Strange situation at work, 25 year old junior male making jokes about pre-perimenopause..

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I’ve worked with this guy for a few months. He’s 25 and I’m 35. I know he has 3 big sisters but no girlfriend as far as I’m aware which I’m guessing will help set the scene slightly. Tbh I find him a bit odd, his sense of humour is a bit random, i don’t totally get it. He’s also about 5ft 4, not that I care about that but I but I have a feeling he’s got a chip on his shoulder.

So this is what happened, my other colleague can in the room and said she was hot, obviously it’s not a hot day today so he asked her why and she said “oh you don’t wanna know, perimenopause or something like that”, I joked and said “ahh il look forward to that” and that was the end of it.
Then 5 mins later, he said to me, other colleague had gone at this point “you know there’s a ‘pre-perimenopause that affects 35 plus’” and read out the symptoms from his screen, so he’d been googling it, he also knows I’m 35 because we had this chat at one point,
So I said “are you trying to find something that affects my age or something?” He laughed and said “just trying to offer advice” and I replied “not sure I need that off a 25 year old male”

So it’s pissed me off and made me feel a bit uncomfortable. My hunch is this guy has grown up with 3 big sisters, maybe been teased, he’s a short arse and he’s making it clear he feels a bit weird around women.

What do you make of it?

I think tone is the only way to gauge this. Going off just what you have written, he seems like he's a bit socially inept and trying to fit in, in the wrong way.

I read your example to mean he wants to engage in conversation, but doesn't know how and tried to keep the conversation going by researching what he didn't know about. He hasn't made a sexist of offensive remark, on the face of it; but it comes across as if he's somewhat who just rubs you the wrong way. (Understandable, we all have people we detest on sight, but if that's the case, it's a you problem, not a him problem.) It's also a bit shit to comment on his height the way you have.

I think he was just trying to join in a conversation he didn’t fully understand.

Offensive to who there is nothing wrong with being autistic. Im autistic and so are 2 of my children and its certainly nothing to be ashamed of. So because you don't struggle with social norms nobody with autism does. You know what they say if you've met one person with autism you've met one person with autism. Whether the bloke has autism or not op still needs to be tolerant of other people's personality types and not be nasty to people who didn't actually do anything wrong.