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Carveries are the work of the devil

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Soontobe60 · 07/10/2025 21:20

DH and I decided to go to a Carvery after looking after the grandchildren,Daren earlier this evening. It’s on the way home and meant we wouldn’t get stuck in commuter traffic. I’ve not been to one for years!
The one we chose, a Toby carvery, is just next to the motorway slip road. There were about 4 cars on the car park and a couple of tables were occupied; mainly it was empty. We stood waiting for 5 minutes until someone came to see to us, asked us if we had a booking and said that as we hadn’t they couldn’t serve us as they only had enough food for the reservations they already had. It was 5.15 on a Tuesday evening!
When we walked out and sat in the car laughing, we realised we reeked of cooking fat and boiled cabbage 😳. Looking at the building we saw it was basically falling down - I think we had a lucky escape.
there was another Carvery a few 100 yards further on so we went there. No problem getting a table, no horrible smells, all looked nice and well kept. Clean toilets (very important!!). DH ordered a bean burger and chips - he’s veggie and wont touch a carvery - and I went to get my food. It wasn’t great, but wasn’t inedible - soggy veg, mushy roasts and gloopy mash, but tasty meat and gravy.
DHs on the other hand was very much inedible. A stale bun that shattered as he cut through it, a bean burger that seemed to have been stored unwrapped in the freezer for weeks so was rock hard, uncut table and certainly inedible. It was the colour of uncooked pastry! (maybe they had used butter beans). Chips were very undercooked and soggy.
I took the plate back and the staff were very apologetic, refunding the meal instantly. He ended up having cheese on toast for tea. I’m gutted - I was so looking forward to a tasty mid week meal!

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caringcarer · 07/10/2025 23:26

I rather like a Toby Carvery. The one close to me is good. I always book a few days in advance. I sometimes go with my DS and lunch time if he has a day off mid week. I like their honeycombe ice cream dessert too.

5foot5 · 07/10/2025 23:29

We stood waiting for 5 minutes until someone came to see to us, asked us if we had a booking and said that as we hadn’t they couldn’t serve us as they only had enough food for the reservations they already had. It was 5.15 on a Tuesday evening!

You know what? I think this is actually a good sign.

Presumably on Sundays they know they will get loads of business so they will lay on plenty.

Midweek not so much so they cook pretty much to order. If everything was available on spec all the time you would have to wonder how long they were keeping it warm.

Balhambanana · 07/10/2025 23:31

Personally I have a problem with the congealed condiments so I can not do a carvery as I always stumble at this hurdle 🤢 .

limescale · 07/10/2025 23:43

Emori · 07/10/2025 23:18

Also, are both of your grandchildren called Daren?

😂👦👦

InTheWindow · 07/10/2025 23:43

Took 10 year old DD to a carvery when we had a weekend away recently. If was close to our hotel so I could have a glass of wine and seemed a good way for her to try some meat if she wanted to as I’m vegetarian. It was perfectly decent food, at a very good price. Plenty of veggie options for me, DD stuck to veggie stuff too. A good way to get lots of veg when eating out.

InTheWindow · 07/10/2025 23:46

Staff at the one we went to were lovely too.really patient with DD struggling to choose and even called me to let me know I’d left my umbrella.

No33 · 07/10/2025 23:54

CandyRuby · 07/10/2025 21:36

Erm I think you will find Toby carvery is doing £6 carvery this week so it would be fully booked, you can’t get a table at my local this week for that reason.

What!? Where??? Can't find that anywhere

Classiccar1 · 08/10/2025 00:40

I think you have to sign up for their loyalty card to get offers, I've received the £6 one this week. They send out lots of offers so we use them to meet up with friends. Oh and the honeycomb ice cream dessert is lovely!

seaelephant · 08/10/2025 01:17

You literally picked something out that one half of you doesn't eat anyway???? That is so very very bizarre

BlueberryLatte · 08/10/2025 07:53

SpidersAreShitheads · 07/10/2025 23:22

Yes, pretty sure they do everything. Here's a couple of links about how they make their Yorkshire puddings and roast potatoes from scratch.

I'm not actually a massive fan of their roast potatoes but I love their veg, meat, pigs in blankets, and gravy.

Interestingly, we have two Toby carveries near us and what's included - veg and meats - are always very different in each one. There's definitely not a universal approach, which again suggests that things are done by hand in-house.

https://www.tobycarvery.co.uk/about/news/wonky-yorkies#/

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/weird-news/i-work-toby-carvery-heres-29013156

Hmm not sure that says what sort of oil is used or if they coat the potatoes in anything. It doesn't mention Yorkshire pudding or gravy and also says they have to be made "at an industrial level" due to having to make so many.

