To think the curly hair method is a con?

[Axolotyls]

I have frizzy bird nest hair. I straightened it for years but now I’m finding that I can’t be arsed as it’s so thin it just looks lank and depressing and makes me look old and haggered when it’s straight.

So I leave it to dry naturally - massive Afro

I tried curly hair method - Looked like a hair dresser had started styling it and then got pissed on tequila half way through

its a con isn’t it? Are some people just destined to have shit hair?

It IS offensive

I think it’s like anything, you take from it what’s useful.

For me that meant moving away from shampoo and conditioner with sulphites and silicone in them and using curly curl approved leave in conditioner and gel.

My hair looks better than it used to.

Which ones????

Yes, thanks. Its frustrating that because someone doesn't believe it should be offensive, that it isn't. I tried to explain without being nasty. Maybe people haven't realised that it's not ok to say this.
It was also weird to assume I'm not black.

@TreeCake Well, in that case, I've been educated and I sincerely apologise for my ignorance.

Not a con. My daughter and daughter in law have both used the curly girl method for the last couple of years. Both had nice wavy but slightly frizzy hair before. Have now got gorgeous very curly and non frizzy hair now.

Well I appreciate you coming back to say that. It honestly is a thing and even more so in the curly world, where I spend plenty of time on forums getting tips for my own curly hair.
I also don't believe for a minute that OP was being racist, but I do think it's important to increase awareness. ❤️

Well, in that case I sincerely apologise. I still don't think @Axolotyls had any intention whatsoever of being offensive.

Probably not but if people don’t mention it then.. mentioning it means education

The trick is to wash as normal, use a leave in conditioner and then styling spray to perk it up as needed

My hair is wavy but too fine to do the curly girl method. I tried it and all the product just weighed my hair down and made it greasy. Nowadays I shampoo and condition with volumising products, then rinse my hair out upside down. Give it a few squishes with a towel (still upside down) and let it dry naturally. Sometimes I’ll pop a tiny bit of serum in the ends.

@TreeCake I didn’t realise the term was offensive and I’m glad you can see that it wasn’t my intention to cause offence. Thank you for explaining it, I won’t use that term again ☺️

There are different types of curly hair -
I'm around 3A!

https://flawlesshair.com/different-types-of-curls-curly-hair-type-guide/

Are you using the right methods, products and tools for yours?

Do not brush it when dry - only when full of conditioner.

When you've washed and conditioned it,
squeeze out water (I like a microfibre towel), add your curl cream, then leave it to dry naturally. And do not fiddle with it.

Leave it ALONE till it's dry, then shake it out briefly and leave it.

The curly girl method originally was very simple, with few products, but somehow it's been hijacked and now seems to require numerous products and lots of time.

I just stick with the original method.

Ah - now that looks like mine (or at least like mine ought to look if I could get it to behave).

Are there specifc products you'd recommend? Particularly, which conditioner do you use?

Have you thought about a really short pixie cut?

My hair is a pain in the arse, and so I’ve had a really short cut for the last few years. My life became easier overnight!

Aldi volume conditioner! It’s light and decent amounts of protein plus no silicone

Curly girl method works for me.... the day i wash it

If i wake up in the morning and don't my hair is fit for nothing but tying up

just lurking here…

I generally agree that people are walking on egghshells in society sometimes, but tbh it was unintentionally offensive. Using ‘Afro’ as a descriptor or messy or unruly hair can be upsetting, and is quite dated.

So thank you for taking it on board in your later post. I have type 3 hair but my DD is type 4 and it’s important that we don’t see Afro hair as bad or worthy of mocking.

It takes a while for it to work/ probably about 6 months after stopping straightening for me to get consistently good hair. The wavy hair method on Facebook helped- I don’t follow it exactly but it was a good starting point.

Mine is spiral curls. I’ve tried every product going over the years. I’m currently on Lee Stafford curly conditioner. I find not washing much and brushing product into wet hair then letting it dry naturally is easiest and retains the curl all day.

I wonder if straightening it so much has changed it? I recently straightened mine and it was a disaster, maybe menopause has changed mine, don’t know. Selenium is apparently helpful, I mainline Brazil nuts.

Curly girl method has made my frizzy hair so much curlier - but it is a lot of work and time consuming..!

I didn’t get on with the curly girl method, my hair just felt horrible. I’ve got very thick now fairly long hair which as I’ve grown it has gone into a tighter and tigher curl so I often have ringlets. I’ve experimented and I now stick to:
I use Aussie Moist shampoo and conditioner
A mix of Cantu leave in conditioner and curl cream
Then quickly twist the curls in largish strands. Quick diffuse or my preferred method car blowers on the way to work.
Day 2 I swear by the Cantu curl reviver, spray and retwist the curls and good to go.
Day 3 - if I can’t be bothered to wash, tie it up into a messy bun!

Hair is cut by a fantastic hairdresser who I’ve had for years and understands my hair and how it bounces.

I used to like the Redkin curvaceous ringlet, but they discontinued it and I don’t think it would now be strong enough for my hair.

Do you follow Nuala Morley on instagram? She is a bit of a guru and has talks about styling a lot and what products to use.

I use a curl cream and then a gel. She will show you how to rake/apply both and the best advice I have taken on board is whatever products you use it has to be on soaking wet hair. If you squeeze water/towel dry a bit you will always get frizz. So I put everything on as soon as I get out of the shower and then dry myself, get dressed, do my make up. My hair is only shoulder length so I prefer to let it dry naturally. A hair bonnet is also a good idea but usually I can’t be bothered!

Go and watch a few videos by Nuala!

My hair is probably more very wavy than actually curly but I find FrizzEase Curl Cream applied when towel dry and again when fully dry works really well. I just scrunch it through and leave it.