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To remove the parking cones?

481 replies

NameChanger401 · 15/09/2025 16:33

i have a tight turnaround for the school run each morning as need to catch a train to office (commute to London). The only way to make it logistically possible is to drive to school breakfast club, drop kids off at 7.30ish then walk to station near school so I can get to office for 9am. Then the car is there when I pick up at 6pm later in the day so I can make pickup easily too. School is on a residential road, with on street open marked parking spaces there are usually a few spaces at 7.30 with no timing restrictions, I assume as some residents have left for work. However, I’ve noticed since the new term has started, a random traffic cone has been put in the middle a couple of the spaces, which I believe has been put there by those living on the road to stop people parking outside their house. If this is the case, would you think it would be unreasonable to move the cone to park if there is no other close by parking space?

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/09/2025 10:24

BananaSqueezer · 16/09/2025 10:23

Weird. I didn’t even type ‘public land’.

"Publicly owned" then.

The rest is irrelevant.

If you owned the land in front of your house then where does it stop?

Do you have the right to sunbathe naked in the front garden of the people who live opposite as well?

cakeisallyouneed · 16/09/2025 10:29

I’ve had my car vandalised for parking legally in a residential street. So I wouldn’t want to risk being seen to move the cones. But I might be tempted to do it in the evening, and then park in the spot in the morning and if challenged, the cones weren’t there!
Def worth an email to your council highways team. They may do nothing but sometimes councils stamp down on this stuff and they may swing by and remove them.

GleisZwei · 16/09/2025 10:29

JustGoClickLikeALightSwitch · 16/09/2025 10:14

This is me and I do have this shit going on outside my house (inner London like PP). That was the deal when we bought. I don't love it - I have "my" space and would rather every other driver didn't see it - but it broadly works. People come, people go... it's a road. The council proposed a CPZ here recently and it was a resounding no.

OP doesn't really fit in to the 'people come, people go' - she stays all day, every day.

GameWheelsAlarm · 16/09/2025 10:29

Nudge the cone out of the way. Put a notice in the car window that this car is parked entirely legally on a public road and is equipped with motion-sensitive video recording which will capture images of anyone interfering with it in any way (getting keyed or tires slashed is unfortunately very likely)

GleisZwei · 16/09/2025 10:30

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/09/2025 10:19

But she CAN have free parking on a street with no parking restrictions. The residents have no more entitlement to it than she does. So she doesn't need to spend her money unnecessarily paying to park at the station, which is both expensive and less convenient for her.

HTH.

She's being inconsiderate.
HTH

SprayWhiteDung · 16/09/2025 10:31

GleisZwei · 16/09/2025 10:06

My word doesn't have to be final to you, but it is to me.
It's not an analogy, not matter how many times you say it is. I explained that very clearly in my first reply. Have a pleasant day, I am sure we both have better or more pressing things to do. ;)

Merriam Webster: analogy noun

1a
a comparison of two otherwise unlike things based on resemblance of a particular aspect

The particular aspect obviously being the standard places where things live when they aren't being used, and the fact that neither object in one of these places has been 'dumped'. Of course I wasn't suggesting that your living room is a public place; nor that the public road isn't a public place; that was kind of the nuance of my point.

You're very right that I have much better things to do - and I wasn't the one who decided to quibble over somebody else's word usage and then decide that my own preferred analogy meant that somebody else's somehow wasn't then an analogy - so I am extremely happy to leave it there if you are.

Have a pleasant day! Smile

Definition of NOUN

any member of a class of words that typically can be combined with determiners to serve as the subject of a verb, can be interpreted as singular or plural, can be replaced with a pronoun, and refer to an entity, quality, state, action, or concept… See...

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/noun

Noaparkday · 16/09/2025 10:31

GleisZwei · 16/09/2025 09:56

It is weird, and entitled.
There is a car park nearby, for commuters (which is what OP is), yet she feels more entitled to use the local streets as a car park. Of course residents are annoyed, especially if there are several OPs trying to do this every day. It's inconsiderate, no matter how legal it is, and anyone with any decency knows that. We have to make special rules for OP though, you know, because she is the only one with children and the only one working full time and the only one who would be eating gruel every day if she couldn't make herself the main character in everyone else's lives.

