Hi, need some advice here please.
My DS and one of my neighbours DD are in the same class at school (Yr 3). We only moved here a year ago when they were both in Yr 2 and at first everything was nice, the kids used to play outside together, go between houses for 30 mins now and again. All fine, neighbours DD seems a sweet kid.
Then one morning before school I got a knock at the front door and the neighbours DD is on the front door step by herself asking if I can take her to school as mum said it was an emergency. The neighbour had recently had a DS who had been quite poorly recently so of course I said that’s fine, does your mum know you’re here etc. She said yes and I made her breakfast as she said her mum hadn’t made her any, as her dad wasn’t home. Again I thought the LO was sick or in hospital so didn’t think much of it. Then my neighbour appeared and asked if her DD was there (?!) and if I could take her to school too. I said yes and asked if everything was ok, she gave me a weird look and said yes then left. I don’t know why but I got a weird vibe from the whole thing and on the way to school her DD said her mum didn’t make her breakfast when her dad wasn’t there, only dad made her breakfast (?!) and her baby brother was fine.
After that the neighbour kept sending her DD down to play after school with my DS, always at our house, but I work at home and was essentially supervising two pretty active 7 year olds whilst also trying to work, so I started saying no because I was working, and she then stopped speaking to me for a few months and kept giving me really dirty looks when she saw me.
then suddenly last week a knock came to our front door about 40 mins before school pick up and she asked if I was going to school to collect my DS, I said no as he was in wraparound as I was working. I asked if everything was ok and again she gave me a really dirty look and said everything’s ok. Her DH then came back to their house, around school finish time with their DD, so he must have been local so not sure why she asked me?!
Later that day my DH said that he saw her come back home in the car with her DS (now a toddler) and he ran way from the car (not a public road, it’s inside an estate and away from any traffic so no safety concern) and she lifted her DS off the ground by the arm whilst shouting at him and carried him like that back as he was crying, my DH said he was really shocked at how aggressive and angry she was and that it wasn’t right and she was lucky she didn’t hurt him.
im now at the stage that I don’t want anything to do with this woman or her DD in my house, even though the DD is a lovely little girl. To be honest my instinct is there is something really off with her (the neighbour) and she gives me bad vibes so much that I don’t want my DS in her home. I often hear her DS screaming whilst her DD is at school, as if he has been left alone, even though her car is there.
i know she will ask me again to pick up her DS and I don’t want to, but they are literally the same class.
I feel like an asshole but I want to say no as I just feel there is something not right in that house. I don’t want them to play together anymore either tbh.
There are other things too but too much to post here, it’s an essay already, sorry!