To be offended by this term?

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Following the news that the BBC has banned the terms "sweetheart" and "mate" due to them being offensive, AIBU for being offended when the barman at my local pub refers to me as "Young lady"? I'm 47f and look it, married and the lad in question is far younger.

AIBU for feeling annoyed by this and should I consider starting a petition to ban all nicknames in the bar, specifically "ducky" , "love" and "darlin'"?

I have read this as if you are being sarcastic.....please be being sarcastic 🙏🙏🙏

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I sense a flippant tone to your post so I'm not sure whether YABU or YANBU!

I'd just say that intention is everything. I often call people 'love', but to me that's just a mildly affectionate northern term that you tag onto the end of requests or questions to make them sound less bossy.

Recently it's occurred to me that people in the south might find it patronising or even sarcastic, I don't know.

However - a much younger man calling me 'Young lady' would really grind my gears.

Wow. Zoe Ball is going to struggle to keep her job! 😂😂

Ok I am being entirely satirical. Btw in no way am I offended by the barman calling me young lady, no offence intended, none taken!

I find it ridiculous so many people are apparently so offended by things that either don't affect them or mean so little in the big scheme of things, and simply seem to find joy in spreading negativity! I don't care if someone calls me by name or whatever, being given a term of endearment is nice in this day and age.

There's worse things to get called!

Friggers! They should come to where I live...everyone is either "Pet" "Petlamb" or "Man"

Often, there are good reasons underlying these decisions, bullying cloaked as 'banter'/a 'term of affection' in the workplace is one that comes to mind

www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5421930-being-called-darlingaw-bless-by-nursing-staff

So 30 seconds of googling have revealed there is no 'ban'. It's a part of non-mandatory sexual harassment training which suggests these terms are not professional. A small part of a presumably multiple choice online quiz.

It's also a small part of a big picture of teaching people what sexual harassment is - not helpful/petty in isolation but all of the small stuff could add up to make someone uncomfortable. I think it's important to keep talking about it.

Noone is stopping you from calling friends you have at work what you like. Best to just apply common sense and not believe all the hyperbole in the rags.

In parts of the Westcountry, you'll quite often be called 'my lover'.

That was a bit of a shock to 10 year old me when I first moved there.

Try working in a school. I got called bro and mate today, by female teenagers. When I said I am neither your mate or your bro, up go the eyebrows and they look at me as if I am on another planet, which I obviously am. Under my trousers today I had nice nude support leggings (sarcastic) as I had my veins blasted on Saturday. One caught a glimpse and said ‘ what the frig have you got on your legs?’ I calmly said I had my veins done, again the face of horror. Can you imagine?

My 17 year old ds has been calling me young lady and bro for about three years now.

What’s gone wrong with people that they take their huffiness so seriously, though? As if ‘being offended’ wasn’t a sign of having a stick up your arse.

I absolutely love terms of endearment. Especially ‘love’. Calling someone ‘love’ or ‘cocker’ in my neck of the woods is as common as calling you by your name and I am all for it!

Haha, don't go to Cardiff then - butt is a term of endearment!!

I came on to say this. An elderly tractor driver call me "moi loverrr" the other day when I stepped out of his way on a path - made my day! They also call women of all ages "maid", which I like too.

Wait, what’s offensive about being called MATE!?!