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To think it's a bit harsh to say people who've never worked shouldn't get benefits?

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DonaldBiden · 25/09/2025 20:03

Was reading another thread where many were saying if someone has never worked they shouldn't get any benefits but couldn't comment because it had reached 1000 comments.

I know this might be an unpopular opinion but I don't agree because that would include young mums who can't work because they have a baby to look after. Most of them will get a job when their child is a little older. Why are they any different from older mums who've fallen on hard times and need help?

And I know people will say it's because they've never worked and haven't proven themselves unlazy etc and could be on the dole forever but why should they have their lives ruined just because of something people think MIGHT happen.

OP posts:
Avantiagain · 26/09/2025 16:31

"Who's looking after millions of children of other working parents."

The people that some on this thread are saying should have worked harder at school and don't deserve to have kids of their own.

Differentforgirls · 26/09/2025 16:32

nearlylovemyusername · 26/09/2025 16:28

Who's looking after millions of children of other working parents.

ETA: if you read the linked thread carefully, that poster isn't reducing her hours because she can't manage childcare, she doesn't want to work the same hours because she'd loose UC when her salary goes up. It's ridiculous

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Strangers, as the parents obviously couldn't afford to have them.

Plastictreees · 26/09/2025 16:33

Avantiagain · 26/09/2025 16:31

"Who's looking after millions of children of other working parents."

The people that some on this thread are saying should have worked harder at school and don't deserve to have kids of their own.

Exactly. Another example of a really important job that should require better training and better pay.

nearlylovemyusername · 26/09/2025 16:34

Differentforgirls · 26/09/2025 16:32

Strangers, as the parents obviously couldn't afford to have them.

I don't understand what you're trying to say in context of benefits.

Londonisthebestcityintheworld · 26/09/2025 16:36

nearlylovemyusername · 26/09/2025 16:25

Can we stop making up that UC claimants are all sick and vulnerable?

Just look at this
To drop my hours to 22.5 even though I’m a single parent? | Mumsnet

Makes my blood boil that I worked 50-60 hours weeks trying to provide for my DC whilst paying huge taxes to fund lifestyle of OP on this thread. There are millions of people like her, current system encourages benefits lifestyle. It has to stop

Train as a midwife and come back and let us all know if you feel the same way.

It's well known that NHS workers are disproportionately hit by decrease in pay because of how tax is paid. Would you work and extra 25 hours in a labour ward every month for a net pay increase of £96.

People bay for higher taxes and then balk when higher earners choose to work less. It's maddening.

You may be working 50-60 hours per week but I doubt you're paying as much in taxes as you think.

Differentforgirls · 26/09/2025 16:38

nearlylovemyusername · 26/09/2025 16:34

I don't understand what you're trying to say in context of benefits.

Why have children and farm them out to strangers? It's because you couldn't afford to have them. Like the 16 year olds who are getting lambasted on here.

nearlylovemyusername · 26/09/2025 16:42

Differentforgirls · 26/09/2025 16:38

Why have children and farm them out to strangers? It's because you couldn't afford to have them. Like the 16 year olds who are getting lambasted on here.

I couldn't afford my children??? My DC were privately educate all through my salary and I was highest rate tax payer until I retired precisely because for Labour taxes.

Differentforgirls · 26/09/2025 16:43

Differentforgirls · 26/09/2025 16:38

Why have children and farm them out to strangers? It's because you couldn't afford to have them. Like the 16 year olds who are getting lambasted on here.

Actually, I agree with the poster. She is putting her child first. Many parents put their lifestyle before their children. Money.

nearlylovemyusername · 26/09/2025 16:44

Londonisthebestcityintheworld · 26/09/2025 16:36

Train as a midwife and come back and let us all know if you feel the same way.

It's well known that NHS workers are disproportionately hit by decrease in pay because of how tax is paid. Would you work and extra 25 hours in a labour ward every month for a net pay increase of £96.

People bay for higher taxes and then balk when higher earners choose to work less. It's maddening.

You may be working 50-60 hours per week but I doubt you're paying as much in taxes as you think.

