Drugs in care of child

[Emmarose01]

Hi I’ve just had a message of a friend that my baby’s farther is in the pub with a bunch of sellers and on drugs while he’s supposed to be in the care of our newborn. What would be the next step for this if I don’t have photo proof. Can social services to drugs tests on weekends or would I have to wait to next week or would it be out if his system by then

Ah, slightly older than I thought but still young to be staying away. I would go get the baby. He’s not looking after them if he’s in the pub so you can contact SS and inform them you collected your child as dad was in the pub.

Assuming the baby isn't with him

Are you are ok terms with his parents? Do you communicate at all?

Other than that id talk to your social worker on monday about the situation

Why are they involved? Do you take drugs too?

I don’t take drugs no but my mental health wasn’t good during our relationship due to things he was doing. The family’s aren’t civil at all with us cause they can’t see wrong in him. I know if I went to get him they wouldn’t answer the door

Document! Get your friend to take photos, if the ex will be driving after taking these drugs. A 999 call by someone in the pub should guarantee a roadside drugs test. Get your mental health better. And start being kind to yourself!

Are the grandparents good with the child?

Yes I have another child. No I have him through the week and he has him on weekends at the moment.

I have no idea. They cant care that much if they are letting him come home drunk on drugs when they is a baby in the house.

I'd report it to the police to do a welfare check.

Yes, I agree.

The police won't do a welfare check because the OP rings to say she's heard from a friend the baby's dad is in the pub, and the baby is at home with its grandparents.

And say what? It’s the baby’s dad’s time and he’s got his parents to babysit for him while he goes to the pub? It’s not illegal to get grandparents to babysit and go to the pub

A welfare check on a baby at home with grandparents?

SS have zero right to dictate who has your baby and when.
Only a court order can do this, and SS are not welcomed to give recommendations on contact by courts. They supply evidence in certain cases, that's it.
Stop letting your baby out of your care. Social services will NOT have your back if something were to happen, especially with historical and current drug use.

It's supposed to be the father's responsibility to care for the baby.

Even if he’s going home to care for the child once he gets back home?

Except if you’re honest he probably isn’t, the grandparents are babysitting.

No it isn't.

Otherwise no-one would ever have anyone babysitting their kids ever.

It's his responsibility to find suitable, safe childcare and by the sound of it he has.

He has been told he’s not supposed to be using drugs at all. Never mind when he will be in the same household as my boy. We had a strict safety plan that if he was he shouldn’t be anywhere near him and to be given back to us.

I think you need to inform SS and ask their advice.
Is your ex still giving the baby solids?

Ok but this has nothing to do with my reply to a PP.

Do you know he's actually using drugs?

If not, there's absolutely no point in phoning the police and asking them to go round and do a welfare check, while the baby is being looked after by its grandparents.

I mean by all means ring them, but you'll be wasting your time.

There is also nothing to suggest he’s going home to the baby, he could be staying at a friends. Why can’t you refuse to let him have the baby overnight though?

If the baby is at immediate risk of harm some one goes to get him/her and/or call the police who are the only service who have immediate powers of protection. The rest will kick in following this

SS are aware of his drug use and happy for him to have baby at weekend as he lives with his parents. Presumably that means they are satisfied his parents are able to be responsible for said baby. If they are responsible they won’t allow him to care for baby if unfitdue to drink or drugs.

Yes he is but he’s been told not to by health visitor and social services