To have told my nearly five year old to be quiet when watching a film?

[dogwithahat]

This evening I put Room on the Broom on for my children. DS is just talking incessantly all the way through it and after a couple of polite requests I told him that it was rude and if he didn’t want to watch it I’d turn it off.

I feel like it was a bit harsh but I desperately needed him to stop talking for a while.

So you have other children who were trying to watch it? Of course he needs to be quiet as he's ruining their enjoyment. He can find something else to do if he can't keep quiet. You're going to say he's 14 now arent you?

I would have said "if you don't want to watch go and play in your room".

Was he talking about the film? If no other dc affected I would go with that, shows engagement. But of course people shouldn't talk over films.

My two year old is watching it but it’s more the incessant talk from him I had to stop. I know it’s hard as we generally don’t watch films in absolute silence but no one talks ALL the way through either (do they?!) And I don’t think he’d get that nuance. So I just had to go down the ‘don’t talk!’ route.

Worked for ten minutes and the interjections are starting again. Sigh.

Was he talking about the film?
Was he disturbing the others?

Or was it just that you wanted your excited 5 year old to shut the fuck up even though he was excited about what he was telling you and you wanted to invalidate his excitement because it was a bit inconvenient for you?

Did it work? Did he stop talking?

You did nothing wrong - it IS rude to talk through a film.

When mine did this I used to turn the TV off immediately and say "sorry love, I couldn't hear you with the TV on, what did you say?". And they'd repeat it and then I'd turn the TV back on. You only have to do this 2 or 3 times and they get the message.

He was but it was kind of .,, nonsense. Burbling things like ‘mummy that dragon is called … he is called … the dragon is called Everly and he is a red Zog.’

Don't be that guy. No-one likes that guy.

It what way was it harsh? Not talking through a film is general manners. Though I wouldn't have threatened to turn it off if someone else was watching. He can leave if he doesn't want to watch it

Fuck me is it a full moon tonight? They're all out.

you wanted your excited 5 year old to shut the fuck up even though he was excited about what he was telling you and you wanted to invalidate his excitement because it was a bit inconvenient for you?

Well. Yes. 😂

I am a good, attentive and kind parent but I won’t lie, I really DID need him to STFU for a while!

Talking through films isn't OK

But neither is shitting on someone else's excitement because they're talking too much for you

Poor kid

So we agree that telling someone to stop talking is OK, so I’ve no idea what you think I’ve done wrong here!

Actually, scratch that, don’t engage with the troll.

YANBU. It's rude to talk through a film and five is plenty old enough to learn that.

I've taken DC to the theatre from about 2.5 and I explain to them that they need to be quiet during the show and reinforce that throughout.

Learning that not everyone wants to hear you all the time is vital...and appears to be a social skill that a lot of people no longer have so well done for teaching your DC.

Yes do this with GC. Pause TV/film let them comment if it's relevant fine, if not remind them everyone watching the programme & not to interrupt if not relevant. If they're not interested, then go to do something else.

Though often have to do this with DH as well 😂

Do you run every parenting choice through a forum? I mean come on.

You're absolutely right in your first line.

And that remains true no matter how excited you are.

Your excitement doesn't make talking through a film not rude.

The good news for the OP's five year old is that he now knows that while you've only just found that out presumably as an adult. If only your parents were as good at teaching social skills as the OP!

If I’m sitting down, I’m holding my phone, and I’m wondering something, what’s the problem?

Do you answer every thread you don’t approve of like that? I mean, come on.

I mean 😂

Did he settle down he probably needs to switch off tbf and reset, asking,/telling him to be quiet is no bad thing.

Had he seen it before or did he know the book?
Sounds like he was just narrating it.
My daughter was a similar age when she basically had to learn that her inner dialogue has to stay inner.

Sounds like OP only put the film on to shut him up though

Which is why I feel sorry for him

I know he is at home but he can't chat through his teacher at school telling or a story or watching something at school they do need to learn to listen.

The part where you don't want him to be quiet because it's rude but because he's talking too much for your liking