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Private school underperformed I think my friend should get a refund. AIBU?

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Rambler96 · 12/10/2025 19:58

Friends daughter did her A levels at a posh girls school in Shrewsbury and failed to get the grades she needed for her university place. Now all the results are published, it looks like the school has massively underperformed for some reason. I think she should get a refund on some of the fees.

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cantkeepawayforever · 14/10/2025 08:55

twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 08:33

They are not for for profit organisations.

Many of them are inspected by Ofsted. Ofsted which the majority know isn't fit for purpose. You think lawyers can hide things from Ofsted? Give your head a shake.

The whole point of them is that they are independent from the state and thank God for that! I want my child as far away from government interference as possible

I don’t recognise that statistic about private schools and Ofsted.

Do you mean that half of private schools have full graded inspections of all aspects of their education, behaviour, safeguarding, etc etc - ie exactly the same inspections as state schools undergo, so direct comparisons can be made and similar warnings / assurances given?

Or that half have some Ofsted oversight of some aspect of their provision eg basic safeguarding within boarding?

I can believe the latter, but not the former.

cantkeepawayforever · 14/10/2025 08:58

Ah, a quick Google suggests that if Ofsted is involved in private school inspections, it is against a different set of standards.

twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 09:00

cantkeepawayforever · 14/10/2025 08:55

I don’t recognise that statistic about private schools and Ofsted.

Do you mean that half of private schools have full graded inspections of all aspects of their education, behaviour, safeguarding, etc etc - ie exactly the same inspections as state schools undergo, so direct comparisons can be made and similar warnings / assurances given?

Or that half have some Ofsted oversight of some aspect of their provision eg basic safeguarding within boarding?

I can believe the latter, but not the former.

"I don't recognise that statistic" hi Bridget!

I don't care what you recognise or don't, here is the data, just under 50% are inspected by Ofsted.

Are you a Schrodinger's school theorist? That independent schools are purveyors of privilege yet simultaneously have worse teachers, worse outcomes and aren't as rigorously overseen?

Private school underperformed I think my friend should get a refund. AIBU?
BeeKee · 14/10/2025 09:02

twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 09:00

"I don't recognise that statistic" hi Bridget!

I don't care what you recognise or don't, here is the data, just under 50% are inspected by Ofsted.

Are you a Schrodinger's school theorist? That independent schools are purveyors of privilege yet simultaneously have worse teachers, worse outcomes and aren't as rigorously overseen?

How dare you show these people facts. It doesn't work with their rational of "private schools are the worst, private school parents are the devil, private school children are entitled twats, private school teachers are state rejects".

twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 09:02

cantkeepawayforever · 14/10/2025 08:58

Ah, a quick Google suggests that if Ofsted is involved in private school inspections, it is against a different set of standards.

Independent schools don't have to follow national curriculum or all the god awful various fashionable government initiatives and dictats of the day (thank god) so of course they can't be inspected on a like for like basis because they aren't the same as state schools 🙄 I would have thought that was obvious.

twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 09:04

BeeKee · 14/10/2025 09:02

How dare you show these people facts. It doesn't work with their rational of "private schools are the worst, private school parents are the devil, private school children are entitled twats, private school teachers are state rejects".

😆 yes they are so bad that they also manage to confer such privilege and advantage that they must all be closed down.

TrickyD · 14/10/2025 09:14

If the parents had read this on Mumsnet in 2016 they might not have sent their child there.
Shrewsbury High School exam results
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sorry don’t know how to link it.

CompoCompoComp · 14/10/2025 10:13

MagnesiumCitrate63 · 13/10/2025 20:44

Maybe a few issues, but it seems undeniable that the biggest factor was that this was a low-achieving cohort, as their GCSE results show. Their A level results are pretty much exactly in line with their GCSEs in terms of their starkly lower performance compared to previous cohorts. Not much the school can do with that.

This. If those students just weren’t that bright/high achieving/ willing to work, then they weren’t.

CompoCompoComp · 14/10/2025 10:18

TrickyD · 14/10/2025 08:47

Maybe a thick cohort.

Good that they are in a private school and not dragging down the results of state sector kids.

I worked with a bloke who used to tell everyone what he hadn’t had a privileged upbringing even though he went to a famous boarding school because he’d bombed all his exams. So clearly the privilege had had no affect on him…
He certainly had that public school confidence! ‘Hello everyone, despite all the money spent on my education I’m as thick as mince and/or lazy so it didn’t count!’

mindboggled. Particularly as it’s an industry to do with education where colleagues very much valued education, and those who made the most of theirs.

Em1972 · 14/10/2025 11:18

CompoCompoComp · 14/10/2025 08:24

Private schools are businesses and can run how they want. The pupils still sit public exams but other than that… they aren’t regulated by OFSTED unless there’s massive issues ( which private schools with money for lawyers and PR are very good at disguising anyway) but by another ‘independent’ body that only rates private schools and is funded by private schools so…

Wow really??? Is there no independent body that checks what goes on? I mean, what if there were other issues at a private school, say safeguarding concerns, or issues that in a state school would result in some form of disciplinary action? Do the school mark their own homework?

Em1972 · 14/10/2025 11:20

twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 08:33

They are not for for profit organisations.

Many of them are inspected by Ofsted. Ofsted which the majority know isn't fit for purpose. You think lawyers can hide things from Ofsted? Give your head a shake.

The whole point of them is that they are independent from the state and thank God for that! I want my child as far away from government interference as possible

Amazing how rich some of these 'not for profit' companies and their owners are...

twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 11:20

Em1972 · 14/10/2025 11:18

Wow really??? Is there no independent body that checks what goes on? I mean, what if there were other issues at a private school, say safeguarding concerns, or issues that in a state school would result in some form of disciplinary action? Do the school mark their own homework?

