To not want to send a voice note on whatsapp to someone I've just exchanged numbers with on a dating app

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Anyone else hate sending voice notes? Especially to people you don't know. I just find them awkward and embarrassing, and would much rather text but he keeps asking me

You can communicate well by text if you are
good at it

100% this.

Especially if you've not met him yet. There's a horrible extortion scam using AI voice manipulation where your voice is used to create a recording and you're basically blackmailed.

I'd not feel comfortable, but then it's not really any different to a phone call I guess.

Online dating is the worst.

But you're not allowing for the recipient, are you. Perhaps they'll misread it. It's very common to misread the nuance in a text, particularly when you are speaking to a stranger.

If someone doesn't even want to hear my voice before going on a date, well fine.

I'm also dyslexic, which is why I use voice to text speech recognition to post on here and to do most things. I'd love it if people suggested voice notes and I use them quite frequently. It saves me from having to read big chunks of text which can be hard for me.

There can be reasons for wanting to use voice notes.

For you maybe.

Not for the majority of people on this discussion.

Fine. But why bother going on a date if you don't want to hear their voice.

I'm also dyslexic I said, and it's easier for me to speak and listen.

You don't want to.
That's that.

I'd probably go quiet on the messaging tbh and see what happens next.

That’s obtuse. There’s a big difference between having a conversation with someone face to face, or even over the phone, to leaving voice notes. Not wanting to engage in voice note tennis with someone doesn’t mean you don’t want to date them or ‘hear their voice’.

Just phone him.

Tell him you'll send one after he sends you a video him doing an interpretive dance to Cardi B's WAP.

He doesn't get to demand things from you. Also, if hes a waffler I'd bin him now because they just get worse.

Of want hear someone’s voice m, I’ll talk on the phone or actually meet them face to face.

I find voice notes irritating and always respond with text. What’s the point of a VN rather than an actual phone conversation?

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not date him, if she's not comfortable with him 😂

Phone conversation implies that you are both available at the same time

Voice notes allow you to send messages when convenient, and the other person to listen and reply when convenient to them.

I can't spend 24h a day with everyone I like 😂, so voice notes do well until we meet.

I would love to know the age and background of posters on most threads

I used to never respond to men that would send them. They used to give me the ick.

My dp does this and has done since day 1 I reply with a txt , I don’t do voice notes neither and won’t be anytime soon😊 just that.

I am in my mid thirties. I never use voice notes. I met my husband online and funnily enough, we never communicated using voice notes!

I hate a voice note! I have one friend who always sends them, but I can’t listen in public unless I have earbuds handy. And if there’s anything important in it, you can’t just quickly re read. I find them intrusive and annoying, I never send them.

Youve ignored my dyslexia.
Can you at least accept there may be a reason why some people would prefer a voice note?

I can use speech to text to write my messages.But reading them can be hard.