Messages unread - AIBU?

[BlueToneTess]

so many of us use what’s app, I have a friend of mine who recently created a what’s app group of friends (couples) but did not include me or another wife, despite the last time she did this she included us both without issue. There followed an invitation which clearly I never saw! Any experience of rude behaviour on social media like this or am I lucky to have it targeted to me ! ?

I'm a bit lost. Did you get an invitation but you missed it?

So whose messages are unread?

No invitation. My husband added to the group. I would’ve expected an invitation…and as for unread messages I’m a bit lost

What was the invitation to? What is the point of the group? Is it possible she just missed adding you?

It is possible that she missed adding me … or couldn’t be bothered?!

The invitation was to a Halloween party

Ah messages unseen….

I mean, I guess you can choose to believe whatever you want. If she's a friend, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt that she thought she added you but didn't. But if you'd prefer to think it's an intentional snub, go ahead.

I would not invite both members of a couple to a party separately; I would think the husband would tell the wife it vice versa.

So is she only inviting your husband to the party? Not sure why you assuming she’s being rude rather than has just missed you be accident

And what do you even mean messages unread? Who’s not read messages from who?

I’d give her benefit of doubt. My husband set up a group recently to organise our group Christmas night out and forgot a couple, not that we don’t like them or anything. Just didn’t realise we hadn’t added them. He added them tonight and that was it!

She’s invited all the wives and husbands except two wives me being one of them.
I’m if it had been me I would’ve been checking the what’s app list, triple checking so as not to offend. Guess it’s just me.

Yeah you are being weird. So have you sent her a message and she’s not read it?

Sorry my title on this is misleading I realise I made a mistake
it should say messages unseen (I never saw them)
maybe I am totally unreasonable
but I wouldn’t have carried on with the group invite without an acknowledgement I missed people

Has anyone actually told her she’s missed people?

My husband added me in …and she knows the other wife is not included (I know from her comment)

So she missed you and your husband added you in, crisis solved? If you don’t like her just don’t go to the party

Did your husband accept the invitation? A reply saying Mrs Bluetone and I are happy to accept/have another engagement seems in order. She's most unlikely to say 'don't bring your wife'.

It’s fair to say no - my husband and I were never going to accept this invitation as we have a longstanding mutual commitment every Halloween. Which our friend knows…

So you know you're not going to a party that you haven't been invited to anyway. Move on then.

Thanks for the comments all - illuminating 😀

I don't get the point of the ellipses here. Are you suggesting that she planned the party for when she did because she knew that you wouldn't be able to come?

You haven’t been invited to a party that you can’t go to anyway. Move on !!

I wish I could say that same about yours you were confused and you were the one who posted

I hate WhatsApp groups so i would have been delighted 😀