breaks, Volvos have really expensive services every other year et.)
  4. Fuel preference (most people do suit EVs now, and the only gotcha will be charging speed and range if you do lots of long drives, more charging speed as everyone needs the loo every few hours!)
  5. Non-negotiable features

In most cases that will get you down to a handful of models.

I'll use our recent example

  1. Budget £23k (Scottish 2nd hand EV Grant)
  2. <8 years (grant requirement + battery warranty)
  3. Maintenance (less of an issue with EV, but cut out old Audi's and Mercs in budget)
  4. EV
  5. 200+ mile range, fast charging, decent ground clearance, AWD, Android Auto/Apple Car Play, heads up display, reliable infotainment, medium SUV or Estate body style (not many of the latter), space for the dogs, heated seats (and a few more things)

This got us down to the Hyundai Ioniq 5 Ultimate Trim. Ordered from Car360., had a couple of options.

If you're not sure, Skoda's are good for value, reliability and size across all fuel types. There are some issues with infotainment systems in older cars but not a huge issue for the average user.

BertieBotts · 17/10/2025 16:46

Ask for a recommendation for a garage that won't rip you off. Or see if you can find someone who is knowledgeable about cars and buy them a meal or a bottle of wine or something as a thank you if they will come and look around a couple of showrooms with you as a sort of filter for the salesperson's patter.

araiwa · 17/10/2025 16:55

Auto trader has many filters for price fuel gears etc

See what comes up

There are numerous resources online for car reviews new and second hand

You probably wouldn't go far wrong with something small and japanese. Toyota Yaris, Honda jazz Suzuki swift etc

triplechoc · 17/10/2025 17:49

Decide your budget and non-negotiables, set the auto trader filters accordingly, and see what comes up as a starting point.

I changed my car earlier in the year, my criteria other than budget were: boot capacity (at least as big as I had, preferably a bit bigger), not above a certain length/width (park in lots of small car parks for work), not electric, decent headroom in the back (teenagers), max age, max mileage.

Once I had a list of a few options, the Carwow YouTube channel has some really good videos looking at different cars, doing comparisons between three that are similar, finding the best cars for certain purposes.

I also found a dealership that had a couple of the car models I was considering in stock so I could see them in person (and was very open that I was not buying that day, literally wanted to look at them, and would have walked away at any hint of pressure).

Gradually the list was narrowed down as I looked at them in more detail/spoke to people - eg one model felt really basic and cheap inside, one model I discovered certain engines had a record of cam belt issues, another car a few friends had had and all reported it was really rocky to drive/steer.

Took a couple of weeks but I found one that ticked all my boxes, and I actually love, for all that it was the ‘sensible’ option that ticked the boxes. (It’s a Seat Arona - not too big externally, but excellent internal space and a decent boot, Seat reliability is good at a decent price point).

Good luck!

ConstantlyTired312 · 17/10/2025 18:23

If you want to buy from autotrader then you can get the AA to look at second hand cars before you buy them to make sure they are ok (or, if you know anyone that can recommend a mechanic to go with you and check it over).

Buying from a dealership is more expensive but the big ones will have serviced etc before you buy.

I have had Toyotas for years and have always found them so reliable, even older models. My mum has a Honda Civic which is also reliable with a big boot

Meadowfinch · 17/10/2025 18:28

When my last car became unreliable, I asked the RAC man who rescued me, which car of the size & price I was aiming at, was the car he had to retrieve from the roadside least often.

He gave me some advice, and I went with his suggestion. Five years in, I haven't regretted it yet.

NotMeNoNo · 17/10/2025 18:32

I suggest buy a car magazine as they tend to group different cars into "classes" like small SUV, family hatchback, supermini etc. So you can work out what size/type of car you are looking for and which model from each manufacturer is your target class. So you might come out thinking VW Golf or Kia Ceed or similar.

