Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Fuming with this guy

58 replies

Lucy2586 · 16/10/2025 06:42

So I have been very casually dating a guy for about year, my choice i am a single
parent and my 11 year old comes first and we are going through assessments etc for ASD so he know I am not interested in commitment. I see him once a week usually, he’s good company and a laugh but as I got to know him more ive realised he is so lazy…turn off.

Anyway I had quite a lot of valuable things and decided before Christmas I’d put them on Vinted to help with costs for this Christmas. For some reason it wouldn’t let me add my bank details so I said can I add yours and will you transfer it. I made a sale it wasn’t much money £50 so the money went to him i was with him and I said transfer it over. He said I can’t my bank charges have taken it. I wasn’t happy and I said I want it tomorrow. That was Sunday and he has ignored me since. I am not contacting him again and if he contacts me he’s getting told to piss off. Write the money off. I feel like he’s trying to make out that I am in the wrong for getting mad at him. Also he is a total love bomber, dont think I have ever heard him call me by name just gorgeous and I hate it makes me cringe.

I don’t feel hurt or anything but what an absolute prick. I certainly pick them even in the most casual way. I genuinely want to stay single for good now I am done and happy to be done. I don’t know what happened to decent guys.

OP posts:
Dollymylove · 16/10/2025 10:07

You might have to write off the 50 quid but at least hes shown you his true colours now. You could have ended up with a cock lodger 😬

Original poster
Lucy2586 · 16/10/2025 10:36

Dollymylove · 16/10/2025 10:07

You might have to write off the 50 quid but at least hes shown you his true colours now. You could have ended up with a cock lodger 😬

Exactly. These cocklodgers can be smart.

OP posts:
BauhausOfEliott · 16/10/2025 11:12

This doesn't sound like my idea of 'casually dating' someone to be honest.

Naanspiration · 16/10/2025 11:16

He might be a nice guy ordinarily but he appears to have financial issues.

So either accept that you'll have to pay for everything or move on.

LemonLass · 16/10/2025 11:18

Lucy2586 · 16/10/2025 07:00

Once a week for year doesn’t get much slower than that. He has never given me any reason to think he is not trust worthy in that sense so I am surprised. Obviously like everyone else i am struggling a bit for Christmas and I just think what a shit head he knows why am doing the Vinted thing.

I am not chasing him for the money, if it gets rid of him and his constant overbearing flattery that’s a good thing. At first he seemed to have his shit together but as he’s let his guard down he’s a bit of a slob so I was looking at him differently think he picked up on this and thought I wlll steal her cash on my way out. Twat

Show quote history

Hi @Lucy2586
What a vile thing for him to do (keeping the money). Remove that bank info from Vinted today (if you havent already).

He may come craeling back when he thinks you will be less mad (or forgotten) but he has sjoen his true colours. Urgh!

InAHammock · 16/10/2025 11:24

I think your attitude to this is quite odd, OP. This man has stolen £50 from you just as if he helped himself from your purse. Whether he calls you ‘gorgeous’ or has a gambling problem or not is irrelevant.

Original poster
Lucy2586 · 16/10/2025 12:28

BauhausOfEliott · 16/10/2025 11:12

This doesn't sound like my idea of 'casually dating' someone to be honest.

Doesn’t it? Like I said we were more friends than anything we both knew 100% it would not lead to more than what it is was.

OP posts:
Original poster
Lucy2586 · 16/10/2025 12:33

InAHammock · 16/10/2025 11:24

I think your attitude to this is quite odd, OP. This man has stolen £50 from you just as if he helped himself from your purse. Whether he calls you ‘gorgeous’ or has a gambling problem or not is irrelevant.

Well I said to him before I left you need to put that money in my acct. If he hasn’t got it and chooses to hide away instead what can I do go banging his door down. Thinking about it around my birthday he we all weird and quiet. He kept saying I will get this and that. Now im not too fussed about birthdays but he got me a bottle of Prosecco about 4 days later. Just think he is a bit full
of shit.

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page