To have cautioned against this?

[Mumbloggingethics]

My sister had her first baby a few months back and has started a mum blogger Instagram page.

I have really strong feelings about this in terms of children’s privacy and the impact the account can have - the mum bloggers I used to follow seemed addicted to likes, and the time with their kids they thought the page could finance became ‘content creating time’ with the kids constantly forced to do things or wear things they didn’t want to for ads. Quite a few have had to come off at regular intervals ‘for their mental health’ after a stream of negative comments. It seems a low profile page without disclosing private information just isn’t possible once the following grows.

I explain the above to her and cautioned her against it. She sent back a one word reply and is obviously annoyed, but I felt it had to be said.

AIBU?

My nephew’s intact privacy?

She’s given me advice over the years, which I’ve taken on board. I like to think families can do that, otherwise what’s the point if you don’t look out for each other?

Not your circus, not your monkeys!

Intact privacy - come on! Get over yourself

Was it advice that you had specifically asked her for? I think unasked for judgement advice is a different issue.

But you wanted to say your piece and you have. Can you now make peace with her potentially not following your advice and continuing to do what she wants even if you disagree? Otherwise it'll probably drive you mad.

One good way might be to not follow her on SM. What you don't see cannot annoy you.

Dear God 🙄

You enjoyed the mummy bloggers for a period of time.

You used the mummy bloggers for your own entertainment.

You added to their clicks and therefore their income for your own entertainment.

Now you're pretending you didn't know immediately that they were violating their children's privacy.

This is why she'll see you as a hypocrite.

If I could find a packet of crayons, I'd spell it out in colour for you.

Yes, I did.

Then I saw how it unfolded and unfollowed.

Trying to make out I’m being judgey while mainlining mum blog content is hilarious.

Your hilarious will be your sister's hypocritical I guess.

You saw how it 'unfolded' rather than immediately unfollow the women who were violating their kid's privacy for your entertainment.

Now you've outgrown it, you've got a problem with your sister being one of your past entertainers.

I expect she'll outgrow it too in her own time.

Meanwhile, most sensible people don't follow bloggers who exploit their own children, because they know from the very start that it's wrong.

Have you been drinking wine?

That’s just rude btw.

Support her in her ideas. Ask questions if you must. Be there for her if it goes wrong.

Keep all your other thoughts to yourself.

Being close family doesn’t give you the right to piss on someone’s parade. Be kind ffs.

It’s not being kind to support ideas you truly believe to be harmful - it’s being weak and afraid

yiu have said your piece and just have to ignore it now

God, calm down.

She's speaking out on behalf of her niece/nephew, whose privacy is being infringed by their mother's actions. I don't think OP is wrong to point it out at all. The baby can't speak for him/herself. There should be laws about this kind of thing and probably will be one day.

Also it's damn, sight, and there is no need to get so upset about the word "approach."

That's silly. I used to post my son's pic on Instagram many years ago when this stuff wasn't as clear, so my friends could see what we were up to. I subsequently realised that his digital footprint is up to him to control when he is old enough, not me. People are allowed to change their minds and become better-informed over time.

Exactly -
I agree with OP but unless asked, I’d have kept Shtum,

Honestly if I were making the mistake and it ‘all went wrong’ as you inevitably think it will, I would be annoyed none of my nearest and dearest thought to warn me and instead just watched. Do you think nobody should give advice, ever?

Come on OP, Be Kind! Tut tut. Never say anything that could make someone feel anything but positive!

You were right to speak up - your sister’s child is your blood relation, and if your sister is doing something that puts that child at risk of harm then it is important to advocate for that child. Unfortunately it is now so normalised for people to live their lives on social media, and to narcissistically believe that their child is their possession, no one can really see the harm. I guess everyone thinks Ruby Franke was just a bad apple…..and that kids that later sue their parents for on line content of them as kids are over sensitive……