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NHS aren't disproportionally hit, everyone pays the same tax rates according to their income.

Of course that poster makes choices which are best for her, but the system which enables such choices is deeply flawed.

Differentforgirls · 26/09/2025 16:44

nearlylovemyusername · 26/09/2025 16:42

I couldn't afford my children??? My DC were privately educate all through my salary and I was highest rate tax payer until I retired precisely because for Labour taxes.

Who spent most of the day with them?

StripedSpottySocks · 26/09/2025 16:46

Alphabetmuddle · 26/09/2025 14:08

Relative to the time sleeping around was immoral, why do it? Every time throughout history has social guidelines that people adhere to.

No birth control, coercion and rape

StripedSpottySocks · 26/09/2025 16:49

bestcatlife · 26/09/2025 11:30

We should be looking towards UBI rather than cancelling benefits.. there are so many of these threads, there really is an agenda running 🤔

I think reform might be fishing around for reactions, to guide future policy decisions.

FrangipaniBlue · 26/09/2025 16:54

NotMyNigelFarage · 25/09/2025 22:42

And why would you wear a condom if your partner told you she was on the pill? At the very least you'd be given short shrift for the insinuation that they might be lying to you.

Utter bollocks - the pill is not 100% effective for starters!

I have drilled this into my 17 year old, double up unless you’re prepared to end up with a child.

If she refuses “because she’s on the pill” then you explain that the pill is not 100% effective and that you’d rather not take the risk. If she still isn’t happy then she’s not the kind of girl you want to be doing it with and you walk away.

verybighouseinthecountry · 26/09/2025 16:55

More money needs to be pumped into closing the gap from birth, we have one of the greatest childhood disparities.
When you look at Sweden, which has one of the most generous benefit systems, and high levels of taxation; there is a consensus that benefits are a right, rather than a privilege. The decades of pumping in money to maternal care, childcare and early education means that children born there are on a much more level footing from birth. There is a very strong societal attitude that everyone should contribute and unemployment benefits are for the sick. However, there are conditions/sanctions upon receipt of benefits that would be considered a violation of rights in the UK.

nearlylovemyusername · 26/09/2025 16:59

Agenda is very simple - 10% of top taxpayers pay 30% of all taxes, 30% of taxpayers pay 60%.
Welfare is top spend item.

Those who still pay are being squeezed ever more and are now giving up. It can't continue anymore. Thanks to ever growing welfare we don't invest in any services anymore, taxes go up, economy doesn't grow, living standards decrease for everyone. This is real agenda, not immigration.
If people felt better off they wouldn't react to this nonsense about several thousands of people on boats.

Londonisthebestcityintheworld · 26/09/2025 17:01

nearlylovemyusername · 26/09/2025 16:44

NHS aren't disproportionally hit, everyone pays the same tax rates according to their income.

Of course that poster makes choices which are best for her, but the system which enables such choices is deeply flawed.

They are disproportionately hit because of the salary bands and what money you take home when you cross the bands. The jump from 20-40% tax is significant in take home pay. The working hours as a midwife in the NHS are deeply unsociable with night shift being mandatory. When you cross 100k the jump in tax is a rate of 60% tax until you earn 125k. Not all jobs are equal - someone in finance has a very different day than an ER midwife.

At some point it was one of these midwives who helped with the birth of her own children.

Not all jobs are created equal. You can tell yourself whatever you like but the issue here isn't that UC exists. It's actually that the way people are taxed often disincentives them to work unless the pay increase is significant enough to make the quantity of work economically worthwhile.

Bumblebee72 · 26/09/2025 17:04

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IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 26/09/2025 17:05

Of course people should be able to receive benefits even if they haven't work. PIP is for people who can't work due to disability or illness.

However, there are long term unemployed people who able to work but fiddle the system, these are the people who need looking into.

nearlylovemyusername · 26/09/2025 17:08

verybighouseinthecountry · 26/09/2025 16:55

More money needs to be pumped into closing the gap from birth, we have one of the greatest childhood disparities.
When you look at Sweden, which has one of the most generous benefit systems, and high levels of taxation; there is a consensus that benefits are a right, rather than a privilege. The decades of pumping in money to maternal care, childcare and early education means that children born there are on a much more level footing from birth. There is a very strong societal attitude that everyone should contribute and unemployment benefits are for the sick. However, there are conditions/sanctions upon receipt of benefits that would be considered a violation of rights in the UK.

