Dislike my partner today

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Just a moan really.

My husband is on holiday for 2 weeks so is laying about the house and complaining that he has no space from me because I work from home. He is very untidy and I find this difficult most of the time, but let it go mostly unless I’m hormonal and I get mad.

Im responsible for all aspects of our life from DIY (have to pay someone usually) to cooking and food shop. I do all the cleaning.

Ive told him I feel unloved and suffer from lack of affection. I’m lonely. I’ve told him this to and it’s water of ducks back.

hes going shopping today. I asked him to pick eye cream up for me and I’d transfer him the money. He just point blanked said no to be an idiot not because he isn’t going there. Just made me feel sad.

I feel sad I’m in a relationship with someone who cares little about me. I doubt he loves me: spends his time telling me to go away and be quiet. He said he jokes but I don’t take it like that.

He sounds quite unpleasant. You don't have to stay married you know...

I think you need to start loving yourself a bit. Why are you doing everything for him, it sounds like you have little self respect. I really don’t know what you see in him, he sounds repulsive.

Do you really want to spend the rest of your life feeling like this?

This was me. I was miserable and grew to hate him.

I left. I'm happy.

Do you mean cosmetic eye cream or medicinal eye cream?

It doesn't sound as though he even likes you, what's the point?

@dodobedo really? That’s the question that springs to mind? Rather than ‘What does he actually bring to your life?’

This is what you are calling “ marriage”?

He promised to love and cherish you. Are you getting any of either?

He did not stand up there in front of God, loved ones and friends, look into your eyes and say “I promise to be a prick to you and only to you”.

He lied to you.

What difference does it make? If he can’t do that simple thing for his wife, the person he is meant to love, it’s a sad state.

Well it's just that it's a bit more serious if it's for medicinal purposes.

But either way he does sound like a prick.

OP, when was the last time he brought you a bunch of flowers or a plate of food in a restaurant?

What does that matter??

A wife has asked her husband to get something from the shops as he is going to the shops and she is working!! It doesn't matter if its medicinal or not!!

This sounds awful. My ex husband of 20 years cheated on me and walked out. It was really tough with 2 traumatised teens and a long drawn out divorce (took 3 years). But...I am so grateful he did what he did. I am so much happier on my own. My house is happy and peaceful and I don't have to put up with all the horrible shit he did. Your partner sounds beyond redemption
I'd divorce him if I were you.

YABU to downplay this as ‘just a moan’ - this is really sad OP - your partner doesn’t value you or care about you, I think you need to really reevaluate the relationship 💐

This ☝️.

Assuming there's not significantly more to this, it sounds like you should consider whether you'd be better off without him.

If that's a bigger step than you're ready for, maybe go stay with a friend or family member (or in a hotel or airbnb) for a week, and at the end of the week see if he's had enough of a realisation to be less of a walloper, and if you felt you were actually missing anything by not being with him for that week.

Tell him you need space from him whilst you are working.
He has 2 choices.

1. Every day he gets up, cleans, tidies & cooks a meal for you every night.
2. He disappears to parents/siblings/travel lodge for the rest of the time he's off.

Either choice gives you a break & stops him from annoying you. If it's more pleasant without him then that makes the decision for you to separate from the selfish, lazy, useless git.

Give it a rest they may both be atheisti for all you know

What was he like to begin with? I can't imagine you wanted to be with someone like that.

He's really taking you for granted and mean with it. You can have a better life away from a man who gives nothing.

The "in front of God" in the post you're replying to doesn't change the overall meaning of the post, so I don't see the need to challenge it.

Why are you with him? Do you want to waste your whole life on this person?
Leave him and live your own, better life.

Whoever asked what eye cream it is - it would be classed as cosmetic but I have eczema on my eyelids and this is the only stuff that gets rid of it. I ran out about 5 days ago. Going myself tomorrow but day earlier would have eased my itching.

ive got nowhere else to go otherwise I would. He’s gone out now for the day

Exactly the point of the post was made without the need of the assumption or need of religion

Please don't spend the rest of your one precious life with someone you don't even think loves you. Or even likes you much, by the sound of it. And whom you don't like much, either, if we're honest. And who expects you to take all the mental load. And do all the cleaning. Which he makes more of by being untidy. And won't do little acts of service for you in return for everything you do for him.

Start looking for something you can afford - a room in a shared house would be better than with him

Do you own your own house?

How is that relevant in the slightest?