DH is 10 years older than me, he’s 61 to my 51. We have had a good marriage and I love him. Unfortunately though, recently his health has changed and due to lifestyle (too much social drinking which I’ve warned him would catch up with him) over the years he’s developed diabetes where he’s had to have his big toe amputated and also high blood pressure.
The medication he’s on means he can’t drink, needs to watch what he eats carefully and he’s also developed ED so that part of our life has fallen away.
Im so privately annoyed. Im constantly cooking healthy food, we’ve knocked the weekend takeaways on the head so I don’t get a break, we’ve stopped the weekend shared bottle of wine. I don’t think it’s fair to drink around him so I’ve supported and stayed sober with him. A recent holiday was a bit joyless as he’s quiet and not chatty unless he’s had a few beers. We would go back to the hotel after our evening meal and be in bed reading by 9pm 😩
Im the bigger earner and recently he’s toyed with the idea of reducing his hours to a 4 day week which I was In total agreement with. We can easily afford it and I have told him he can reduce his contribution to the savings account so he’s not out of pocket. At his age and with his health conditions I felt it was a good idea.
Well today he’s decided he doesn’t want to reduce his salary too much so he’ll work a 4 day week but start work at 6am rather than 8am which means he will be getting up at 4.45. So I’ll be disturbed every day at that time when he gets up.
FFS, so I’ve already sacrificed all the nice things in my life due to his health conditions and now I have to be woken up at he crack of dawn every day and go to my busy, manic, highly responsible job so he gets his cake and eats it - not losing any salary and working a 4 day week.
Im sure if the tables were turned and I could see that my husband had completely changed his life for me, enabled me to reduce my hours to make life easier and arrange it so I wasn’t out of pocket I’d be bloody grateful!! I feel so pissed off about the whole situation, I’m young but I feel I have to live like an old woman going forward and for no thanks!
He thinks IBU - I don’t - what do you think?