If you go into court with what you've said here you will not come out well.
You are 'hostile to contact' and this is one thing I wish my solicitors had told me when I refused contact for my child. The contact schedule given to my ex was the absolute most they could have. My solicitor said they'd not seen as much contact granted previously. I refused contact right to the last minute but should have been advised that this would not make me look good and was not reasonable.
The threshold is very high for no contact. It's a direct threat to THAT specific child.
Nothing less. Nothing less. He could have abused a different child and still get contact. That's how things are now.
If you have evidence he is a direct threat to your child, you can refuse contact.
If you don't you can't and shouldn't.
I went through family court for 2 years. I've learned a lot.
You really should offer him contact at your home with the child.
Ask him what schedule he finds reasonable.
Say what schedule you find reasonable.
Ask to attend mediation to work out the differences.
If he's abused you then you can fill out a C1A with your response to his contact request. Judge may order a hearing to determine which allegations are found. Judge will only do this for the allegations which pose a direct threat to the child.
In my case coersive control was disregarded. Judge wanted to know about some sexual allegations and some violence allegations. None were found because they were not backed by convincing evidence. This is on both sides.
Judge doesn't give a single crap if he was mean to you, controlling of you, etc. etc.
Judge cares only if the person is a proven direct risk to the specific child with whom they seek contact.
Feel free to PM me but you need to change your attitude or you will greatly regret it.