Pervy messages from friend

[Theslummymummy]

My friend has started sending me inappropriate messages. I've blocked them for now as I dont want to confront them and I dont want to keep receiving them.

We have been friends a long time, we haven't seen each other recently but we do keep in touch. But recently he's upped the ante and been messaging every day, usually just about work, holidays, weather etc

I'd say from my point of view they have come out of nowhere. We were messaging last week and I was saying how I dont think my dog likes meat anymore and he replied "I'd eat your meat" I said "sorry?" and he replied "not in a cannibal way" I was pretty disgusted so didn't reply. I thought he'd got the message because he didn't bring it up again and the next time he messaged was a different topic. Then roday!!! We were talking about Xmas and he said he wasn't going to do anything for it this year other then a work meal out and then he said "I'm not doing anything else unless I'm stuffing you" I was really pissed off he seems to think he can talk to me like this, he then sent 2 more messages to the same tune, which I didn't really read and I just blocked.

Am I in the right? I haven't over reached have i?

He obviously thinks it’s okay to be flirty and full on, personally I wouldn’t have blocked straight away but instead pull him up on it. Ask why he’s trying to change he the dynamics of the friendship and point out you’re not flirting with him as you’ve ignored his last few attempts.

Yuck. He's not funny.
Very immature.

Could someone have got a hold of his phone, how bizarre a long term friend would suddenly talk to you like this! YANBU.

Yeah you've totally overreached OP 🙄

Gross

That was meant to say reacted but I couldn't edit it.

That's what I thought. The messages aren't even flirty or attractive.

Messages are fucking rancid. 'I'd eat your meat?' To someone you've no intimate relationship with? I would feel violated. What a minger.

Is it entirely out of character? Have you seen him in person? Any chance some shitty friend of his has got hold of his phone?

Have you confronted him about these vile messages? I think that you need to find out if he has had his phone hacked/stolen/he's drunk/drugged or if, finally, he's showing you who he really is.

Tell him to knock it off.

He is NOT your friend.

gross, what a predator. Sorry he said this to you OP the eating meat thing is disgusting and disrespectful. Yet another man who thinks women are there to be debased

I think you were right blocking him. Why waste your time telling him what a skeeve he is, he knows and doesn't care.

Now you know he's not a friend.

💯%. Crude, tactless, and highly distasteful even within an intimate relationship 🤢

I voted YABU

OP
... have you name changed and then replied to yourself?

No, she referred to over reached in her OP, then PP used same term, so OP corrected what she meant.

@Theslummymummy I wouldn't stand for this; if he's otherwise a good friend I'd set him straight and tell him never to speak like that to me again. But if not, I'd have also blocked

Many thanks. My singular braincell was very confused 😅

As you've been friends for a while and this has come out of the blue I'm not sure if you have handled it well. I've had a male friend for a long time and if I started getting messages like that I'd be arranging to meet him to see what's going on because it just wouldn't be normal for him so I'd think there's some explanation. Been hacked, mental health issues etc

Ewwww…I had a long-term ‘friend’ who ended up like this. Always ended up sending super-crude things when I just knew he was getting himself off in what, the hopes I’d play along? Never blocked him but just ignored his messages until he stopped talking to me. He might have been one of my oldest friends but if he couldn’t respect our friendship, it didn’t really exist anywhere except in my head.

Yuck - that’s utterly gross and so entitled!!

How unpleasant. How old is this person?

This

This was why I didn't say anything, I really don't think I should have to. I feel like he was trying to use me and in my world you don't do that to a friend. But I am really disappointment he thinks you can treat a woman like that.

Hes 36 for people asking.

@Didimum id say not very likely. He doesn't really have any friends and he's messaged normal stuff too.