Does your husband know you’re on mumsnet?

[dingodingo]

Dh is very uncomfortable about it and doesn’t like me being on here.
How do yours feel? If they know

Same here I’m sure he’s on some sports websites I’m equally uninterested in

Yes, I regularly start conversations with him with "I was reading ... on Mumsnet". It would be a huge red flag to me if my husband tried to control me and stop me being on Mumsnet, but I would never discuss problems with him on here because he is an incredible person and my best friend and if I had an issue I'd talk directly to him about it. Perhaps your husband should stop being a prick rather than trying to stop you talking about him being a prick?

Mine wouldn’t even know or care what Mumsnet is .

Tell him he can sign up for his own account. We’d love to hear his side of things. All’s fair here.

My partner knows I use it & doesn’t mind.

I definitely wouldn’t use it as an outlet to slag him off though. It kind of seems like you enjoy ranting about him knowing that everyone will think he’s a piece of shit.

I can see why he’s not chuffed about you being on it.

Tbf I wouldn’t like it if my partner was posting about me.

I’m in the same situation OP, mine hates me using Mumsnet because he is controlling and abusive and he hates that he gets called out on it every time.

He doesn’t know the half of what I have posted about him, I change user name regularly.

My husband actually did that - he got told he was controlling and abusive on his own thread.

Ever since he has called it full of bitter man hating women.

Yes, because I tell him about all the batshit posts I see on here.

Yes. Completely fine about it but even if he wasn't who cares?

Yes, mine knows and accepts that I enjoy the site in my downtime. Occasionally in an argument when I’m feisty and resolute he’ll attribute it to MN (rightly so as fellow posters have given me the confidence). I’ve haven’t started a thread or moaned about him on here though, just nodded my head in agreement at times.

Mine does. He asks me sometimes 'what are the ladies talking about today?' And 'what do the Mumsnetters think of the poison mushroom killer/Nigel Farage/The long hot Spring and Summer/Keir Starmer/Prince William and Catherine and Meghan and Harry etc etc etc.' I have suggested he joins, as he could have some fun, as many posters are funny and clever, but he says 'nah I would be too shy to post!' 😆

He could stop being so unreasonable, then.

My ex-husband didn't like when I talked about our issues with a friend. I was genuinely seeking advice from the friend, and I honestly was not trying to make him look bad. But he didn't want me talking about our issues with her because he didn't want her to think badly of him. When I initially suggested marriage counseling, he expressed the same issue - that the therapist would side with me. It was a 🚩

So if hes embarrassed by stranger's hearing the description of his actions; does that not make him embarrassed by his actions? Does that mean he accepts he was/is unreasonable in whatever post it was where his name was mud...

Or is it the fact you're getting support and hearing its not your fault like he said it was.

Not only does Dh know I am on here, first came here for breastfeeding advice for my youngest child and he is now 19, but my own sons see the page on my laptop and ask what's this one about and weigh in with an opinion whether it is unreasonable or not

Dh has his own account to post on niche topics he knows about.

To quote Pam from Gavin and Stacey, "It's all the drama Mick, I just love it" better than listening to gossip in a coffee shop on MN most days.

If your Dh's behaviour is shitty and he recognises that it is he should amend his behaviour, then you won't post about it.

Yes he does and he couldn’t care less!

My exhusband hated me being on here.
Mumsnet helped me realise how badly he was abusing me. And he knew it!
I thank God for that.

I'm sorry you're in that situation. I won't say any more than that as, if you've posted about it, you have no doubt been told to LTB, get your ducks in a row etc. It's not always that simple.

Sending you strength.

Same here.

Sometimes I tell him about some of the funny threads - I just read a few bits.
I don't want him knowing my username in case I ever need to slag him off 😅

My partner knows and couldn't care less but then he isn't an insecure fuckwit so... I've shared posts with him and he's given his opinion on some things, laughed at the wit, etc but overall he just appreciates I have an additional outlet for support should I need it.

Your husband is showing some concerning behaviour OP I hope you have others in your life to support you.

My DH has zero interest in any social media and couldn't care less if I'm on mumsnet. He probably has no idea what it's all about!

Yes, he does. I’ve never said anything untrue about him and never derogatory. I’d be fuming it he ever grabbed me phone out if my have sbd then told me off.

So many typos, sorry!

My husband is also on Mumsnet. He definitely doesn't mind.

My DH suggested I download the MN app as he sees I like using MN so much 😀