AIBU to be angry that my husband threw out a bunch of my things?

[Booklovingmummy]

I guess just that, he threw out a bunch of my things without permission and I am so angry and upset. It's bad enough he regularly throws away the children's things without considering their feelings but it feels like he's gone too far. He says he's always throwing stuff away and no-one notices (which isn't true they do). I don't trust him not to throw anything else away.

Have either of you asked the other one to stop? If not, then it’s a different situation.

I agree that there’s other stuff wrong in their relationship. However, even if there weren’t, it wouldn’t be acceptable for him to keep throwing out her stuff when she’s asked him not to.

The issue isn't about throwing things away it's about hitting your children!
I decluttered DS' wardrobe last week, I didn't ask him for permission. I charity shopped or gave away the things that don't fit him any more and the really tatty stuff went in the salvation army rag bin.

My husband is like this, collects tat. He had a bag for life full of cables when we moved house, I said can we throw it it's been in the back of the cupboard for years and I'm pretty sure the electronics these came from don't exist anymore in any capacity. He said no they might come in handy, so when we moved I put them in the back of a cupboard, a year later I came across them and threw them away, he hadn't touched them. That was nearly 8 years ago and he hasn't even noticed.

Do you also hit your children, like OP's partner does?

And do you just throw things out without any discussion?

Because if yes to both, I would say that you are abusive.

I won't be looking at your old posts because that it not what you are asking advice for @Booklovingmummy
Does he think that the house is cluttered? Is he tripping over 8 pairs of shoes when he walks in the door? Are dc toys in their room or strewn around the floor downstairs?
Does he take presents gifted from others to you and dc?
Has he accused you of spending too much or costing him too much?

On one end of the scale he could be frustrated at 'amount of stuff' or
at the other end he could be a monster who relishes in making his family unhappy and relying/pandering to him being in a good mood to have a peaceful life.

If it is the latter then how can we help or support you and your dc getting away from him @Booklovingmummy ?

You don’t feel you can go against him?! What the fuck? Stand up for your children. And yourself.

Is this the prick that emptied your bookcase?? And then lied???

*Oh my god. And he beats them.

Why, why, why are you standing by while he abuses your children??? And you?

Anyway my husband is angry at them about 95% of the time. He shouts constantly shouting at them to shut up, calling our daughter a btch and our sons brats. He says they're selfish animals whose behaviour is disgusting and that he's sick of them all. He keeps saying they ruin every trip out and every holiday. And this morning my oldest son and my daughter said their dad hit my slapped my daughter on the face and shoved her*