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Am I being delusional?

33 replies

Karlaken · 13/10/2025 04:54

Hooked up with a guy out of state about a month ago. Since then we’ve communicated off and on but nothings been consistent except for the couple days right after intimacy. He’ll randomly call and text me. We don’t follow each other on socials but he’ll type my name in on social media and view all my stories and interact with them almost everyday. Nothings been talked about as far as where we stand. Sometimes I’ll get bored and reach out send him funny memes, he always replies. He recently called me and we spent 5 hours on the phone, just chatting and laughing. He suggested that I come with him on a work trip at the end of the month, free of all expenses. I told him I’ll think about it? I just find it weird, why would I go on your work trip with you when we only talk sometimes ? We don’t live in the same state, yet stuff is confusing lol ? He claimed that we both had a lot of chemistry when we met. I am eventually moving to where he lives by the end of the year, it been my dream state for awhile. So no this has nothing to do with him.

is it normal for me to wonder or even reminisce on that night we spent together? Sometimes I think I maybe caught some feelings but I feel like that’s delusional. Sometimes I do feel like I’m being used as a filler or a woman he’s unsure about yet wants to keep in his roaster ?

OP posts:
Harrysmummy246 · 13/10/2025 09:15

Karlaken · 13/10/2025 07:18

What are you talking about ? This is my first post on this site … kinda confused

You know we can check back through your post history right?

TwinklyStork · 13/10/2025 09:31

DarkForces · 13/10/2025 07:09

I dunno. Dh was meant to be a one night stand. It was spectacularly unsuccessful. He's still here quarter of a century later 😂

I think that’s the exception rather than the rule, though!

Spidey66 · 13/10/2025 09:39

Karlaken · 13/10/2025 07:18

What are you talking about ? This is my first post on this site … kinda confused

But you posted a couple of days back about a weird encounter in a nightclub! It’s still showing up on Active Posts. Plus there’s another thread using Karlaken about a guy in another state…..

Blueuggboots · 13/10/2025 09:50

You’re a booty call.

Starlight1984 · 13/10/2025 09:51

He suggested that I come with him on a work trip at the end of the month, free of all expenses. I told him I’ll think about it? I just find it weird, why would I go on your work trip with you when we only talk sometimes ?

Well if you find it weird, don't go. He probably just wants sex on tap away from his wife whilst he's on his "work trip".

Why are you acting all coy on your threads like you've never encountered men before?

BauhausOfEliott · 13/10/2025 10:23

You again?

OP, you fucked this man once and he’s stayed in touch in case you’re available to fuck him again - that’s all. He doesn’t want a relationship with you and you live in different states. This is a non-starter. (I also think it’s quite likely he has a girlfriend local to him.)

You are obviously besotted with him but he doesn’t feel the same way. Your level of obsession isn’t healthy. You need to get a grip and move on. Jeez.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 13/10/2025 10:26

Why do people do this? You must be really bored OP

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