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Being upset that husband used my pumice stone

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Anuta77 · 30/09/2025 14:35

The title says it all. Yesterday, I discovered that husband used my pumice stone. When I confronted him, he says that he doesn't the issue with him taking it without asking and us sharing this. Apprently, he's been using it for a week now.
He says he was seeing it for a while and suddenly decided that it would be good for his feet. Why he didn't decide to buy one for himself is beyond me.

Now, he's upset that I'm not happy about it and says that he can't feel good with a person who's disgusted by him. I didn't say I was disgusted by him, but I just don't think that this is the type of a thing that should we share.

AIBU?

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ZippyPeer · 30/09/2025 14:43

Omg so grim.

I would make him buy me a new pumice stone and he can keep the old contaminated one. If he used my new one I would turn into a ball of rage.

Doesn't matter if it doesn't bother him, it bothers you and he shouldn't use your stuff without asking

AlmostAJillSandwich · 30/09/2025 14:45

You share bodily fluids and touch eachothers genitals, why so ragey over a bit of hard skin?!

Darragon · 30/09/2025 14:55

The OP reads so oddly, I know I’m unreasonable but I feel like the writing is just there to hide a coded message to meet under the clock tower with a pink carnation or something. 😂 On the topic though, as long as he rinses it after use, I don’t see the issue. I mean, it’s a natural rock full of holes. It’s probably also got a boatload of microscopic dead fish entrails in it.

Calliopespa · 30/09/2025 14:56

Darragon · 30/09/2025 14:55

The OP reads so oddly, I know I’m unreasonable but I feel like the writing is just there to hide a coded message to meet under the clock tower with a pink carnation or something. 😂 On the topic though, as long as he rinses it after use, I don’t see the issue. I mean, it’s a natural rock full of holes. It’s probably also got a boatload of microscopic dead fish entrails in it.

Agree!

Are we being tested?!

ScholesPanda · 30/09/2025 14:57

I never get this not finding each other disgusting argument. I love DH very much and we continue to be very intimate- that doesn't mean I like the bits of food that get caught in his teeth, or his nail clippings, or (in this case) dry skin sloughed off his feet. I expect he feels the same way about me.

Thepeopleversuswork · 30/09/2025 15:00

I really couldn't get excited about this.

You presumably share a bed/have sex/come into contact with one another's bodily fluids.

How can you live with someone and be this fastidious about this sort of thing>

Pancakeflipper · 30/09/2025 15:02

I am not a sharer but I can only raise a tiny wince at this.

rosydreams · 30/09/2025 15:03

you think thats bad my other half used my toothbrush.He said what we share everything .

Just why i mean i know that but my toothbrush eeeeew

DaisyChain505 · 30/09/2025 15:03

Pancakeflipper · 30/09/2025 15:02

I am not a sharer but I can only raise a tiny wince at this.

Same here.

If my husband tried using my tooth brush I’d be livid but this wouldn’t really phase me.

Sunshineismyfavourite · 30/09/2025 15:04

I mean, unless he is using it to remove the limescale from inside the toilet (works a treat by the way) then I can't see the problem with it.

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Anuta77 · 30/09/2025 15:07

Darragon · 30/09/2025 14:55

The OP reads so oddly, I know I’m unreasonable but I feel like the writing is just there to hide a coded message to meet under the clock tower with a pink carnation or something. 😂 On the topic though, as long as he rinses it after use, I don’t see the issue. I mean, it’s a natural rock full of holes. It’s probably also got a boatload of microscopic dead fish entrails in it.

Always someone to criticize the writing. Did it occur to you that maybe English is not my first language? Yea, I'm not from the UK, but I love this forum.

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Anuta77 · 30/09/2025 15:08

ScholesPanda · 30/09/2025 14:57

I never get this not finding each other disgusting argument. I love DH very much and we continue to be very intimate- that doesn't mean I like the bits of food that get caught in his teeth, or his nail clippings, or (in this case) dry skin sloughed off his feet. I expect he feels the same way about me.

