Last year I booked a lovely short trip to London just before Christmas. We went to a show, ice skating, had a great time. The show was the Nutracker ballet. H said at the time that it was ‘the most boring shit he’d ever sat through’ and wouldn’t go again.
The kids had a great time. In spring I asked him if he wanted to do it again this year. He said yes, London was ok but he wouldn’t go see ‘that tight pants shit’ again, which I assumed was the ballet. I duly booked a different show and told him.
Today I was reminding him of the date we are going and he claimed to know nothing of this, states that he refused to go anyway, he hates London, hated the show, why on earth did I book it? He’s not going because he doesn’t want to. I pointed out that having their father absent may lessen the magic of the season for the children, to which he answered ‘yeah but I don’t want to go.’
I asked him to confirm that he definitely doesn’t want to go. Was it just the show? He could go shopping whilst we go to the show, and still have the rest of the trip with the kids? Plus, it will make it all so much more of a mission for me doing alone with three DC.
He said no. He already told me he doesn’t want to go to that shit place, why did I book it, he doesn’t think he’ll have any fun so he’ll stay home thanks.
Now, there’s a good chance that he will think better of this nearer the time and want to join us. But if I want a refund, I need to cancel his tickets now. In the past, I would have tried to convince him but I’m a bit knackered of all that now.
Should I just cancel his side of the trip?
YABU - don’t cancel the tickets, he will come round, try bring the family together, cancelling them will be petty.
YANBU - cancel the tickets as requested, leave him home to look after the pets, go without him.