To think that these women under these comments are creepy and if it were men...

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...there would be outrage and rightly so?

There's this trend on tiktok probably started by a young boy (teenager) where he's dancing to a very lyrically inappropriate rap song ("Fuck a dolla girl pick up this <throws money on the floor>; Shake your ass, watch yourself... show me what you're working with...").

Many people from boys to girls, men and women have all started doing their own version of this. I quite enjoy watching the men and women videos and bit because I find some of their dance steps funny and interesting but am I the only one who can't get into watching literal kids dancing to this song and mostly women in the comments leering at these teenage boys?

Yes yes I know it's all a joke but really? This is paedophilic behaviour and if these were videos of girls dancing to this while grown men were all talking about how attractive they are, they would be rightly called out. It's like I'm in the twilight zone where many women can't see or acknowledge their creepy behaviour and I can't stand it.

Another video I saw last night was a little girl (probably between 5 and 8) actually dancing to this song and singing it while getting ready to go to bed. Her mum in the comments was insinuating she'd like to be Chris Brown's baby mama in reply to a comment saying her daughter looks like him. What has the world come to? I just find so many things people do awful as I'm mindlessly scrolling trying to find cute or funny videos to wind down and recharge from being chronically ill as well as a carer.

I'm particularly disturbed by the teenage boys dancing to this song and grown women acting like rabid fangirls. I had to block the boy who started that trend just so I could stop seeing his inappropriate dance videos (in one of it, he licks his fingers and simulates touching the V) and the disturbing comments. You get jumped on if you're not following the bandwagon in the comments and I rarely post comments on social media. I just lurk.

Aibu?

YABU to pay any attention to Tiktok.

Well yes, it's clearly disgusting so if I were you, I'd stop adding to the view count?

There's a whole host of inappropriate shit on the internet, but you have the choice not to view it.

I agree with you. I don't know if this happens there so much as it does here in the US, not that it happens all the time, but whenever there's a female teacher that has been having a relationship with a young male student there are constantly men in the comments saying things like "oh where was she when I was in school." 🤢 Like boys can't be victims and women can't be perpetrators.

I mean, there is a lot on tiktok etc which I agree is problematic. But if it's upsetting you can I recommend doing what I (and most adults) do? Spend your time doing other things and don't watch it.

This kind of nonsense is why I don't have tiktok.
Watching stupid people do stupid things is beyond me.

Why on earth do you spend your time watching this stuff?
I don't understand the world of Tiktok and I don't want to.

This.

Delete tiktok.

I only started watching tiktok this year after not paying any attention to it. Long story but there was a reason for it. I happened to find many many good videos that i enjoyed watching so i stayed. I'm not tied to it and I'm not one to balk at stupid things on the internet but every now and then some things get my attention this way. I'm only human, thank you very much.

Tiktok is a scrolling platform where you just land on videos, so I come across them randomly while scrolling and don't go looking for them. Of course once I stay longer than 10 seconds on a video and dare to look at the comment section out of curiosity, the algorithm starts flooding me with similar videos. So no I don't really watch them often. I usually scroll on or block most of them when I realise what they're about or the comments are infuriating.

I agree. I've seen them before too. I also remember the "Teacher bae" incident. I haven't even watched it but always come across videos of people talking about it. That's how I know.

I'm not sure I could be wrong but I do find most of these things I mentioned from the US tiktokers.

I have no clue what you’re talking about and surely by participating you are part of the problem.

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This ^^

It reminds me of all the MN Daily Mail readers who don't really read it, they just happen to stumble across it 😁

Thick Tok, nuff said.

Tell me you've not read the full OP without telling me. You're not making any sense with your "this" because those comments are nonsense.

This thread is not about whether I watch tiktok or not, this is about grown women "jokingly" preying on teenage boys.

I don't have to defend my viewing platform choices to you or anyone, I've only explained it incase some people don't know how it works. Stick to the point of my OP or scroll on.

Ok I'm going to soften my previous response because I'm a sucker for a well applied gif (does that show my age...?) and I do love and obey a Judge Judy face 😄

I do get you op, and I don't do tiktok but I'm not immune from an occasional doom-scroll elsewhere myself and understand the algorithms effect. I'm not familiar with the particular videos you talk about but they do sound grim. I wish we could "fix" the world, but we can't. All we can do is "get off it" sometimes so it doesn't bother us and we can pretend these people don't walk among us.

You'll find creepy male comments under videos of young girls too. Mostly they don't get outrage either. The internet is a cesspit generally.

Oh and thanks for being the only one on this thread who actually gets it. Also, people saying "delete it" or "stop watching them" are missing the point entirely. I suppose there should be no FWR board, for example, since all we need is to stop looking at videos or reading articles of WaG being preyed upon and talking about them.

Like you rightly said, it's like boys can't be victims and women can't be perpetrators with the way these actual crimes are downplayed and dismissed.

You say "if it were men...." as if its not men, everywhere, all the damned time.

I use tiktok but never get any kids or sexualised dancing videos pop up ever. You're creating your own FYP by watching these videos in the first place.

Calm down OP.

Women rarely sexually abuse. It's a tiny percentage of overall assault figures.

Are you this worked up about the massive issue of male violence and sexual assault perpetrated on women?

Started a thread about that at all have we?

But it is also women. I read an article today about a step mother who was caught having sex with her 15 year old step son. Comments were as you expect.

i think this sort of thing happens more than you think ( perhaps not the this extreme with a step mother) But female teachers I am hearing about more and more.

It is no surprise that we have so many adult male abusers when the abuse of boys is not taken seriously. Abuse breads abusers.
We need to be looking after our sons as well as our daughters.

To be fair to tiktok, it's just like anything else; your algorithm is determined by what you choose to watch. I mostly watch videos about makeup and skin care and then there's a lady I follow who talks about ways to recycle glass jars I don't see anything that I would consider it inappropriate or problematic.

I’m very worried about the mice in the local pet shop. They dont get enough fresh air or exercise.

How comes the Cat Protection League ignores the plight of pet mice?

The world’s turning into a circus (and not a good kind)!

Comments were as you would expect - I'll bet it was men downplaying the abuse.

Let's not pretend that women abuse at the rate men do, however it's disproportionately reported when they do because it is a lot more unusual.

The abuse of boys should be taken seriously, but it's men who don't take it seriously.