Are people being too judgemental on here?

[WellBing]

I know this thread is supposed to be asking for others opinions on various issues. However, I am sometimes shocked and a little appalled at how judgemental people can be. I am not sure if there are any forum rules as such, I am new here. Surely this is a safe space to explore options? I just think a little more respect and autonomy over differing morals and values wouldn't go amiss. Actively listening to what the person is saying before jumping in would help I'm sure x

Wasn't long ago in life that people had an opinion now if they so much as express an opinion on something others don't agree with they're jumped on and accused of being judgmental.

If you want to know what people really think without the usual social politeness wrapped around it, it’s a good place to come. I see it a bit like a rowdy town hall.

If you think that mumsnet is nasty may kindly suggest that you stay off twitter, redit and basically all social media

It’s not particularly nice or polite to join a forum then quickly post a thread slagging it off. There are millions, literally millions, of other places you could post online if MN isn’t for you. Don’t feel you have to stay.

What do you mean by 'safe space'? It sounds like you want an echo chamber rather than a place where it is 'safe' to express different beliefs and ideas.

I mean… its AIBU. Its a safe space in as much as it’s anonymous but it’s supposed to be a place for frank and unvarnished opinions.

I agree people sometimes go over the top and I think civility is important but it’s also important sometimes to be allowed to be direct.

If you’re looking for virtual hugs and for people to validate your opinions, just don’t post on AIBU.

@WellBing I completely agree with you OP. People are way too judgemental and no regard for how it will affect the reader.

I think some OPs have little insight or get a bashing because they drip feed or change/add to their story.

Depends what morals you’re differing on, to be honest.

It’s not exclusive!

If you want honest forthright opinions then it’s a brilliant place.

If you’re going through trauma and want a handhold - it’s a very supportive space.

But if you want nodding dogs who just agree and validate you even if you’re being ridiculous - then try somewhere else.

That made me laugh, because only few minutes earlier, someone posted the exact opposite, wondering why everyone is so young 😹

I don’t know how you can have an opinion without being judgmental. It’s the very definition of an opinion. I have an opinion about most things because I’ve used my judgment.

I’ve never understood the problem with being judgemental. We all judge, all the time - it’s hard-wired into us as humans. I think people’s opinions and judgments are interesting.

Surely this is a safe space to explore options? I just think a little more respect and autonomy over differing morals and values wouldn't go amiss.

Nonsense. There was a thread here a few weeks ago by a woman looking for support in her continued affair because she didn't want to lose out on her husband's money. Of course people are going to be judgemental.

I think that some of it is down to how sensitive people have become. They don’t want to hear views that differ from theirs, or if they do, they want it parcelled up with a bow.

As a whole I think people are far too over emotional and I think it’s getting worse as time goes by. Lack of resilience, perhaps?
I can see it only getting worse when this generation of children grow up.

There's over 9 million users here, and threads regularly get published in trashy 'newspapers', so not safe.

I was one of the many users whose email address and password was published by a hacker.

Threads are asking for people to judge the situation described and provide advice/opinions.

We're allowed to be judgemental. It's the Internet and we're anonymous so we can be cowards. Are you new to the Internet?

@WellBing some people were never shown warmth or kindness, so they don’t know how to express it themselves.

Also some people who feel inadequate often put others down to make themselves feel better or more in control.