Then look at used car listings to see roughly what age/mileage and engine size of of those kind of cars is in your budget. At this point you can go to an Arnold Clark or somewhere with a wide range to try a few for size/space. Once you narrow it down to a couple of more specfic models, use filters on Autotrader to find a few close to you to look at, and maybe book a test drive.

Honest John and Parkers websites are good for reviews of particular cars and model ranges. Most brands are reasonably reliable these days. But the fancier the car, the more there is to go wrong.

MinnieM101 · 17/10/2025 18:35

A mechanic advised me that japanese cars seem most reliable, then German . I would go for a 5 door hatchback. Mid sized . The newer cars seem to be automatic, they are so easy to drive . Love mine .

AllJoyAndNoFun · 17/10/2025 18:36

Well I’ve never met a mechanic who doesn’t rate Kia’s so I’d probably get a Sportage in your situation. I know they are kind of uncool but super reliable and great spec for the price. We have one that is 8 years old and I’ve barely spent a penny on it.

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 17/10/2025 18:40

Economy. Mainly.

NamelessNancy · 17/10/2025 18:42

We needed to replace a car in a hurry recently. Chatgpt was honestly so helpful at coming up with a list of suitable models. Not just screening based on criteria I gave it but helping me come up with my criteria in the first place.

ccridersuz · 17/10/2025 19:42

So, I’ve bought a few in my lifetime, in fact only once did I take hubby. My first was a clapped out Vauxhall, which died a death on its way to the part ex garage, where I had bought a Fiat 45, six months old ex demo, I drove that car to 103,000 miles, sold it to my BIL, who used it for a few months and then sold it on, 9 years later I saw it on someone’s drive and had to look at the mileage, it was at 239,000 miles.
Loved that car and only got rid of it because of space for my twins car seats.
Bought a semi-auto Vauxhall Corsa, hated it. Had it less than 3 months.
After that I bought a Kia Carans, the best car ever. Reliable, sturdy, dependable, easy to drive and on one occasion transported 9, 18/19 year olds to a party. At 209,000 miles somebody made a good job of banging it up. I then drove my dream car, a Suzuki soft top Jimny, but only I loved it, because it was built more for fun and off roading, than comfort.
I’ve had a few in between, my advice take a car nut with you, if you know one, or ask the local mechanic, what he’d recommend, unless buying from a main dealership. Read Auto Trader reviews, buy a copy of Auto Mart (monthly) and do some swotting up on what you can get for your budget.
Look at cars that are one owner from new, but no more than 2 owners.
Look at cars with a full service history and paperwork showing any works done on the car.
Watch out for high mileage, that could have been used as a taxi, check the miles per gallon and insurance group.
You can check the car out on the DVLA website with a registration number. Ask about any Insurance claims.
Always give it a good inspection, even if you know nothing about cars, even us females can spot dirt and duct tape under the hood.
Choice should be about practicality and future use, think about your kids older, think about loading and unloading your shopping, think about elderly relatives, holiday suitcases etc….
My husband fell in love with the Audi GT and I had seen one, was all ready to buy it, there and then.
Then he opened the boot and decided he’d changed his mind!.
Because, the boot was too small to hold his golf clubs!.
Watch out for salesmen trying to offload a really nice girly colour car, (hate that) colour should not come into it, except for white cars, they need forever cleaning.
Do take a test drive, do ask the AA or other body offering pre sale inspections if you have doubts, do walk away and think overnight about it, do not part with any money without a receipt,
Buying from a garage will give you some sort of warranty, buying privately unless with a credit card is done on trust, but even buying privately you do have some limited recourse.
Your other choice is buying at auction or using an agent (although fees will apply).
If you really are doubtful about your ability, I would always ask a friend, relative, local mechanic or even the guy down the road that’s forever tinkering with cars (we all know at least one).
My choice would be a Kia or a Toyota, followed by Fiat.

