To find it hard to be sympathetic when DH is ill

[Purplemoon16]

Am I the only person that struggles to muster up any sympathy for their DH when they’re ill? If there’s a bug going about DH ALWAYS seems to catch it worse than anyone else. When I had bad morning sickness in all three of my pregnancies times it coincided with him having a prolonged cough. He doesn’t seem to have much resilience or willingness to just crack on.

It’s come to a head now as Im 30 weeks pregnant and have been catching cold after cold after cold lately, probably at least six colds in the last two months. But I’ve not really had a choice but to get up with our DCs, go to work full time, etc. By contrast DH caught a cold last week, I started off trying my best as he did look poorly but it’s been more than 7 days now of me giving him lie ins every day and he’s still got the dressing gown of doom on and my patience is really wearing thin! He refuses to see a doctor or take a day off work of course.

It always leads to arguments that I’m not being sympathetic enough or that he’s not allowed to be ill but really I find it so difficult to find any empathy when I also have a cold, woke up with the DCs at 5am and he shuffles downstairs at 8.

AIBU?

Yes I have which is unlike anything I’ve experienced before! I think it must be because I’m pregnant, working full time and just generally exhausted. Usually I get a couple each year.

Well he could have got it very badly @RuttleTuttle ?! 😆

DH is one of these but in his (mild) defence, he and his father are prone to nasty chest infections in the wake of a cold and DH had a spate of years of pericarditis after any viral respiratory infection.... So sometimes he gets sympathy.

That said he is a dressing down of doom, refusal to take paracetamol or lemsip, shuffling, snorting, sniffing mess for any mild cold and it makes me murderous. Isn't is astonishing that about 40mins after a lemsip being forced into his hand that he announces he feels great and he doesn't knows why. 🙄

In short, I'd be stuffing your DH with cold and flu tablets at regular intervals to get some sanity back. No, you should need to but it is cheaper than divorce or murder.

Mine now knows better to complain if he hasn’t taken any medicine. If you’re ill you do what’s needed to recover.

Also insists on taking 1 paracetamol. Grr. Either you’re ill and need medicine, or you aren’t.