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I took down some flags and DH wasn’t happy

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LittleChopper · 18/09/2025 23:13

On my commute today, I noticed someone had hung three large St George flags on a bridge coming out of our village. They have been popping up everywhere but this particular instance I thought “I’m not having that”. On the way home I pulled over and took them down.

when I got home and DH asked why I was binning three large flags I told him and he.. had some interesting opinions. He told me I shouldn’t be pissing off people in the village, that they have every right to hang an England flag in England, and that I’m being too political.

For a start, I would argue that I’ve always been quite strongly opinionated so he shouldn’t be surprised I did it.

Just as others have the right to their opinion I have mine. We have people in the village who are migrants… why should they have to look at that. It’s clear why they were hanging there given what’s going on at the moment and I’ve never see a flag hanging in the village in the decade we’ve been here so why else would they be there now.

I’m just so disappointed with it all. With the UK, with DH.

Next time maybe I’ll add to the collection instead. 🇬🇷🇮🇪🇮🇳🇦🇫🇧🇸🇵🇰🇪🇸🇸🇩🇿🇦🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

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AngelicKaty · 19/09/2025 09:23

Slimtoddy · 19/09/2025 08:47

Where was St George from? Was he English?

Did anyone see some people got confused and painted the Danish flag on a roundabout?

No, he was actually born in Turkey.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 19/09/2025 09:23

Tamarasilkscarves · 19/09/2025 09:20

Taking down flags isn’t really the same as expressing disagreement, it’s removing someone else’s expression.

People have every right to disagree and to show that disagreement, but the healthier way is to do so through your own words, symbols, or actions, not by silencing others. Flying a flag is one form of opinion, and taking it down doesn’t add to the conversation, it just shuts one side out.

On. Their. Own. Property.

NOT on public property.

Or is it a bit too outing to demonstrate your racist opinion where you live?

BellissimoGecko · 19/09/2025 09:25

Tyddento · 19/09/2025 07:36

@BellissimoGecko There’s a huge difference between people always having had a flag up, and putting flags up in public spaces over the past couple of months as a show of aggression to immigrants.

I think all this aggression business is a figment of peoples' imagination.

Are those of us who fly Y Ddraig Goch being aggressive to the English (main group of immigrants in Wales) ??

That's absolute nonsense. If it wasn't done to be deliberately aggressive, then how do you explain the timing? All these folk who are putting up flags everywhere would always have had them up in their own garden.

It's deliberate and it is aggressive. And I'm sure some of the Welsh who fly the Welsh flag are also doing it to show their disappoval of English immigration to Wales.

silkypyjamas · 19/09/2025 09:25

I am more worried about the flags on bridges not being fixed properly and blowing down covering my windshield when I'm driving.

ForgetMeNotRose · 19/09/2025 09:25

Fizbosshoes · 18/09/2025 23:21

The lampposts/bridges that folks hang the flags from are generally not their own private property. If they're not committing a crime hanging them up, then surely the reverse is true, that its not an offence to remove them?

DH and I drove through an area the other day where just about every lamppost for 2 or 3 miles on a non residential A road, had flags hanging from it. We were wondering how they attached them so high up

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Surely not? For example, if someone put up graffiti, surely ok to wash it?

Tamarasilkscarves · 19/09/2025 09:26

If a flag is put up on public property, it’s not up to individuals to remove it. That’s the role of the authorities, who can act according to the law.

Digdongdoo · 19/09/2025 09:27

Tamarasilkscarves · 19/09/2025 09:26

If a flag is put up on public property, it’s not up to individuals to remove it. That’s the role of the authorities, who can act according to the law.

It's not up to individuals to put the flags there in the first place.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 19/09/2025 09:29

AngelicKaty · 19/09/2025 09:07

For the UMPTEENTH time, we are not offended by our national flag! We are offended by the people who have misappropriated it to send a message of intimidation and racism to immigrants, when we want to see it as a representation of a UK that is tolerant and welcoming and to be able to fly it with pride (but thugs like Tommy Ten Names and his ilk have deprived us of that pleasure).
Let me know if you need me to repeat that for you so it sticks. 🙄

I’ll repost it for you because this gets to the heart of the matter!

Livelovebehappy · 19/09/2025 09:30

Slightyamusedandsilly · 19/09/2025 09:19

So you'd be happy to see a symbol of your children being unwelcome in their own neighbourhood? Just because of the colour of their skin.

So much hate around. Makes me ashamed to be English.

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It’s about context. You’re assuming every single person who wants to display a flag has ulterior motives, so should for that reason be banned from displaying it at all. It’s our national flag fgs. And yet there’s people that seem to think that it’s never to be displayed again. Madness.

BluntPlumHam · 19/09/2025 09:31

Town hall, official buildings, even bunting around city centre etc has no sinister connotation to it. It’s the recent fly the flag from houses and street lampposts etc it’s a clear message to anyone who isn’t white and that is you’re not wanted here. Dw op the rain and wind will deal with them very soon.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 19/09/2025 09:31

I do have a Union flag in my house as it happens (not up) but it has the Olympic rings in the middle of it as it’s from London 2012.

Great days, although people forget the rot was already setting in and we were all booing George Osbourne!

Tamarasilkscarves · 19/09/2025 09:31

Flying a flag can mean a lot of different things to different people. Disagreeing with the message is fair, but assuming everyone who flies one has the same motives is too simplistic.

Just because someone flies a flag doesn’t mean they’re racist.