Of course not but that PP is highly prejudiced against independent schools so is spouting bollocks

Calliopespa · 14/10/2025 11:23

Rambler96 · 12/10/2025 20:24

Looks like it was a colossal waste of money all the local state schools out performed the school which only had an A*A rate of 18.7 according to the Britannia league table. They are pretty much at the bottom of the table, and a massive drop from the year before. Looks like there were problems at the school.

Maybe some of you are right teaching is better in the state sector???

Yeah well now we get to your "real" post with the point you are really trying to make.

People send their dc to private schools for far broader reasons than purely results.

Em1972 · 14/10/2025 11:24

CompoCompoComp · 14/10/2025 10:13

This. If those students just weren’t that bright/high achieving/ willing to work, then they weren’t.

But what if a lot of the thickos left, and only the ones who did well stayed....???

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 14/10/2025 11:26

Em1972 · 14/10/2025 11:18

Wow really??? Is there no independent body that checks what goes on? I mean, what if there were other issues at a private school, say safeguarding concerns, or issues that in a state school would result in some form of disciplinary action? Do the school mark their own homework?

Many Indis are checked by both
Ofsted and the ISC

JaneEyre40 · 14/10/2025 11:26

Rambler96 · 12/10/2025 19:58

Friends daughter did her A levels at a posh girls school in Shrewsbury and failed to get the grades she needed for her university place. Now all the results are published, it looks like the school has massively underperformed for some reason. I think she should get a refund on some of the fees.

😂😂😂😂😂 that is all.

Em1972 · 14/10/2025 11:27

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 14/10/2025 11:26

Many Indis are checked by both
Ofsted and the ISC

Who are the ISC?

twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 11:29

Em1972 · 14/10/2025 11:27

Who are the ISC?

It is ISI. Independent School Inspectorate.

Private school underperformed I think my friend should get a refund. AIBU?
twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 11:31

Em1972 · 14/10/2025 11:18

Wow really??? Is there no independent body that checks what goes on? I mean, what if there were other issues at a private school, say safeguarding concerns, or issues that in a state school would result in some form of disciplinary action? Do the school mark their own homework?

So as a taxpayer do you want to fund the body which inspects independent schools? If not then who should fund that inspection body?

CompoCompoComp · 14/10/2025 11:32

Em1972 · 14/10/2025 11:18

Wow really??? Is there no independent body that checks what goes on? I mean, what if there were other issues at a private school, say safeguarding concerns, or issues that in a state school would result in some form of disciplinary action? Do the school mark their own homework?

The ISI - funded by private schools - inspects many but just look at the number of private schools who have for years, decades, allowed pupils to be abused & covered it up to protect their own reputation & income - Merchiston, Barrow Wood, Ampleforth, St Pauls, Godolphin... and the list goes on and on and on.
I know of two families who have left well-known privates for state because of horrendous bullying that the schools did absolutely zero about, preferring instead to have the victims leave to protect their reputation and because the bullies were 'established' in that school.

twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 11:34

CompoCompoComp · 14/10/2025 11:32

The ISI - funded by private schools - inspects many but just look at the number of private schools who have for years, decades, allowed pupils to be abused & covered it up to protect their own reputation & income - Merchiston, Barrow Wood, Ampleforth, St Pauls, Godolphin... and the list goes on and on and on.
I know of two families who have left well-known privates for state because of horrendous bullying that the schools did absolutely zero about, preferring instead to have the victims leave to protect their reputation and because the bullies were 'established' in that school.

So again, do you want to fund the body who inspects them? I'm 100% you wouldn't be happy to find out that your taxes are going to fund the ISI??

In that case, who should fund them?

twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 11:36

Funny how no PP can tell me how ISI should be funded..........

It's no more incestuous than a state funded body inspecting a state funded body.

CompoCompoComp · 14/10/2025 11:37

twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 11:31

So as a taxpayer do you want to fund the body which inspects independent schools? If not then who should fund that inspection body?

yes, quite frankly, when it comes to the safety and education of UK children then that absolutely should be managed for private schools the same way as it is for state schools.
That's how taxes work, love. I have several childless friends who's taxes are funding schools they won't ever use for their own offspring, I'm paying towards a state pension that I would say it's quite likely I'll never get to have, or not for long anyway. My taxes go into a benefit system that I haven't received a penny from, and hopefully won't ever really need to...

BrownTroutBluesAgain · 14/10/2025 11:39

twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 11:29

It is ISI. Independent School Inspectorate.

Thanks twisty yes I meant the ISI

The ISC is the Independent Schools Council @Em1972

twistyizzy · 14/10/2025 11:41

CompoCompoComp · 14/10/2025 11:37

yes, quite frankly, when it comes to the safety and education of UK children then that absolutely should be managed for private schools the same way as it is for state schools.
That's how taxes work, love. I have several childless friends who's taxes are funding schools they won't ever use for their own offspring, I'm paying towards a state pension that I would say it's quite likely I'll never get to have, or not for long anyway. My taxes go into a benefit system that I haven't received a penny from, and hopefully won't ever really need to...

The whole point of independent schools is in the name ie they are independent from the state!

That's what I love.

You are bleeding deluded if you don't think they have stringent safeguarding controls. All boarding schools are inspected under Ofsted for Safeguarding!

The bullying example you gave could easily be from a state school too. 1 or 2 experiences do not = whole sector.
At our local state a child had their hair set on fire by a other pupil, I don't use that to ascribe to all the state schools in the country.

You obviously have a huge boulder on your shoulder about independent schools but that's your issue.