To have cautioned against this?

[Mumbloggingethics]

My sister had her first baby a few months back and has started a mum blogger Instagram page.

I have really strong feelings about this in terms of children’s privacy and the impact the account can have - the mum bloggers I used to follow seemed addicted to likes, and the time with their kids they thought the page could finance became ‘content creating time’ with the kids constantly forced to do things or wear things they didn’t want to for ads. Quite a few have had to come off at regular intervals ‘for their mental health’ after a stream of negative comments. It seems a low profile page without disclosing private information just isn’t possible once the following grows.

I explain the above to her and cautioned her against it. She sent back a one word reply and is obviously annoyed, but I felt it had to be said.

AIBU?

She's excited about it, and you've shot it down. Even if she later listens to your advice she was never going to be happy to hear it in the moment.

Mind your Beeswax maybe ?

I don't think YABU for saying it. But now it's said, you need to leave it, don't let it become an ongoing issue. It's her choice.

YANBU at all, but the reality is she probably won't get that many followers. So it will probably fizzle out sooner rather than later. It is awful though, even if she only has a few hundred followers, that's still hundreds of strangers who shouldn't be seeing photos of her baby.

Yes my approach was just to say my piece once then leave it.

You've said your peace that's all you can do.

She'll soon learn that some people can be vicious when behind a screen.

I would never be a mummy blogger. I agree with you re children's privacy. But yabu to raise this with her unless you did so extremely subtly. Clearly you didn't as you've upset her. You do need to keep your nose out - they are not your children

What was the "one word" response? Was it "whatever"?

I would have probably given a ruder 2 word one on account of it being none of your business.

I agree with you, but the kind of people who would start a ‘mummy blogger’ page wouldn’t understand it at all

obviously what you said was correct, and it was brave of you to say it. If I were you I’d at some point make it clear that there is no shame in reversing out of blogging if it turns out not to be enjoyable, so that she doesn’t feel doggedly stuck with her decision!

I wholeheartedly agree OP. This modern day phenomenon baffles me. The baby or child in question cannot have an understanding of their image being used for these purposes or consent to it.
I've said this before, but the joke when I was younger was that my parents would get the family photo albums when I brought a boyfriend home to show him - that joke is no longer relevant because these children have every single moment documented online for the masses from birth. If my parents had done this to me when I was a child I would be furious and quite likely would not speak to them (and I have very lovely, caring parents).

YANBU. Anyone who puts their children on social media is unwise at best and if actively using them as content/revenue, just downright disgusting.

Did she ask for your piece?

YANBU, especially when you look at at the viewing stats for these mummy bloggers 🤮

But you've said what you need to, and she isn't heeding sensible advice so you just need to leave her to it unfortunately.

You sound quite hypocritical if you enjoyed following all that rubbish in the past.

Perhaps that's the problem here?

Why? That’s how I found out all the ethical issues myself.

Does she need to? Should nobody ever give advice to anyone unless explicitly asked for it? Isn’t familial concern valid?

Well, I agree with your opinion but I think you should have kept it to yourself, so YANBU and also YABU 😵‍💫

Because you're the sort of person who clearly enjoys that shite, the same as she does.

You've now gone off it and she hasn't 🤷‍♂️

You can't have been stupid enough not to see that it's an invasion of children's privacy right from the start.

And I expect she knows that.

If I enjoy it why have I gone off it? You’re really annoyed at me, so just spell it out.

Hah, this is how I feel myself hence asking.

Ultimately I thought it was worth saying just because with many mum bloggers I wonder who the fuck is having a gentle word about them posting pics of their kids in hospital beds/in swimwear etc and then realise nobody is; because ‘be kind, don’t judge, beak out’

Unless someone asks for your advice, you can safely assume they neither want nor need it, and it’s not welcome.

That’s the case with many many decisions parents make, juice or no juice, screen time or no screen time, unless a parent had explicitly asked for your opinion on something they do with their own child, just keep your thoughts to yourself.

Your approach! Really your approach!

What has it got to do with you?

You'd have had a dam site ruder response from me than a one word answer.

Where do you think you get off OP cautioning her against such a thing??

I'm waiting to carve my roast beef and just killing time lol.

I've already spelled it out why she probably thinks you're being hypocritical.

But I’ve never been a mum blogger? You’re not making any sense.