Do you have a best friend/best friends?

[Margaretbaxter]

I don't, just want to know how normal this is, I'm mid 30s.
I have a friend/former colleague, some days we text a lot but then if she's busy I hear nothing for a few weeks. We live close by and I see her once a month on average.

I have another friend who I text with most days, she's also local but I only see her every couple of months.

Aside from this, I don't have any friends I regularly talk to. I do have someone I consider a good friend, I don't hear from her often but it's completely understandable as she has a range of physical and mental health issues including a personality disorder, so I completely understand why its sporadic.

Other than this, I am usually the one to reach out, I get polite responses but they aren't ever the ones who reach out first, and they will stop responding. I am the one who arranges any meetups unless it's a large event.

This makes me sad, I don't know if this is normal. I get people are busy but most people seem to have a group of close friends they can rely on.

I have a best friend and we’ve been ‘together’ for over 30 years. Met at primary school. We’ve had periods where we’re closer than others and our lives have gone in different directions at times but we’ve got each other’s backs and I know we could depend on each other if we needed to. I also have another three very close friends who I don’t see as much as we’d all like because of distance but the same goes as with the first one. We support each other. We don’t go back as far as with my best friend which I why I consider we are closer.

I find it quite sad to hear that people don’t understand best/close friendships. Mine are very important to me.

Zero friends

I love him dearly, he's been around 25+ years. We hit it off straight away, the moment we sat next to each other in training. These days we don't see each other as often as we used to, due to work and life, but I know he's always there.