Are people being too judgemental on here?

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I know this thread is supposed to be asking for others opinions on various issues. However, I am sometimes shocked and a little appalled at how judgemental people can be. I am not sure if there are any forum rules as such, I am new here. Surely this is a safe space to explore options? I just think a little more respect and autonomy over differing morals and values wouldn't go amiss. Actively listening to what the person is saying before jumping in would help I'm sure x

Nothing online is a "safe space"...

AIBU is the Viper's nest, it is not and has never been a safe space.

Sometimes I don't think there's enough judgement on here.

Yep. It’s become a pretty horrible place for OPs. Constant making things up to suit narratives, nitpicking, nasty responses, bizarre spitefulness.

Many people will dress it up as ‘honest’ and ‘a range of opinions’ and ‘not everyone will agree with you’ and disparaging the ‘be kind brigade’.

But it’s actually just plain nasty.

No.

Most people aren't judgemental enough.

You sound like you're judging judgemental people.

Are you new to the internet, OP?

MN is way nicer than any other space. Try Reddit…

Also, if you’re asking for opinions, you’ll get them. What’s the point of asking if you just want your own opinion reflected back at you… surely it’s more important to get real thoughts not faked ones.

People can be judgemental, yes. But straight talking is pretty much what AIBU is known for. There are plenty of other places online that are fluffier and less robust, this one should be left as it is.

Not sure what you mean by 'safe'? What examples of disrespect for others views have felt 'unsafe' to you? As that's quite an extreme word for a difference of opinion on a discussion forum.

Christ is it that time already, the regular bashing of how mean mumsnetters are.

When I joined Mn in 2011, the very first thread I clicked was about how terrible it had become, and how everyone was a big old meanie.

I mean generally yes. Specifically, yes. People are judgemental but in a very odd way here tbh.

No, this is not a safe space.
It is the Internet.
You aren't going to find any large, busy, public sites that are safe spaces.
Doesn't happen.

That said, there are talk guidelines. Posts are deleted if they break them. You should search "mumsnet talk guidelines" and read through them.

I joined in like 2093 and the first thread I read was about baby ear piercing. Retro lol.

MN has a fair few bullies, bitches and people with no sympathy or empathy, who just want to make you feel bad, put the boot in, make you feel inferior… Whatever nastiness floats their boat.

It’s a sad reflection I guess that this is probably a pretty fair representation of the general population (but of course, those people wouldn’t have the guts to make the same comments in real life).

I feel sorry for anyone new posting on AIBU - not realising they’re stepping into a boxing ring (with no gloves and about 100 vicious opponents).

I think a lot of posters are young and naive -a bit like teenagers who know best about everything. I’m an oldie with DGCs so think I’m more tolerant of people’s decisions having been on the planet a while.

Surely this is a safe space to explore options?

What do you mean by that?

And anyway, AIBU is known for not being soft. Other boards are different.

Don't post on AIBU.
Post on chat or a topic specific board, much softer.

Gone are the days where your family, neighbors and friends were allowed to tell the hard truths.
Now there’s MN.
Different talk topics have different levels of boldness AIBU isn’t a gentle space.
Most others are lovely.

A lot of posters are very internet/tech niave. The demographic of posters seems to be a lot older than it used to be also.

People feel free to be as rude as they like when it’s not real life.

Yip, some people are just downright horrible and rude. Rude for the sake of being rude. No need ❤️

Im utterly baffled by the interrogation of the OP in the seemingly innocent Chat Magazine thread. So much so I opened am account to say so! This week seems to have been particularly harsh, maybe its back to school nerves?

I think anyone who was funny migrated to twitter. It's all very bitter and twisted now.

I hate to even ask what happened?