To really dislike neighbour & not want to help her?

[cauliflowerf]

Since my next door neighbour moved in a year ago her and her kids have been nothing but a nuisance.

Firstly they would trespass onto my driveway, standing all over my plants, I had no privacy at all and had to spend money on big trellis planters to keep her kids off my driveway.

She has several cats that poo in my garden.
I have owned cats in the past and cat proofed my garden so my neighbours were not inconvenienced.

I have had to spend more money on fencing panels to block up the hedgehog holes, spikes things etc just to keep her cats away now.
Handyman is coming on Monday to sort it out as I have toddlers and OH is working away.

I am really annoyed that all I seem to do is spend money to keep her kids and pets of my property.

She often will ask if I can take her parcels in, I just refuse and don’t open the door.

She gets her gardener to come every 2 weeks and has to leave the back door open, she would usually give me a key to the back gate to give to him but I have now told her I am busy.

AIBU to feel so annoyed with her and not wanting to help her?

Neigbbour is well aware of the issues as I have previously mentioned them to her.

YANBU Surely she's got the message by now that you don't want to be neighbourly, you just want to be left alone.

She must be fairly slow on the uptake if not.

Our ndn's haven't even moved in yet and we bloody hate them! Zero notice of 12 hour building work days. When we have a baby and a ddog with terminal cancer.. With some notice we could have made alternative arrangements for them.
We won't be being neighbourly ever.

Have you ever mentioned any of the issues to her?

Yes I have mentioned the issues to her.
I just hate that I have to keep spending money to keep her and her pets off my property.

It's gross. I had a friend that used to chuck the cat poo back over the neighbours using a little garden shovel for that purpose. Soon sorted it out. I know that approach is not for everyone, but It makes it a them problem again, rather than a you problem. Entitled people don't care if you're inconvenienced.

@LemonSqueezy0
I was actually thinking of chucking it back over the fence.

I am absolutely sick of her cats.

I think you sound a bit cantankerous. I don’t think it’s possible to catproof a garden. I’d prefer the neighbourhood cats weren’t continually taking a shortcut through mine, either, but nothing can be done. My garden has steep brick walls and a 25 foot cliff at the back, and I still see one cat in particular scaling it via climbing a tree close to the cliff face to get into the garden above.

And I assume it is a shared drive, or adjacent drives without a boundary if you had to buy planters to demarcate it. For all you know your toddlers would have been running all over your neighbours’ driveway in a few years.

But the kids aren't just running on the drive; they're evidently trampling OP's plants.

Not all neighbours do one another favours. She should take the hint soon that you're not interested in helping her. It's all fine, so long as you're not asking any favours of her.

Don’t worry, I’m sure she’ll soon realise how unfriendly you are.

You sound like a nightmare neighbour, not her.

No it isn’t a shared drive it’s my own driveway with no barriers (until I put planters in).

The kids were constantly trespassing.
Trampling all over my lovely plants
Practically looking into my windows.

You sound like a nightmare neighbour, not her.

What?
Because she doesn't want to clean up her garden after someone else's pet?
Bet you have a cat

Yabu for blocking up hedgehog holes

It is possible to cat-proof a garden to keep cats in.

She has cats and kids who walk on York garden. What a dreadful woman.

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You sound like a ton of fun.

@LadyHexham you bet wrong, I'm not an animal lover of any description.

I can understand being slightly irritated, but couldn't even be bothered to sigh or tut about it tbh. Cats can legally free roam in this country. It's not like the woman next door is training her cats to shit in the OP's garden.

OP comes across as rather irascible, not to mention dramatic. I would expect to be laughed at if I used the word "trespass" about kids who live next door standing on my driveway, it's pathetic.

My advice would be to live on a boat in the middle of the ocean. Although all manner of shit will make contact with your vessel, no one will ask you to take in their parcels and there is only the slimmest chance of those evil little flower tramplers called children happening upon your property.

I’m not sure how I sound like a nightmare neighbour?

I don’t stand screaming in front of my neighbours living room window waking up her infant kids for a start number 1.

I don’t stand all over her lovely plants either.

I have had cats in the past and I like animals but by kids health is my number 1 concern here, why the hell should their garden be covered in cat poo when it isn’t even our cat?

And YES you can cat proof a garden because I did it when I had cats and my neighbour down the road had done it!

@cauliflowerf the neighbours just sounds like a normal family, where the kids sometimes do things they're not supposed to, because they're kids. They have pet cats like a massive percentage of people in the UK (assuming that's where you live), about a quarter or more of households I believe. The vast majority of which free roam. She's not some freak or targeting you in any way for having cats that do this. You OTOH are all wound up and ready to snap and taking it all personally over what seems like nothing to me. Just my perception and opinion. I wouldn't want to live next door to you but would be fine living next door to your neighbour.

I wouldn't want kids trampling on my plants. How old are the kids.but It's mean to block the hedgehog holes and spikes on fences is just cruel.. why does the gardener need to use her back door.

The spikes don’t hurt the cats, they simply deter them away.

Her lawn is as the back and her garden door is locked with a key, she dosent want to give him a key.

The gardner only works a specific day in our area and she is at work.

What are the spikes made of. Cats weave in-between the rubber ones.

What do you want her to do? Have a stern word with the cats? Cats roam, it’s just what they do. Cat proof your garden and get on with your life. You could get far worse.

Put the hose or a supersoaker at her cats, every single time you see them in your garden, that, combined with chucking the poo back over should sort the fuckers out.

Motion-activated sprinklers work well to deter cats and people. Set up cameras and have a laugh.
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