To be furious that a cashier at supermarket told me off for DD eating a bite of an apple...

[pavlovthecat]

... which I paid for?

Apparently, it is paid for by weight, so could I not let her do it in future? No please. Nothing else.

She is 23 months old. So charge me the extra f**king half pence then tosser!!!

It came to 21p. She had taken two 23 month old sized bites. Which is why I was buying it in the first place!

My DS (9 months) chucked a glass jar of artichoke hearts on the floor in the queue at Morrisons a week or two ago. I offered to pay for them but the manager said it wasn't necessary and they couldn't have been nicer. So not all supermarkets are shitty.

OP Write to the manager about the incident. If you don't get a £25 voucher satisfactory response, go to a different supermarket.

LOL at the lawyers all shouting thief thief thief -

You should. It's very entertaining in places. I know about and value the principle of law. But I don't want to live in a society where people are so bound to the letter of the law - regardless of harm - that common sense and discretion become redundant and forgotten values.

YANBU. FFS, two bites, look at the bloody profits the gits make! My DS age 4 took an apple from a small local food store the other day and I didn't notice til we got in the car. Went back and they said thanks for being honest. Now that's actually a bit more polite and reasonable. Shop somewhere else. Sanctimonious cow (on the till that is, not you)

In this day and age you are more likely to get arrested for your dd biting the apple than if you beat up someone outside the supermarket.

I agree that common sense and good reason should come first. But where that is absent the law is the default position precisely because it is fair to everyone.

The cashier perhaps didn't have any discretion to exercise. Perhaps she was asked to deal firmly with customers under such circumstances. I suspect a more senior member of staff would have dealt with it differently.

I think toddler ASBOs have merit though!

Mine would be asbo'd up to the gills.

I agree with you, Swedes. This person probably didn't feel that they had any discretion to exercise. This is exactly the problem.

I've just been given a free pack of nectarines in Asda as the bar code had dissappeared and after waiting for 5 minutes fr a cleeague to come and help, she gave up and just handed them to me...
Are we both thieves?

(We discussed this further down and somehow came to the conclusion that ultimately Jeremy Bentham was the cause. See onebat's Bentham thread.)

No, fullmoonfiend. You are not thieves. You and your sister on the tile have merely experienced a beautiful moment of nectarine-scented humanity together in the midst of the arid landscape of commerce.

That'll be till not tile

OP - were you wearing a Boden dress by any chance??!! There is another thread I have just noticed "Snooty lady in Boden dress let her DD eat an apple before paying for it"

btw - you are NBU

yes, Iorek, that's what I thought too...!

that'd be consumerist...

Good god. I dread to think what cumsumerist slavery entails.

I don't think I need elaborate....

your sister on the tile sounds like a euphemism from the forties.

the original Hippocraticoath states:
"To consider dear to me, as my parents, him who taught me this art; to live in common with him and, if necessary, to share my goods with him; To look upon his children as my own brothers, to teach them this art."

I think that it is clear. TO share my goods with him.

lol at this thread, cant keep up with the swing in topic.

I am confused at what class I am. Can somebody tell me?
What clues do you need?

I've worked it out Elf, from this thread.

Q: Do you allow your children to eat grapes in shops

A No (Upper class)
B Yes but I bring them in (Upper middle class)
C Yes but I conscientiously pay for weight consumed at the till (Lower middle class)
D Yes and I consider them to be a present from Mr Tesco (working class)
E No because they don't eat fruit (Chav)

Elf.

For a special occasion would you wear:
a) Laura Ashley
b) Boden
c) something you nicked from Asda with a red stain where you pulled the security tag off

How much do you spend on your dc's food per week:

a) Over £50
b) Under £50
c) Nothing - they help themselves while you're going round the aisles

Do you believe:

a) that society is underpinned by the inviolable principle of the law
b) that the law is a necessary but imperfect system of maintaining social justice and subject to interpretation
c) that the law only applies on the telly

Are you:

a) a lawyer
b) supermarket cashier
c) professional mumsnetter

Who do you admire:

a) Jeremy Bentham
b) Jeremy Beadle
c) Jeremy Clarkson

etc etc

What about "yes" but only if from one of those pre priced packs? I let my DD eat as we shop but never from pay per weight stuff.

Do remember children used to be told off for eating in public in their school uniform. There's an argument we should all wait until we're home and eat proper meals there than all this picking at junk or even non junk food all day which has made us one of the fattest nations on earth, particularly the Scots.

I am amazed by this thread that so many people think it's fine to eat before you've paid when it's illegal. Also if you're with a child when they're little you are doing this very complex important task of teaching them things about shopping, about who owns what, about respect for the possessions of others, about right and wrong so surely it's a really useful lesson situation which is what it's good to use shopping trips with toddlers for to make it clear to them no, on no account do we take or eat what we haven't paid for. if they pick something you you look shocked and put it back. That way they learn and when they're 10 they're not knicking sweets from Woolworths which presumably again is a class issue too.

Now it could be that the poor are so poor they don't have the same morality as people who can afford to fuss over what is theft and what is not. If you're just surviving and trying to get enough food for the next meal I am sure it's harder to be so precious over morals.

I loved yours Iorek but I didn't get straight As and I am GUTTED

I dont think I have a class (lol)

Elf.

For a special occasion would you wear:
d) whatever fit!

How much do you spend on your dc's food per week:

d) I spend about £60 per week for me, DH and DD, though she gets lots of fresh fruit every day.

Do you believe:

d) that the law applies to nobody but me, as I seem to get burgled / car broken into etc and no reprimand for those people, but I would get in trouble

Are you:

d) a team leader (ha!)

Who do you admire:

c) Jeremy Clarkson
sorry, sorry