Exactly! I adore my children, but wouldn't want to use some items after them.

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Fifthtimelucky · 30/09/2025 15:09

I wouldn’t have a problem with it either.

I wouldn’t want to share a toothbrush or a bath towel though.

Original poster
Anuta77 · 30/09/2025 15:09

rosydreams · 30/09/2025 15:03

you think thats bad my other half used my toothbrush.He said what we share everything .

Just why i mean i know that but my toothbrush eeeeew

OMG!

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Original poster
Anuta77 · 30/09/2025 15:10

Fifthtimelucky · 30/09/2025 15:09

I wouldn’t have a problem with it either.

I wouldn’t want to share a toothbrush or a bath towel though.

Well, he does take my bath towel and somehow I have less of a problem with it.

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BertieBotts · 30/09/2025 15:10

I would just buy a new one and ask him to only use the old one.

He isn't a mind reader and while it's fine for you to consider them a single-person item, they're not common enough that there's an established consensus about it. It's a mild inconvenience not a heinous betrayal.

I bought my own nail clippers and tweezers because I can't stand how other people in my family use the communal ones - they are cheap items, it's really no issue at all.

Original poster
Anuta77 · 30/09/2025 15:10

Sunshineismyfavourite · 30/09/2025 15:04

I mean, unless he is using it to remove the limescale from inside the toilet (works a treat by the way) then I can't see the problem with it.

I guess I can try it on the toilet now and get a new one lol

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Dolamroth · 30/09/2025 15:16

It wouldn't bother me personally, but it clearly bothers you op. Not particularly unreasonable. I'd just buy myself a new one and let him have the old one.

FlyingUnicornWings · 30/09/2025 16:07

Anuta77 · 30/09/2025 14:35

The title says it all. Yesterday, I discovered that husband used my pumice stone. When I confronted him, he says that he doesn't the issue with him taking it without asking and us sharing this. Apprently, he's been using it for a week now.
He says he was seeing it for a while and suddenly decided that it would be good for his feet. Why he didn't decide to buy one for himself is beyond me.

Now, he's upset that I'm not happy about it and says that he can't feel good with a person who's disgusted by him. I didn't say I was disgusted by him, but I just don't think that this is the type of a thing that should we share.

AIBU?

“He can’t feel good with a person who’s disgusted with him?”

Use his toothbrush and then ask him to rationalise that statement. When he agrees with you, give him a pat on the head and say well done. 😆

nomas · 30/09/2025 16:09

It's ok to have things for ourselves. I don't like family drinking out of my water bottle or using my fork.

And no, I would not want to use a pumice used on someone else's dead skin Envy

Buy a new stone and hide it from him.

ainsleysanob · 30/09/2025 16:09

Yeah, wouldn’t bother me. But tell him to get you another one since it does you.

Redpeach · 30/09/2025 16:12

We dont have one, Is it for feet?

FlyingUnicornWings · 30/09/2025 16:19

Redpeach · 30/09/2025 16:12

We dont have one, Is it for feet?

Yes. Usually used with wet feet in the bath. 🫣

NaranjaDreams · 30/09/2025 16:28

It's a pumice stone. I wouldn't have presumed it was a one-each type thing, unlike a toothbrush or a towel. It's a natural rock full of holes, they're not the cleanest anyway, and you're just rubbing your feet on it...

I mean, absolutely get a new one and tell him not to use it, but I'm with him that I don't think it's obvious that you'd be upset by this.

Tess592 · 30/09/2025 16:41

FlyingUnicornWings · 30/09/2025 16:07

“He can’t feel good with a person who’s disgusted with him?”

Use his toothbrush and then ask him to rationalise that statement. When he agrees with you, give him a pat on the head and say well done. 😆

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Why would he be bothered about her using his toothbrush? I don't get the horror of all these things when you'd have their cock/cum in your mouth - how on earth could their toothbrush be worse?