I am not going to a carvery in this lifetime....unless I am forced to, in some weird scenario where I am kidnapped by a carvery obsesses maniac and frog marched into Toby's...so no skin off my nose. But I wouldn't assume you're getting an unprocessed meal if that's genuinely why people go there.

popcornandpotatoes · 08/10/2025 07:57

Honestly I've been to a Toby carvery once and there was a large man sitting opposite us with his shirt fully unbuttoned and belly resting on legs. Good grief

EnchantedToMeetYou2 · 08/10/2025 08:04

We visited a TC for the first time a few weeks ago and I certainly wouldn’t hurry back. The carvery station was an absolute mess with food everywhere and nobody even attempting to keep it under control.

On the other hand we have a local restaurant that has a carvery on a Sunday and it’s always absolutely delicious 🤷🏻‍♀️ always fresh and piping hot, small dishes of things so being constantly replenished 😊

limescale · 08/10/2025 08:07

popcornandpotatoes · 08/10/2025 07:57

Honestly I've been to a Toby carvery once and there was a large man sitting opposite us with his shirt fully unbuttoned and belly resting on legs. Good grief

I would have raised that with the staff - he was no appropriately dressed.

LlynTegid · 08/10/2025 08:09

I think you have just been unlucky where you are, it is a bit hit and miss.

ReceiveIt · 08/10/2025 08:09

No good food exists on the side of a motorway.

Mydogisagentleman · 08/10/2025 08:16

We don't have a Toby anywhere near us.
Our DD is in Nottingham and we generally go to one there.
It's great. All proper veg, nothing frozen, and brilliant Yorkshire puddings.
I love it

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 08/10/2025 08:16

Near the motorway is your issue.

They likely exist to serve passing traffic, they don't need good chefs, most visitors will be one and done, not repeat custom. They're also on very antisocial hours in those locations, so tend towards staff who need to take what jobs they can get.

The Toby Carvery near us is next to a business park, so depends on repeat custom from workers there, and is therefore very good. Likewise the one near my in-laws which is the cheap option next to a posh suburb.

I don't know why people fuss about the buffet element, most parts of a roast can be kept warm as you coordinate at the end, and I've never been to a carvery that wasn't replenished regularly.

FortuneFaded · 08/10/2025 08:18

BlueberryLatte · 08/10/2025 07:53

Hmm not sure that says what sort of oil is used or if they coat the potatoes in anything. It doesn't mention Yorkshire pudding or gravy and also says they have to be made "at an industrial level" due to having to make so many.

I am not going to a carvery in this lifetime....unless I am forced to, in some weird scenario where I am kidnapped by a carvery obsesses maniac and frog marched into Toby's...so no skin off my nose. But I wouldn't assume you're getting an unprocessed meal if that's genuinely why people go there.

Edited

I too would only be there under the same circumstances. Perhaps we need a special signal so we can help each other escape?

ThisCanFuckOffToo · 08/10/2025 08:20

I love a carvery but DH thinks they’re the work of the devil 😭😭

BlueberryLatte · 08/10/2025 08:22

FortuneFaded · 08/10/2025 08:18

I too would only be there under the same circumstances. Perhaps we need a special signal so we can help each other escape?

Yes! OK, here's what we do - if you're at a Toby's under duress, unbutton your shirt and let your belly rest on your legs. Wait a minute...

DoinFineIThink · 08/10/2025 08:23

You lost me at you came out "reeking of cooking fat and boiled cabbage." 🙄
After 5 minutes. Yeah, ok. Biscuit

CuriousKangaroo · 08/10/2025 08:23

Judging every single carvery on one you didn’t eat at and one you didn’t like is really odd.

LacedRedBoots · 08/10/2025 08:24

Carveries are in the same category as all-inclusive holidays for me. Never been to one and no desire to ever go to one.

TypeyMcTypeface · 08/10/2025 08:28

I'm not a fan. The quality of the food can vary, as with any restaurant, but for me the point of going to a restaurant is to sit back and relax while my various courses are brought to me at my table. I don't want to be standing in queues carrying a plate around. I've also found that they tend to expect people to fill up on mounds of indifferent Yorkshire puddings, so they can get away with not giving you much meat!

CuckooPond · 08/10/2025 08:30

Like a couple of pps, I’m more intrigued as to why you went to not one but two carveries in the same evening when one of you is a vegetarian who ‘won’t touch a ‘carvery’.

Not to mention why you thought anywhere off a motorway would be serving good food.