Precisely!
Service are for everyone, not like here top earners don't get free childcare hours whilst sponsor said hours for everyone else. Like some state schools won't let better off children to join, like this:
KCLMS Admissions Policy 2026
HWSF-Admissions-2025-26-Policy_v1.pdf

And benefits in Scandi are time limited and based on previous contributions, unless truly disabled, not self certified.

Plastictreees · 26/09/2025 17:11

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Swear as much as you like, your ignorance AND privilege is showing. ‘Anyone can work their way out of a situation’ - what does this even mean? How can someone work themselves out of grinding poverty, disability, debilitating mental health issues, stigma and discrimination?

As I said, working hard = success is a fallacy. We live in a society with myriad health and social inequalities, which ‘working hard’ won’t change. It’s a systemic failure, not a personal one. You can shout and swear all you want but it won’t change that.

DrPrunesqualer · 26/09/2025 17:12

Londonisthebestcityintheworld · 26/09/2025 17:01

They are disproportionately hit because of the salary bands and what money you take home when you cross the bands. The jump from 20-40% tax is significant in take home pay. The working hours as a midwife in the NHS are deeply unsociable with night shift being mandatory. When you cross 100k the jump in tax is a rate of 60% tax until you earn 125k. Not all jobs are equal - someone in finance has a very different day than an ER midwife.

At some point it was one of these midwives who helped with the birth of her own children.

Not all jobs are created equal. You can tell yourself whatever you like but the issue here isn't that UC exists. It's actually that the way people are taxed often disincentives them to work unless the pay increase is significant enough to make the quantity of work economically worthwhile.

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That’s not just an nhs issue though

All working people are affected by these bands if their salaries reach the higher tax thresholds.

DontGoJasonWaterfalls · 26/09/2025 17:17

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You didn't answer my earlier question: what actions did I take that resulted in me getting a brain tumour and being unable to work?

You don't think it's privilege that you don't have a brain tumour or other condition that prevents you from working?

Bumblebee72 · 26/09/2025 17:18

Plastictreees · 26/09/2025 17:11

Swear as much as you like, your ignorance AND privilege is showing. ‘Anyone can work their way out of a situation’ - what does this even mean? How can someone work themselves out of grinding poverty, disability, debilitating mental health issues, stigma and discrimination?

As I said, working hard = success is a fallacy. We live in a society with myriad health and social inequalities, which ‘working hard’ won’t change. It’s a systemic failure, not a personal one. You can shout and swear all you want but it won’t change that.

Please stop referring to people that disagree with you as ignorant.

If hard work at school has no impact do you think we should stop sending poor children to school then and save a fortune. Do you think it is still the 1800s? What utter tosh. Even the labour understand the way to reduce poverty is education.

Privilege is one of those phases people use to shut down others they disagree with.

Plastictreees · 26/09/2025 17:22

Bumblebee72 · 26/09/2025 17:18

Please stop referring to people that disagree with you as ignorant.

If hard work at school has no impact do you think we should stop sending poor children to school then and save a fortune. Do you think it is still the 1800s? What utter tosh. Even the labour understand the way to reduce poverty is education.

Privilege is one of those phases people use to shut down others they disagree with.

I am referring to you as ignorant, due to your ignorant posts. Not ‘other people’.

Do you deny the existence of health and social inequalities? And the fact these inequalities make it harder to get an education?

Pickledpoppetpickle · 26/09/2025 17:23

Papyrophile · 25/09/2025 21:11

I had an abortion when I was young. I did NOT want an unwanted child. Termination at six weeks. No further consideration.

Your assumption there is that everyone else will feel the same, realise they are pregnant early enough, have access to a sympathetic GP and/or abortion clinic, understand time limits to getting an abortion, aren’t living in chaos including mental health or addiction issues and have the freedom to access the health services they require.