Does your husband know you’re on mumsnet?

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Dh is very uncomfortable about it and doesn’t like me being on here.
How do yours feel? If they know

My dh knows and couldn’t care less! He’s on car forums likewise I couldn’t care less

The issue with telling your mum is she would never forget if he's done something wrong or not nice and then you would get over it and she maybe wouldn't. Anonymous is best.
You've got more problens than mn if you're asking for advice/support on a regular basis. My dh knows i use it but has no idea or interest in it.

You’ve named him mud?!

but how does he know to do that… it took me a while to figure out this forum / let alone the app. He needed to have an inkling that you’ve been doing that…

I've no idea,but also I've no idea what he looks at online. Why does it matter? We're independent people.

😂 what a twit

Mine would not know what Mumsnet was and would not be interested in the slightest.

He can't email.

😝 😜

WTF? I've just seen this. He takes your phone off you to read what you're posting? My DH would never do that and I wouldn't do it to him but I'm pretty confident we don't have anything to hide from each other. We just have different interests,

He knows, I sometimes read funny things out to him. I come here and a couple of competition forums, he's normally on stuff about trains or planes. I think. We don't police each other's online activity tho

I tell him I'm reading the problem page and we discuss the odd post, he probably doesn't know what MN is tbh, he wouldn't be bothered, I'm not into cars, football or golf so we surf what we enjoy

First of all, he doesn’t need to know you’re on MN. Second, it’s not okay for him to grab your phone and read your posts. Third, he shouldn’t be dictating what you can and can’t do. Saying he doesn’t want you on MN because he doesn’t like you talking about him is like saying you shouldn’t go to therapy or confide in a friend. Everyone deserves a safe space to process and reflect.

Also, if he were truly perfect, which clearly isn’t the case, there wouldn’t be anything to complain about, and he wouldn’t be acting so insecure. This reminds me of my ex: when I suggested couples’ therapy, he said, “I don’t like sharing my personal life with strangers.” What he really meant was, “I’m afraid someone might see through me and confirm what I’m trying to hide.” Well, he’s an ex now, and that says enough.

This exactly!

My DH knows I am on this site and I have only commented out loud on about kids and parenting as we navigate through this ourselves.

I look at lots more topics too. He never asks what I’m looking at, does not do sideways glancing or takes my phone to look and read what I am writing. I also don’t do this back to him. He says he’s glad I enjoy this site.

I’m on here most waking hours, if he didn’t know I was a MNer he’d be pretty certain I was having an affair for all the typing and chuckling I do while looking at my phone.

I point out interesting topics and send links to my boyfriend. He says it's interesting to see woman's point of views on things. It's never been an issue.
Is your husband insecure?

Yes he knows and is fine about it. There’s no reason why it wouldn’t be ok.
He occasionally browses the boards himself and I often mention posts I’ve read.

As the great Taylor Swift once said when asked if any future prospective partners should be worried about having a song written about them, “if guys don’t want me to write bad songs about them, then they shouldn’t do bad things…”

Red flag

Of course he does. I often talk to him about threads and he gives me his opinion. He thinks my interest in it is nice and finds some threads funny.

Why on earth would he be uncomfortable with me reading and talking on a women’s forum?

My DH doesn’t care.

Except for when I ask him a bonkers hypothetical question and he correctly guesses ‘this is a mumsnet thing, isn’t it?’

Yes. I sometimes mention the odd thread. He finds it pretty normal.

My husband is not in the least bit interested….

This.

It's a bit like asking if your husband knows you sometimes go to M&S.

I sometimes share something I’ve read. He sometimes asks me what mn would make of this or that. Once he persuaded me to start a thread on something and I got slaughtered. I still hold that against him.

This weekend I kept asking him to check if my armpits smell of onions.