Things you wouldn't admit to in real life

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Light hearted. I dislike my mum's boyfriend. I am sick of his constant grunting when i ask him a question. It is like he is incapable of saying yes or no to a simple question. He is a terrible bus driver. He drives like he is on a race track.

I think most mothers feel the same. I also think I haven't been a good wife. It took me years to realise that my husband worked so hard to give us a good life. He'sloyal and kind. I wish I'd appreciated him more. Trying to make up for it now.

I think most mothers feel the same. I also think I haven't been a good wife. It took me years to realise that my husband worked so hard to give us a good life. He'sloyal and kind. I wish I'd appreciated him more. Trying to make up for it now.

I think you're right - I suspect I see it as demonstrating how little my mum really knows me or cares about me. I know it's the thought that counts and I appreciate that she sort-of remembered our anniversary, but she never gets the number of years right (is it really that hard to remember what year your only daughter got married?), and - ironically - when I was little she did teach me that it was good manners always to erase or remove the price from cards.

Why can't she be bothered to do it now, just once in a while, just for me or her son-in-law or her two grandchildren?

I’m obese and don’t give a toss about it! It’s due to double digit miscarriages, lots of steroids, 5 IVF rounds and a successful pregnancy & breastfeeding. My body reflects my experiences. My diet is wholefood plant based, not junk food. I’m not interested in starving myself to be thin, I nourish my body. I could exercise more (I do walk a lot) but it’s dull. I pass all blood/health checks with flying colours. I am strong. I caress my cellulite, it’s part of me. I love myself whatever I look like. So many women are messed up about weight for no reason. It’s super weird to me.

Oh I was with you till then 😂🐱

Slightly unhinged but I wish I had a cryptic pregnancy. After loss and a stressful pregnancy I was slightly jealous that some people didn’t realise they were pregnant until 7/8/9 months along. Obviously unhinged as would be a HUGE shock. Not invalidating anyone at all

Listen, I think overall it’s a good thing and as you’re paying for them yourself, then it’s no cost to the NHS and you’re taking accountability and taking on the finances. That’s all positive and I’m genuinely happy that it’s been life changing for you.

@MermaidMummy06 it's so difficult when they're so pleased with what they've made!

I don't live in the UK, but whenever I go into my local town or even the nearest larger city, the last language I hear is the local language.
I was even asked at a hotel check in, whether I spoke English - I had started off in the local language, naturally - because the person on reception did not speak the local language. Ok, so that was a fairly budget option near a major airport, so the footfall might not necessarily be locals, but it is the same at a large hotel recently taken over by an American company, there are very few native speakers on the staff.

Thanks for explaining. I’m enjoying this thread with all the cross topic conversations. I’d imagine there’s other ways then that you feel not known or attended to by your mum and I’m sad for that. I wonder if she’d respond if you told her it matters to you? But can also imagine how much worse it would feel to name that and not get the response you’d like. And like you say, this is a practice she taught you so not like she’s unaware. In my family anniversary cards are not a thing, cards are generally dying out and for that I’m grateful, and I wonder if your mum may feel like that. But if I knew it meant something important to my child, it would mean something to me. As an aside, I did the love languages quiz on my kids recently and it was so interesting hearing that the way they feel loved isn’t always how I want to/expect to show it.

I stayed with my partner after I discovered he’d been (at the very least) emotionally cheating, discovered about 7 years ago, because I didn’t have the strength to split up. Staying together made the pain go away somehow.

I should’ve left. I don’t love him. He has Parkinson’s disease and I’m totally trapped.

I keep seeing ppl saying this too. It’s propaganda with no evidence or even examples. I have not understood what Reform will do to women specifically. I mean I can see some benefits to women if Reform would miraculously stop and deport. Given the extra SA statistics. Look how Sweden’s and some European countries stats shot up too.

I eat my bogies.

No, we don’t. I always go to the loo before I get in the shower, I hate the idea of peeing in the shower.

Im judging you. Harshly. 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

Sure sure, I'm surprised they can get the medical professionals to commit fraud for them. But you are certain that serious documented mental illness takes up 10% (I never mentioned psychosis, but that is another one of many other serious mental health conditions that need squeezing into that 10%) and the rest of them are inadequate so I must take your word for it, because you know the faults of both systems.

I do wonder if you have ever suffered the agony of mental illness and been told you are inadequate, but you are bothering me immensely so I'm switching off, no need for either of us to debate further.

I went to a women’s hustings in a local by-election, and let me tell you that the Reform candidate did not like being questioned by women. He stood there admitting he didn’t know anything about the questions he was being asked, got frustrated that no one wanted to know about his personal pet topic that he’d written a book on (climate skeptic) and blew his lid and stormed out. I think the question that led to the storming out was something like ‘why have domestic abuse levels never gone down in decades?’ He called us a bunch of man haters and looked like a total fool. I know that’s anecdotal but I’d bet good money there are many more who think like him.

Ok
But that tells us nothing about the policies reform have that would be bad for women.
Which was the original question

I really regret getting married 4 weeks ago and im counting down the days till I can split from my husband and its acceptable

Personally I haven’t read Reform’s policies, because I think your average shouty male Reform voter (like this guy) is of the variety that is happy to claim that asylum seekers etc are rapists because they are brown and we don’t know about them, but completely unwilling to engage with the massive amounts of rape, murder, sexual assault and misogyny perpetrated by white men in this country. That is a far bigger problem in our country than the (also awful) well publicised assaults by asylum seekers or refugees but I don’t see evidence that Reform are going to focus on that first. Happy to be corrected if I’m wrong on that.

I wfh and hardly see anyone bar my DH and children day to day, and I love it. I prefer staying in my house and don't make any effort or have any desire to see people or do stuff - and chit chat kills me. I always shower and dress nicely but no one really sees it. I make it sound like I don't go out, I just much prefer my house and being at home.

Bedtime, quiet and solitude, the earlier the better is my favourite thing ever!

If anything happened to one of my children, im sure I would die. Anyone else I could eventually deal with. I really hope that doesn't upset anyone, not my intention.

Lighter one, Im gluten free because of an intolerance, not coeliac, but I will eat the odd pasty or piece of cake and then get annoyed at myself when I'm in terrible pain or discomfort for days after, still doesn't stop me doing it again.

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To me it would signify lack of care/lack of being bothered about a person - would definitely annoy me if it was a close relative! I have had times when I felt so upset after getting a crap birthday/Christmas present from someone I thought was a good friend/close relative. I have since realised that not everyone is good at gifts and you can't change that but it used to hurt me a lot as it tied into deeper lack of self esteem and feeling that people did not really care about me or value me as a person.

Fair enough, he sounds twatty. He ought to handle himself better. Not sure if that means anything in terms of actual policies.
We’ll have to see.

I find my mother-in-law very difficult to get on with.

I find most people insufferably boring.

These two things are undoubtedly linked, and are definitely me problems. But. Most people are very dull.