To think that my friend was a CF with restaurant discount?

[LeslieRunner]

I went for dinner with my friend on Saturday. She moved away from our local area about a year ago - the restaurant we went to she used to go to quite regularly because it was near where she worked, and the staff recognised her.

When the bill was provided, the manager said she’d removed the cost of my friends meal (they always used to use each others businesses) and my friend was really grateful.

When we go out, we always split the cost proportionate to what we each picked. The discount for my friends meal came to over £50. So with the final bill, all she had to pay was her half of the wine we shared, and I had to pay for my meal plus my share of the wine which came to over £60.

I haven’t said this to her, but I feel like my friend could have passed some of the discount on to me and offered to pay a greater share. I would definitely have done similar…

Meh, she got her meal for free, you would have paid that much regardless. I couldn’t get bothered by it.

She went out expecting to pay £60 quid.
She had a surprise £50 discount because of a historic acquaintance (it says they use to use each others businesses - not that she'd done 3 h tutoring in return for a meal).

Most people would be really happy to share their good fortune with a friend (except some on here, obvs).

No, she built a relationship with that restaurant and she's been rewarded for that. It didn't result in an extra cost to you. Suppose she'd used loyalty points or a gift voucher a friend had given her to pay her share - you wouldn't expect her to then pay part of your share on top. It amounts to the same thing.

Yes it would have been the decent thing to split the remaining bill so you both got a cheap meal and would be what I would have done.

I agree with you. She got a lovely freebie meal while you had to stump up so she could enjoy it.
We get vouchers through Amex and take friends and always share. I can’t imaging spending £150 voucher and expecting them to spend the same.

you could have gone somewhere different.

was it her choice

I’d probably have paid the full cost of the wine but not halved your meal cost

Personally I would have went halfers on the discounted balance but I am a kind considerate person.

I would have been chuffed and probably say something like " how fab, let's split it so we can both save some money today "
She's not technically a CF but not a proper friend imo.

She wasn’t in the wrong but it would have been a nice gesture to share her discount.

She wasn't cheeky as such, since her actions didn't result in you having to pay more. It was a bit tight-fisted though. I presume that as she expected to pay around £60 that she's not on the bones of her arse. It would have been more gracious to share the discount with you.

She wasn’t entitled to a discount from the restaurant no, but that’s not what’s being discussed.

Personally I’d have split the total bill in half. I do get that her me was free but I’d feel like a tight arse not sharing the discount

Wowsers, what a tightarse. I would totally have split the remaining bill with you, because I’m not a twat.

I’d have halved the rest of the bill with you

Personally I would take any voucher or in this case reduction off and then split the bill. Both would win

I don’t think she’s been a CF but I couldn’t have accepted the discount just for myself and would have just said to my friend let’s split the remainder. What she did sounds a bit tight.

Her free meal was a gift to her from the manager. Not a discount. So no, in your place I wouldn't have expected her to share her gift with me.

On the other hand in her place, I'd have felt very awkward not, at the very least, paying for your wine.

If I was in the place of the restaurant manager/friend of your friend, I'd want my gift to her to be enjoyed by your friend, not you.

I can't imagine this happening to me and not splitting the discount with my friend. I'd view her as incredibly tight-arsed and miserly after this tbh.

She hasn't set foot in the restaurant for a year and she accepted a free meal? She's a CF.

Op isn't being tight. They got a discount off their bill and the friend decided to keep that discount for herself. Embarrassing

Tbh most people likely wouldn’t make a big deal out of it. Unless OP and friend usually always split the total meal cost straight down the middle - which most friends don’t, they usually pay for their own meals - then what’s the big deal?

I’d be happy for my friend that the staff remembered her and surprised her with a free meal. I wouldn’t be secretly calling her a CF because I didn’t benefit from her ‘good fortune’! 😅

Technically she's not wrong. T was her discount. I'd have split it equally with you.

I think its a really odd thing to do. I'd have just split whatever the remaining cost was after the discount if I'd received one. But I'm not tight.

She's not much of a pal @LeslieRunner