I got a long ranting text off a friend of mine saying why I wasn’t making an effort with her any more. No how are you, how is the baby etc, just why hadn’t I been in contact with her and if I “had a problem I should let her know”. I don’t have a problem; I have a high needs baby that is taking up all of my time. She knows this. She’s seen the baby twice since she’s been born as she refuses to drive to my house as she’s apparently too anxious driving here. It’s a 40 minute drive so not exactly hours. I always used to go to hers for the 10 years I’ve known her. She’s always trauma dumped on me, EVERYTHING is a drama and about her, and now I don’t really care about her drama (in the nicest possible way) it’s like I’m the worst person in the world.
Also, she never initiates contact or meets with me, it’s always been me organising. Is this just a friendship I should knock on the head? I don’t have time for people this needy who can’t understand why I might not be so present at the moment.