Edited

I think it is more entitled to choose to purchase a house without parking then try to monopolise the shared on street parking. Nothing to stop the residents paying for a monthly pass to the car park.

BananaSqueezer · 16/09/2025 10:32

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/09/2025 10:24

"Publicly owned" then.

The rest is irrelevant.

If you owned the land in front of your house then where does it stop?

Do you have the right to sunbathe naked in the front garden of the people who live opposite as well?

Seriously, wtf? Is it really too much to ask that when you buy a house - and the ‘land’ that lies under it (because owning pieces of the earth is a thing) - that you should be allowed to park on that space? Or is the whole concept of owning earth/property bollocks? You either own it or you don’t. If you believe people own it, then it is incredibly weird that you don’t also think that extends to the bit of pavement outside your front door.

GleisZwei · 16/09/2025 10:32

SprayWhiteDung · 16/09/2025 10:31

Merriam Webster: analogy noun

1a
a comparison of two otherwise unlike things based on resemblance of a particular aspect

The particular aspect obviously being the standard places where things live when they aren't being used, and the fact that neither object in one of these places has been 'dumped'. Of course I wasn't suggesting that your living room is a public place; nor that the public road isn't a public place; that was kind of the nuance of my point.

You're very right that I have much better things to do - and I wasn't the one who decided to quibble over somebody else's word usage and then decide that my own preferred analogy meant that somebody else's somehow wasn't then an analogy - so I am extremely happy to leave it there if you are.

Have a pleasant day! Smile

Rightio.
My reply stands.

JustGoClickLikeALightSwitch · 16/09/2025 10:32

GleisZwei · 16/09/2025 10:29

OP doesn't really fit in to the 'people come, people go' - she stays all day, every day.

I genuinely couldn't get worked up about this, though I see others might. And I'm not an easygoing person generally! I wfh sometimes and see that we also have Simon with the three cars, matey from the vet who parks her work van here, the guys from the car wash depositing customers' cars nearby, x sort of traffic during the term, y sort of traffic during the holidays, lots of women with RRs and yoga mats when a Reformer studio opened and so on. It's within the law.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/09/2025 10:32

GleisZwei · 16/09/2025 10:30

She's being inconsiderate.
HTH

She doesn't owe them any consideration. Everyone is equally entitled to park on the public highway where there are no parking restrictions.

The fact that they live on that street is completely irrelevant.

HTH.

bruffin · 16/09/2025 10:33

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/09/2025 10:19

But she CAN have free parking on a street with no parking restrictions. The residents have no more entitlement to it than she does. So she doesn't need to spend her money unnecessarily paying to park at the station, which is both expensive and less convenient for her.

HTH.

Making it less convenient for people who actually live on the street. Op chose not to live near the scool or station , she can pay for parking.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/09/2025 10:33

bruffin · 16/09/2025 10:33

Making it less convenient for people who actually live on the street. Op chose not to live near the scool or station , she can pay for parking.

It doesn't matter whether it's convenient for them or not. She doesn't want or have to pay for expensive and less convenient parking when there is free and more convenient parking available. Neither would you.

bruffin · 16/09/2025 10:35

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/09/2025 10:33

It doesn't matter whether it's convenient for them or not. She doesn't want or have to pay for expensive and less convenient parking when there is free and more convenient parking available. Neither would you.

Edited

But it should matter

Megifer · 16/09/2025 10:35

Surely the residents should simply get a job where they WFH so op can't park there?

👀

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/09/2025 10:35

bruffin · 16/09/2025 10:35

But it should matter

Why? She doesn't owe them anything.

Noaparkday · 16/09/2025 10:37

bruffin · 16/09/2025 10:33

Making it less convenient for people who actually live on the street. Op chose not to live near the scool or station , she can pay for parking.

Surely when the residents purchased their properties, they felt the lack of parking was an inconvenience they could live with.

Noaparkday · 16/09/2025 10:37

Megifer · 16/09/2025 10:35

Surely the residents should simply get a job where they WFH so op can't park there?

👀

Or get rid of their cars, given they do not own anywhere to park them.

