I beginning to think that i need to find somewhere else rather then MN today.

[lizziemun]

Feel free to ignore me while i have a little rant .

So far today i have read a thread implying i am lazy because i am a SAHM, because i have a child over year old. I don't work because i cannot afford the costs in going back to work.

We have a car which we rely on so we are stupid. No we bought a house in an area which we could afford, but DH can only get to work by car as public transport would take 3 times longer to do the journey he does so he would never see his children.

So here my rant JUST GET ON WITH YOUR OWN LIFE AND FAMILY AND STOP JUDGING EVERYONE WHO DOES NOT DO WHAT YOU WOULD DO.

As i say i don't give a flying f*ck what/how other people live theirs lives i have my own.

Thank you i go back to being a lazy SAHM and clean the bathroom,hoover downstairs, wash the kitchen floor before my youngest dd wakes up .

well said lizzie!!! YANBU

the whole fun of the Mumsnet experience is in the judging so maybe you do need to find another site. The bbc parenting site is pretty mundane

Well said!

That's to the OP!!

I think the SAHM one was school age rather than one so you're not being judged on that one at least . Don't worry about them, it is all people who are too bored to actually think of something good to do so decide to start a fight with people they've never met.

But it would be dull if there was no judgey-ness, lol!
lizzie, you are grand as you are. Just shrug it off.

P.S: can you come round mine later and do my bathroom, floors, etc, etc?

Also... have you changed your sheets in the last two weeks??? If not, you are a very bad person...

And I hope you didn't wean too early.

Am tempted to ignore you while you rant as suggested but sometimes posts like these irritate me too.

MN is a public forum where people express their opinions/views. If someone isn't keen on a car/being a SAHM they can say so. Just as you can say the opposite.

But in answer to your actual question - no, YANBU to want find somewhere else rather than MN when you need some space. MN - and all the differing opinions on it - can be infuriating ... but fun too so come back tomorrow!

I don't think it would be boring without the judginess.
I think some posters on here are nasty, and it's a bit sad if you only come on MN to vent and be mean.

YANBU, but try and rise above it, like me (when in a good mood).

I too must be lazy and stoopid as I am a SAHM (with all five at school too I might add), and rely on my car too!!!

but I don;t care what people think (most of the time....PMT makes me care) as they are not living my life, so therefore cannot make judgement calls on what they see on the surface.

same as me, I cannot judge either on others, as I too do not know their lives or reasons for doing things.

I do however like to judge in my own little world......

But this whole judginess argument is silly.

EVERYONE judges. You are now judging the judgy ones.

As soon as you have an opinion on something you are effectively judging.

Just go to the threads in question and tell them why they are wrong.

can't you reverse the feeling and revel in the fact that you are getting up peoples noses here by just doing stuff thats not really nad at all? Its my regression to my teenage rebellious state but I sometimes love it when I my kids eat in their pushchair (especially a sausage roll) and I think some mn-er will be getting all steamed up about it. Its great the petty things than wind people up. Off the top of my head on here I have read about people who are annoyed by people eating the froth off a cappucino, giving you child a diminutive as a name and having peas with a tomato based pasta sauce.

Obviouslu the things that wind me up are very very important and not petty at all.

MN is not real.it is a bunch of women blethering on PC's. dont get in a twist about what a bunch of anonymous strangers think!

some choices are complex and personal, and tbh not resolved online

be happy with your choices.

daily i see thread that i am abandoning my (crying) child condemning it to a life a institutionalised bad care in nursery all for the pursuit of mere money and career

imo some threads best avoided

eg
SAHM-WOHM
FF - BF
Private - State schools

they are cyclical and toxic trotting out the same ole arguements. get very heated and lots of humphy faces

bad not nad.

I disagerr, standing still. I think there is a difference between having an opinion but being open to other people's pov and calling them names and dismissing them because they are not like you.

there are three sahm/wohm threads

One - judging sahms for not getting jobs
One - judging wohms to be mad for getting jobs
One - Fightfree thread

You have all three points of view on the go yet you are determined to feel negative about it

So do you really mean you just want to be agreed with?

Cos if so, you're in the wrong place

Maybe she just wants to be listened toand not called names?
I think most people just want to be understood on here

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I 'judge' people who I feel may be taking unnecessary risks, or just doing something I don't agree with.

I'm sure people judge me too, we all have different priorities in life, opinions and views vary.

I don't think people need to result to name-calling though, as I said on a recent thread, I may call peoples 'opinions' stupid or mad, but not the actual person.

We are all made up of many more things than our one opinion on each topic and it would do some people a lot of good to recognise that.

Just remind yourself, mumsnet is not real life, its a place where opinionated people can go to make bold statements they probably don't even fully believe.

No-one I know in RL would ever judge anyone on being a SAHM or WOHM, for formula feeding, for owning a car, for using disposable nappies, for not having a chicken coop or for following a certain parenting manual.

I [heart] mumsnet but at the same time don't take it too seriously or else I would go mad. As the old saying goes, can't live with it, can't live without it

Spanky, you are right, of course, about the name-calling. And there are some extremes on here who get waaaay out of line in a way that is totally unnecessary. Personally I find those belligerent and irrational sorts hard to take seriously and pretty easy to ignore.

Equally annoying though are the shrinking violets who are willing to take offence at the slightest suggestion of a differing opinion.

Yes, you are right, spanky.
I have had a terrible weekend and have been on this morning seeking advice. One ignorant person implied I was selfish - when all I wanted was to be UNDERSTOOD. I didn't come on for a slagging off.

Good post lizzie, quite right too (but don't leave us just yet, you'd be missed!)