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To think this is bad neighbour etiquette?

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cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 10:15

So when it’s bin day obviously the bins once emptied are just dumped wherever. Next doors (semi detached) has two bins and both were left blocking my driveway on the pavement.

This was yesterday morning and they still haven’t come and moved them.

They really are petty people.

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Ciderapplevinegar · 01/10/2025 10:16

Maybe they are out? Working late? Hadn't noticed?
It's not a big deal. Just move them.

LoveWine123 · 01/10/2025 10:18

Are they home? Have they seen the bins?

steamingin · 01/10/2025 10:18

Surely you move them? We move anyone's in who is at work etc. and they reciprocate.

Sahara123 · 01/10/2025 10:18

As above. Really couldn’t be bothered to get worked up about this. If I was out sorting my bins I’d just move theirs as well .

Pancakeflipper · 01/10/2025 10:19

It's not a big deal (unless you have limited mobility). Just shove them to one side so you can access your property.

Calliopespa · 01/10/2025 10:21

cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 10:15

So when it’s bin day obviously the bins once emptied are just dumped wherever. Next doors (semi detached) has two bins and both were left blocking my driveway on the pavement.

This was yesterday morning and they still haven’t come and moved them.

They really are petty people.

How is that petty? They didn't put them there.

The most likely scenario is they haven't noticed.

I think you posting on here/not just moving them yourself if it bothers you so very much, is way more petty. These things happen. It wasn't their fault.

Stoneblock · 01/10/2025 10:21

Really, you think they're doing it to be petty? I bring mine in as I'm passing, if I haven't been out they might stay a bit too long, I probably wouldn't even remember they needed bringing in if I didn't see them.

Petty would moaning about them blocking your drive when you don't need access to it, or refusing to move them out of the way if you did.

watchingplanesicantafford · 01/10/2025 10:23

Yeah it's petty that you've posted on here rather than just move them so they're not blocking the path.

myheadsjustmush · 01/10/2025 10:26

Just move them 🤷

In our cul-de-sac, we all take it in turns to bring everyone's bins back onto their property.

I really couldn't get worked up about this tbh.......

bugalugs45 · 01/10/2025 10:29

Blimey, and you’re calling them petty 😬. You have too much time on your hands OP

Definitelynotme2022 · 01/10/2025 10:31

I'm don't think it's them that's being petty. In the time you've taken to post, you could have moved them. End of problem.

Sartre · 01/10/2025 10:33

I doubt they’re petty, they’re probably just regular busy people who haven’t thought about the bins. Petty would be deliberately placing the bins in front of your drive which they did not. Just move them and get over yourself.

ACatAsleepInYourHat · 01/10/2025 10:33

Is this really so big a deal that it warrants starting a thread? Every collection day I play a diverting game of “hunt the bin” - the refuse guys seem to like to leave them in little mixed groups at roughly four-door intervals. I probably huff a bit, but it’s really not much of an effort to wheel them back where they belong.

But then I’m a Mumsnet rarity in that I get on with my neighbours and have even been known to take their parcels in. Imagine!

Lmnop22 · 01/10/2025 10:37

I love that you think they’re being petty when you’re deliberately not moving bins that are blocking your drive just so you can feel angry that someone else hasn’t moved them yet 😬

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cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 10:56

Sartre · 01/10/2025 10:33

I doubt they’re petty, they’re probably just regular busy people who haven’t thought about the bins. Petty would be deliberately placing the bins in front of your drive which they did not. Just move them and get over yourself.

You leave your empty bin out for over a day and don’t collect it?

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cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 10:57

Lmnop22 · 01/10/2025 10:37

I love that you think they’re being petty when you’re deliberately not moving bins that are blocking your drive just so you can feel angry that someone else hasn’t moved them yet 😬

It makes me feel sick touching bins tbh. I can do my own but no I’m not doing a task I loathe for someone who’s more than capable of doing it.

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cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 10:58

ACatAsleepInYourHat · 01/10/2025 10:33

Is this really so big a deal that it warrants starting a thread? Every collection day I play a diverting game of “hunt the bin” - the refuse guys seem to like to leave them in little mixed groups at roughly four-door intervals. I probably huff a bit, but it’s really not much of an effort to wheel them back where they belong.

But then I’m a Mumsnet rarity in that I get on with my neighbours and have even been known to take their parcels in. Imagine!

I get on really well with my other neighbours (next side) and we regularly help each out.

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Stoneblock · 01/10/2025 10:59

cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 10:57

It makes me feel sick touching bins tbh. I can do my own but no I’m not doing a task I loathe for someone who’s more than capable of doing it.

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You probably need some help, if moving a bin a couple of feet is that traumatic for you.

Calliopespa · 01/10/2025 11:17

cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 10:57

It makes me feel sick touching bins tbh. I can do my own but no I’m not doing a task I loathe for someone who’s more than capable of doing it.

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No-one much likes touching them, but it's a task we have to grapple with if we have bins - like parents have to change baby nappies. I don't think anyone thinks "yippeee! Time for a nappy change."

Life is full of these tasks op.

And yes, with a busy family I do often have days where I wouldn't get round to moving them (or noticing them). Often families are out all day, rush home and have back to back tasks and no-one thinks "I'm wondering about the status of the bins."

ETA I'm not saying you have to move them if you really don't want to, but you need to accept they are still there "burning a hole in your peace of mind" because you have decided not to fix it.

LoveWine123 · 01/10/2025 11:20

I think you should seek help if the thought of moving a couple of bins repulses you and if you are letting the bins take up so much headspace in your life.

CinnamonBuns67 · 01/10/2025 11:23

I hardly think they're petty. Just move the bins so they're not blocking your drive it isn't that difficult.

Hellohelga · 01/10/2025 11:26

I move my neighbours every week. Takes seconds.

ACatAsleepInYourHat · 01/10/2025 11:32

cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 10:57

It makes me feel sick touching bins tbh. I can do my own but no I’m not doing a task I loathe for someone who’s more than capable of doing it.

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Aha. As ever on MN, there are deeper issues than are apparent at first. I don’t know what to suggest, OP, a pair of arm-length rubber gloves, perhaps? A plague doctor’s outfit? Or just grit your teeth and get on with it like most of the rest of the world has to do? This is such a trivial problem to solve.

Libellousness · 01/10/2025 11:38

cherryexplos · 01/10/2025 10:57

It makes me feel sick touching bins tbh. I can do my own but no I’m not doing a task I loathe for someone who’s more than capable of doing it.

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Tbh, you sound like the problem neighbour.

PurpleThistle7 · 01/10/2025 11:43

Are you sure they're even home? But honestly... you could have moved them several times in the time you've spent being annoyed.

Our bin men leave bins all over the place and if someone else's is in my way I return it to them or just move it aside.