AliceMcK · 16/09/2025 10:38

Facecloth · 16/09/2025 08:48

Exact scenario happened 5 minutes walk from me. The parking for the teachers was actually outside the school by a large park.
Residents filled up the parking completely and closed their gates.
They did this as the Principal was ineffective.
It worked.

Only because it became a huge staff problem for the Principal.
The Residents were very annoyed and there was chaos for a couple of weeks.

Now the entrance to the road is patrolled by a warden every morning, only allowing residents and teachers access during school hours.
It was an entitled parent who blocked an elderly neighbour in repeatedly, and was rude when she was asked to move by her visiting daughter, that set things off.

The incident was partly recorded by her child and has done the rounds on the Residents WhatsApp and different parenting group.
That parent is being blamed for it all which is hilarious as it had been escalating since Covid.

This is very similar to what happened here. I was once screamed at that I didn’t know what was going on in a parents life when I asked her to move her car as it was blocking my garage I was trying to get into after picking my own young children up, I also had a baby in the car as well as a drop kerb she parked across.

i think the escalating moment was when the priest from the church next to the school that allowed parents to park in the car park was verbally abused by 2 parents parking on the grass in the church garden. The school is a faith school so were fuming the older priest had been subjected to that abuse. Other parents were also pissed as many attend the church but mainly because he closed the gate stopping anyone parking in the car park.

The thing is it was just laziness on the parents part, as well as the church next to the school there is also a large car park that’s part of a social club a matter of 3-4 mins walk from the school that allowed the car park to be used during the day, so there is no need for parents to block the road.

Ddakji · 16/09/2025 10:40

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/09/2025 10:33

It doesn't matter whether it's convenient for them or not. She doesn't want or have to pay for expensive and less convenient parking when there is free and more convenient parking available. Neither would you.

Edited

This is a prime example of “just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should”.

All the schools DD has been at have taken relations with their residential neighbours very seriously, with stern emails being sent out regarding inconsiderate (and sometimes dangerous) parking, and a strong push towards active travel to school for children.

When you live to a street with a school on you expect disruption and drop off and pick up. What you don’t necessarily expect is for your street to be used as a car park for school parents. That’s where you end up with parking restrictions for 1-2 hours in the middle of the day.

GleisZwei · 16/09/2025 10:43

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/09/2025 10:32

She doesn't owe them any consideration. Everyone is equally entitled to park on the public highway where there are no parking restrictions.

The fact that they live on that street is completely irrelevant.

HTH.

Does nobody owe OP any consideration either then?

GleisZwei · 16/09/2025 10:44

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/09/2025 10:33

It doesn't matter whether it's convenient for them or not. She doesn't want or have to pay for expensive and less convenient parking when there is free and more convenient parking available. Neither would you.

Edited

So, OP doesn't matter either then?

Pinkelephant66 · 16/09/2025 10:44

BruisedNeckMeat · 15/09/2025 16:41

I know the Mumsnet consensus is that a public road is a free for all, but I can’t imagine how frustrating it is for residents who have to live on a road with both a school and commuter parking.

Can you not park at the station?

I would presume the school and the train station was there before the existing residents moved there. So they knew full well what living next to a school and a train station entails…

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/09/2025 10:44

Ddakji · 16/09/2025 10:40

This is a prime example of “just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should”.

All the schools DD has been at have taken relations with their residential neighbours very seriously, with stern emails being sent out regarding inconsiderate (and sometimes dangerous) parking, and a strong push towards active travel to school for children.

When you live to a street with a school on you expect disruption and drop off and pick up. What you don’t necessarily expect is for your street to be used as a car park for school parents. That’s where you end up with parking restrictions for 1-2 hours in the middle of the day.

So it's up to the residents to campaign for those parking restrictions. Since they don't currently exist, the OP can continue to park for free.

What the OP "should" do is entirely a matter of opinion. As long as she is parking safely and legally, anyone who doesn't like it can get stuffed.

If you live on a street with unrestricted parking, within walking distance of a station which is commutable to London, then frankly you're an idiot if you don't expect people to use it as a car park.

GleisZwei · 16/09/2025 10:44

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/09/2025 10:35

Why? She doesn't owe them anything.

They don't owe her anything either.

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