Sera1989 · 19/09/2025 09:31

Some of them are really dangerously attached, most of the ones on our super windy main road have blown down and if they cover a windshield of someone going 50mph it could be fatal.

There are also lots of really rubbish crosses spray painted on random things like the back of street signs and top of bollards which is just pure vandalism and makes the town look really scruffy. Wouldn’t blame anyone for painting over them

Whammyyammy · 19/09/2025 09:34

I don't understand people taking the flags down??
I visit the U.S a lot, civic buildings and the many residential properties fly the stars and stripes and I've always admired their patriotism and wished we were the same.
Now we are, British citizens like the op get all offended by them???

Puzzledandpissedoff · 19/09/2025 09:34

Maybe England needs a St Patrick’s Day? As in a St George’s day and have all those celebrations, to express all that national pride?

Many places already celebrate St George's Day, @SlieveMiskish, but I've heard it said that this should be banned too - apparently it's all too "triggering" at a time when others are using the flag for different purposes

Sometimes the rip 'em down folk really don't help themselves, but I guess it's anything for a nice bit of virtue signalling; ask them to do something to support legal immigrants and IME the vast majority are nowhere to be seen

Yamap · 19/09/2025 09:35

Slightyamusedandsilly · 19/09/2025 09:17

Exactly this. My friend's brown DC was upset walking past a house in our neighbourhood with a flag flying, because he knows it indicates he isn't welcome. Somewhere he's lived all his life.

Arseholes.

It doesn’t indicate he’s not welcome. It indicates that illegal immigration isn’t welcome.

ClafoutisSurprise · 19/09/2025 09:35

Good for you, op.

I’m sick of the disingenuous queries on here from flag fans about why on earth we’re offended by our own dear, innocuous flag when we wouldn’t raise an eyebrow at the Italian flag, for example.

The flag is flown at the town hall. I also see it at some businesses and in private homes. One local town has had union jacks flying from shopfronts in the high street for years now. Fine. Let us not pretend that hanging flags from every single lamppost and telegraph pole on the main road through the town as I saw a little gang doing where I live last night is normal. It’s one group of citizens forcing their interpretation of national pride and their preferences on everyone else in a very provocative manner. It’s territorial pissing. It most definitely doesn’t feel moderate.

It is right to stand up to this.

(And I’m being generous and not ascribing more sinister motives to these people.)

On a related point, why do flag flyers in this country have to use giant bloody flagpoles that everyone else must see? I lived in the US as a child. Flags were a very normal sight on private homes, but they were hung from poles on the house. Again, seems to be about imposing your views on others rather than genuine pride.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 19/09/2025 09:35

Livelovebehappy · 19/09/2025 09:30

It’s about context. You’re assuming every single person who wants to display a flag has ulterior motives, so should for that reason be banned from displaying it at all. It’s our national flag fgs. And yet there’s people that seem to think that it’s never to be displayed again. Madness.

If you weren't flying a flat 6 months ago and just happen to have put one up recently, it isn't out of patriotism.

Tamarasilkscarves · 19/09/2025 09:35

Flying a flag or having opinions about immigration isn’t automatically about racism.

There’s usually a lot more going on, history, identity, personal experiences, and reducing it to a simple label misses the bigger picture.

BluntPlumHam · 19/09/2025 09:36

Livelovebehappy · 19/09/2025 09:30

It’s about context. You’re assuming every single person who wants to display a flag has ulterior motives, so should for that reason be banned from displaying it at all. It’s our national flag fgs. And yet there’s people that seem to think that it’s never to be displayed again. Madness.

Generally speaking areas with flags flying tend to be places where you would avoid buying. St George’s flag has been appropriated by various racist groups and no amount of feigning is about to change that reputation.

Sharptonguedwoman · 19/09/2025 09:36

LunaShadow · 18/09/2025 23:16

Why does an English flag in England offend you? I live in Cornwall and there’s plenty of Cornish and English flags around. I’m currently waiting for DH to put up our flagpole (purchased in April for his birthday).

I'm as English mongrel as they come and I have never needed to hang a flag outside my house or from a bridge to make an unpleasant political point. Flags were for special occasions.

BluntPlumHam · 19/09/2025 09:38

Yamap · 19/09/2025 09:35

It doesn’t indicate he’s not welcome. It indicates that illegal immigration isn’t welcome.

Yes because the flag flyers are able to make that distinction which often requires and examination of the law, lawyers on both side as well as a court hearing and an expert judge. 🙄

Sharptonguedwoman · 19/09/2025 09:38

Yamap · 19/09/2025 09:35

It doesn’t indicate he’s not welcome. It indicates that illegal immigration isn’t welcome.

I'm not at all sure that people differentiate, sadly. I hate this trend.

bombastix · 19/09/2025 09:39

I ended up in an area where there were flags from the lampposts. It was a fairly deprived area. All I tell my children is to look at where flags are and where they are not, and see the difference in these places.

When the far right want to dominate a space, they make this public. I can understand someone flag flying on their property, up to them.

Public buildings are another thing altogether

ERthree · 19/09/2025 09:39

Mistyglade · 18/09/2025 23:42

We celebrate all manner of cultural differences in this country and it does feel wrong to demonise British patriots. Labelling all Union Jack and St George’s cross flag shaggers racist isn’t stimulating reasoned intelligent debate with facts, figure and evidence is it. Rather than succumbed to propaganda and social media manipulation isn’t it time intelligence and patriotism found each other.

Our flag flies above the Monarchs home, was HM The Queen, was she a flag shagger ?

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