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SterlingSR · 16/10/2025 21:39

My (now ex) DP has made my life hell since I was about six months pregnant. Baby is now 1.5. He became an alcoholic, I asked him to sleep in a spare room, then he became addicted to porn which culminated in him seeing a prostitute (or probably more). I found out six months ago; he came clean and swore to change, started therapy and AA. For the past three months he’s been addicted to Call of Duty. A few days ago I unplugged it and when he saw, he smashed it to pieces, broke furniture and punched a hole in the wall, whilst screaming insults and threats at me.

I’m getting away as soon as I can. He terrifies me and he will want to harm me for taking away his child - but he’s negligent with her and barely bothers. She hates him.

Am I likely to get a non-molestation order granted?

Can I insist on supervised contact only?

I am absolutely terrified that our child will come to harm as a result of his negligence or because he wants to hurt me. He has EOWE for his older kids but they’ve been primarily looked after by me for years, there’s three of them so safety in numbers and they’re old enough to tell someone if he hurts them. My baby isn’t.

Please tell me we will be protected by the law. I feel like maybe I should stay until she’s older so she never has to be alone with him.

JoMumsnet · 17/10/2025 12:18

Hi SterlingSR,

We're sorry you're going through such a traumatic time.

We can see you're getting lots of good advice and support from other Mumsnetters, and that you've been in contact with the Domestic Violence Helpline but we just thought we'd add some links to more organisations which can give you some support in real life.

First of all, here's a link to our domestic violence webguide.

We'd also urge you to get in touch with Women's Aid.

It's also worth checking out the Freedom Programme - we know it's helped many MNers over the years so please click on the link.

If you do ever feel you're in immediate danger, call 999. If you’re unable to speak to the operator, press 55 to let them know you need help.

We really hope you're okay, OP.

Home - Women's Aid

Women's Aid is a grassroots federation working together to provide life-saving services and build a future where domestic violence is not tolerated.

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

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