To think that these women under these comments are creepy and if it were men...

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...there would be outrage and rightly so?

There's this trend on tiktok probably started by a young boy (teenager) where he's dancing to a very lyrically inappropriate rap song ("Fuck a dolla girl pick up this <throws money on the floor>; Shake your ass, watch yourself... show me what you're working with...").

Many people from boys to girls, men and women have all started doing their own version of this. I quite enjoy watching the men and women videos and bit because I find some of their dance steps funny and interesting but am I the only one who can't get into watching literal kids dancing to this song and mostly women in the comments leering at these teenage boys?

Yes yes I know it's all a joke but really? This is paedophilic behaviour and if these were videos of girls dancing to this while grown men were all talking about how attractive they are, they would be rightly called out. It's like I'm in the twilight zone where many women can't see or acknowledge their creepy behaviour and I can't stand it.

Another video I saw last night was a little girl (probably between 5 and 8) actually dancing to this song and singing it while getting ready to go to bed. Her mum in the comments was insinuating she'd like to be Chris Brown's baby mama in reply to a comment saying her daughter looks like him. What has the world come to? I just find so many things people do awful as I'm mindlessly scrolling trying to find cute or funny videos to wind down and recharge from being chronically ill as well as a carer.

I'm particularly disturbed by the teenage boys dancing to this song and grown women acting like rabid fangirls. I had to block the boy who started that trend just so I could stop seeing his inappropriate dance videos (in one of it, he licks his fingers and simulates touching the V) and the disturbing comments. You get jumped on if you're not following the bandwagon in the comments and I rarely post comments on social media. I just lurk.

Aibu?

Wow! Words fail me. I hope you don't have a son and if you do, he doesn't see this sort of post, ever.

Mainly men yes. Because of the way society treats men.

Lets all blame the men. Yawn
Its not a blame game. This is a societal issue.

Only 4% of sexual offenders were women according to the FOI request by the BBC. While that is still too many - because everything about zero is too many - I find the other 96% to be a bit more of an issue.

I also don't think making salacious, inappropriate comments on Tiktok of a video the young person has chosen to share with the public is anything like as serious as actually harming a child.

If Tiktok shows you this nonsense, ditch Tiktok. Like so many of us ditched Twitter.,

Men abuse because of the way society treats men?

Please explain more? How does 'society' treat men that forces them to abuse?

Mystikal - Shake It Fast

It came out when I was a kid and definitely recall dancing to it then, but that was before social media. Don’t look for the music videos; think there was a clean version and an explicit version of the music videos as there was for the songs. Been ages though since I heard the song.

I think the women ‘thirsting’ are just as bad as the men who do the same to young girls.

I’ve definitely seen it where men make the comments about attractive teachers, but not completely surprising when you look at the culture and how many movies in the past glorified teenage boy and adult woman relationships and how it was “normal” for boys to fantasise and hope an attractive older female would seduce them and have intimate relations with them, make them “into men”. I remember the movie ‘I’d Give it A Year” where Minnie Driver’s character said “I’d ruin Bieber”, the movie was in 2013 and he was 18/19 but it was still cringe to me and couldn’t believe that was meant to be comedic.

I think it’s only been maybe the last 10-15 years or so that it has been more frowned upon, that you hear more people speaking up against.

Agreed.

By the way, I watch all kinds of videos on several platforms (facebook and tiktok now because of the scrolly and short nature rather than going to a specific person's videos to watch (like youtube), from police chase to diy to arts to famous people murder (like JFK, etc) to chronic illness videos, ND videos, politics, social services, gameshows, quizzes, etc.

I'm not limited to one or two genres because I get bored easily and have a vast array of interests. I prefer to scroll and see whatever comes my way. If I'm interested, I watch. If not, I scroll on. If I'm curious, I may watch and read comments. When the algorithm starts sending a lot more of any sort of videos my way (including the ones I like), I start scrolling past them because as I said, I don't like to be stuck on one specific type of videos. I get fed up. Once they stop coming regularly, I start watching them again.

These dance videos just came my way again yesterday after I managed to block most of the ones I saw from kids. I've been busy for months now mainly watching asmr hair and body scratching videos to help me sleep, a tiktoker's videos jokingly rating potlucks with olden days type punishment and people participating, and virtually joining all the chapters of the "We don't care club" for women in peri menopause and menopause who dgaf anymore.

So no it's not about my fyp or usual type of videos.

I started this thread because it's not the sort of discussion you see often, not even to come across it randomly. There are several boards, forums, threads and posts to talk about VAWG, etc relating to the abuse that women and girls face in the hands of men, incase you're looking for them.

Thank you! Agreed.

I know the song as well but forgot as I no longer listen to these types of songs for atleast a decade now.

The dismissal and whataboutery in this thread says it all really. Hopefully more people start seeing it for what it is. Society as a whole needs to be re-evaluated, not only one aspect of it.

How do you know how old the women commenting are? How do you know how old the lad is?

It happens when doom scrolling.
There is always double standards between men and women.
I deleted tiktok a year ago, it's mostly a cesspit.

Well you just said yourself that you enjoy watching them so you are part of the problem. It's really simple, grow up and delete Thick Tock

Read. Some of the men and women version when they do show up and are comical, not boys and girls dancing to inappropriate songs. Again, not the point of the thread.

Stop dismissing paedophilic behaviour by women in these platforms. You're part of the problem. Deleting "thick tock" won't erase what going on in the world. Grow up and get your head out of the sand.

According to most of these posts here, the problem is that I've watched this videos, not that these things are actually happening (and I've thankfully seen them in order to realise this). If I never watch them again (perhaps close my eyes and quickly scroll past whenever I come across them), the huge "socially acceptable" problem of women preying on young boys will magically erase itself or we can just pretend it doesn't exist. Got it!

And the summary of the rest of the comments are that since men prey on women much more, this isn't a problem to care about. It's okay for women to be paedophiles and perverts as long as the number is low. Never talk about this problem until we've solved the other issue. Fantastic!

Thanks to the 2 or 3 posters here who have their heads rightly screwed on.

Am I correct in summarising the situation as:

You watch a category of video innocently, but some people respond inappropriately to this category of video, and others post content under the same umbrella category that is verging on inappropriate or inappropriate.

You have two options:

Continue watching the videos and report any inappropriate content you come across.

or

Stop watching the videos.