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Dropping her T’s

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Stick0rTwist · 04/09/2025 10:51

My daughter has just gone into Yr1 and is an articulate child, relatively smart with a love for reading.

We moved her to a new school in the new year and have noticed since then she has started dropping her t’s when saying many of her words, like water, better, bottle, little etc.

This gets corrected consistently at home as although we don’t speak the queens English (and are not snobbish by any stretch of the imagination) we would prefer her to speak properly and not get into bad habits speech wise.

Over the summer holidays she was fine, but I’ve noticed in the two days she’s been back her speech has reverted back.

So here’s the AIBU - would I be unreasonable to mention this to her teacher? Or would I sound like a massive snob 🙈

Sounds dramatic but it’s even making me want to move her school again as this was not a problem at her old school at all. Its been a direct result of moving school as it started the week we moved.

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ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 07/09/2025 15:22

Thursdayschild2025 · 07/09/2025 14:47

I find the hysterical burbling of those who have nothing of any relevance to add reasonably amusing, and clearly I can easily continue to swat these mosquitoes away ad nauseam.

However, I simply don't have the time to keep responding to these yappy ankle biters, so I will have to go for now. If I have the time, and the inclination, I may return later to put them back in their place.

So bye for now, cheers for the chuckles and remember - if you agree with the OP's opinion on this topic, you are ill educated and parochial. If you continue to double down after being properly schooled you are also small minded and ignorant. Hope this helps :)

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Yep, good riddance. Irritating is a bloody understatement to describe the posts you write.

MasterBeth · 07/09/2025 17:10

CrostaDiPizza · 07/09/2025 11:29

@PaxAeterna , @MasterBeth , I didn't say anything about 'proper accent'. The King's English generally means correct usage and grammar.

I didn't say anything about "proper accent", either.

It's you who are asserting that the King's English is proper English.

Says who?

ZenGarden89 · 07/09/2025 17:37

Goodness, some of the responses are so rude.

It sounds like a passing affectation but I think I’d say it to the teacher and also back it up with some SLT if it becomes an ongoing issue.

PaxAeterna · 07/09/2025 18:13

CrostaDiPizza · 07/09/2025 13:59

@PaxAeterna , I have not expressed any admiration for RP. You are making things up.

RP is more commonly known as the Kings English which you mentioned as being correct.

CrostaDiPizza · 07/09/2025 18:21

@PaxAeterna , is it bollocks.

abracadabra1980 · 07/09/2025 19:53

My DC have been brought up in an ABC1 area, graduated and are both in Engineering / have successful careers ahead of them. Both drop their ‘t’s, as do I (depending upon how posh I need to sound). It is simply a colloquialism from our town/area. They are also wise enough to ‘up their accent’ if necessary. What I didn’t like was the phase of ‘nah’ instead of no; that was just teenage stuff and they no longer use that word.

PaxAeterna · 07/09/2025 20:52

CrostaDiPizza · 07/09/2025 18:21

@PaxAeterna , is it bollocks.

Ok. Please let me know what you think RP is and how it differs from the Kings English?

NorthenAdventure · 07/09/2025 21:24

Thursdayschild2025 · 07/09/2025 02:26

Yes, I find it annoying when someone is completely correct and I have no comeback of any kind but wish I had. I find that shutting up at that point is best, but sorry you found the fact that I was completely correct so insufferable you couldn't help yourself.

Also, thank you for drawing attention to my post, I do hope people keep quoting me as I very much want my post to be easy to find, and preferably one of the last comments on the thread :)

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Wow, you have no idea how you sound, do you? 🤦🏼‍♀️

NorthenAdventure · 07/09/2025 21:25

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 07/09/2025 15:22

Yep, good riddance. Irritating is a bloody understatement to describe the posts you write.

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Has she gone? Good riddance indeed! 👏

nevernotmaybe · 11/09/2025 19:07

Stick0rTwist · 04/09/2025 11:11

We are in the Midlands in a rural county. I don’t regularly hear my friends or friends children speak that way so it’s not necessarily a regional thing or common to the area.

I guess I do expect the teachers to correct them, she speaks properly and at the end of the day she’s there to guide them and teach them. It doesn’t need to be a big deal or a telling off, just guidance. Like when you repeat back the correct version of a word to a toddler to help them learn to talk properly. At 5 my daughter is still only young and I do expect her teacher to do this.

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There is no "speaking properly".

It's hilarious you have tried to pretend you aren't a snob, and also then label different ways of speaking as the proper way, and not the proper way.

CrostaDiPizza · 11/09/2025 19:58

@nevernotmaybe , you're right. It's fine to call dogs woof-woofs and cows moo-moos. Anyone disagreeing is obviously a complete snob.

Spookygoose · 13/09/2025 12:30

CrostaDiPizza · 11/09/2025 19:58

@nevernotmaybe , you're right. It's fine to call dogs woof-woofs and cows moo-moos. Anyone disagreeing is obviously a complete snob.

Calling a cow a moo moo and saying butter or bu-er is in no way comparable. One is a completely different word, the other is pronunciation 🤣🤣

CrostaDiPizza · 13/09/2025 12:43

@Spookygoose , it was in response to 'There is no "speaking properly".'.
No idea why you posted🤣🤣.

daleylama · 14/09/2025 00:45

Stick0rTwist · 04/09/2025 11:11

We are in the Midlands in a rural county. I don’t regularly hear my friends or friends children speak that way so it’s not necessarily a regional thing or common to the area.

I guess I do expect the teachers to correct them, she speaks properly and at the end of the day she’s there to guide them and teach them. It doesn’t need to be a big deal or a telling off, just guidance. Like when you repeat back the correct version of a word to a toddler to help them learn to talk properly. At 5 my daughter is still only young and I do expect her teacher to do this.

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That's a totally unreasonable expectation. And is she to do it in class or do you expect her to spend time speaking to your child privately. It's your problem , you solve it

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