Asking for help with housework as a SAHM with 1 yo & 3yo

[Anonymous23458d]

I asked my husband for help today. If he can do more when he finishes work with household things as I'm finding it really tough doing everything with a 1 yo and 3 yo. The 3yo goes to preschool two mornings a week and in that time sometimes I can get tea on in the slowcooker but other than that not much else. Husband will do the pots in the morning and occasionally take the bins out and occasionally put the washing away only if I ask. He works from home so its not as if he has commute time. He doesnt do anything to do with the household after work he will put one child to bed but doesnt like bathtime. And never does anything on the weekend other than putting a wash on now and then when his kit needs washing. I asked him for help on message today and he sent me the below. Am I wrong for requesting him to help with housework in the evening and at the weekend?

He's a misogynistic idiot, that's for sure.

But choosing to be a SAHM will always result in an imbalance/asymmetry of roles, in my opinion. Your roles are so different and traditionally-gendered, and that was your choice.

I used to have one like this. He wanted the ‘family man’ image but didn’t want to do any of the parenting. For a multitude of reasons he had to go. He really did want to live in the 1950s and I was living in a different millennium to him.

Go back to work and throw this one back as soon as you can.