Fuzzypinetree · 17/10/2025 20:03

I have to get a new car because fixing my current one just isn't worth it anymore. We've got several dealerships in town and I just went and test drove a few cars. One of my main points was boot capacity. I've got two DC and a large pushchair. We currently have a 7-seater van so I'm used to a big boot.
I went and tried

  • Skoda Octavia station wagon, hybrid, nice but too low for me..also too expensive
  • VW Touran, similar to my current car but felt really basic for the price (my current one is older but a much higher specification)
  • a Dacia Jogger Hybrid, looks nice but sounds weird when driving
  • a Dacia Jogger with a normal petrol engine, better, drives nicely, unfortunately a vomit green colour...but would have been a good choice, price was good, too

I've now settled on a Forthing 3, which was coincidence and just because the guy at the dealership said to at least have a go in it. First new car ever. Hoping to avoid costly repairs in the next few years. Boot was also bigger than most other SUVs I've looked at.
An alternative would have been the new Dacia Bigster.

MazdaMX5lover · 17/10/2025 20:06

I would first narrow it down into which brands are worth exploring. Japanese brands tend to be reliable - Toyota/Lexus, Honda, Hyundai, Suzuki, Mazda. The only ones I haven't heard great things about are some modern Nissans and Mitsubishi I think is a bit hit and miss. German cars are ok but more expensive and I think proper maintenance matters more. With Japanese cars you can get away with missing a service but German cars like Mercedes/Audi/BMW will need servicing on time. Stellantis brands (most European car brands - Fiat, Vauxhall, Citroen, Peugeot, Alfa Romeo, DS) tend not to be as reliable. I think Ford can be mixed depending on the engine.

Once you've chosen brands you want to stick to then find out what models they do and choose some you like and that tick all the boxes. Then I would go on Youtube and watch reviews, have a look on forums too and find out what common faults they have (if any) and whether you're prepared to deal with them. I have a Citroen C1 and the most common fault is water leaking in the boot which isn't a deal breaker for me. My dream car is a Mazda MX5 and although the engine is reliable, they are notorious for rust and I don't have time for that right now so it'll have to just stay as a dream. My next car will be a Suzuki Swift and I haven't seen any off-putting faults online!

If you don't care about anything other than reliability then I would say a Toyota Yaris or Auris.

Tryingatleast · 17/10/2025 20:13

I’ll always always recommend Skoda in terms of reliability (they have a vw engine) and great boot size. I s as Keats start with engine size, I drive on the motorway long distances so need over a 1l, I have a licence for an automatic and then - gulp- cost. (As cheap as possible!!!)

Tryingatleast · 17/10/2025 20:14

Ps I’d only ever buy from a garage but that’s just because I’d be afraid of being messed over

Ferretmad2 · 17/10/2025 20:33

By test driving them. I usally have a list of ones that meet what I need first but the one I have now I went completely off script and fell in love with the comfy seats, big cup holder, gear change, interior build quality and ride. Most cars have rubbish seats, even some supposedly well made cars feel cheap and nasty.

BuildbyNumbere · 17/10/2025 23:03

Look on autotrader, use the filter to pick what’s important to you and see what comes up a reasonable distance from you that you can afford.

buffybots · 17/10/2025 23:09

I worked for a car dealership so had ruled out a load already under reliability
I also want a petrol, manual gearbox and more oomph than a 1l so that left me with very few options! I’ve ended up thinking I’m going with a Kia xceed

DonutD · 17/10/2025 23:12

My stepdad always used to go on about how I needed a Japanese car, but in my naive youth I just went for cars that I liked the look of. When I met my husband he was also team Japanese. I had 3 cars, all of the which were in and out the garage for one reason or another, and usually failed their MOTs. Last car got hit and written off and ended up buying Nissan (Japanese), it's been 4 years since I've had it and the car is 18 tears old. Never had a single fault (touch wood) and never failed an MOT. Wish I'd gone with a Japanese car earlier. Also has low millage which is a bonus.