Dislike my partner today

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Just a moan really.

My husband is on holiday for 2 weeks so is laying about the house and complaining that he has no space from me because I work from home. He is very untidy and I find this difficult most of the time, but let it go mostly unless I’m hormonal and I get mad.

Im responsible for all aspects of our life from DIY (have to pay someone usually) to cooking and food shop. I do all the cleaning.

Ive told him I feel unloved and suffer from lack of affection. I’m lonely. I’ve told him this to and it’s water of ducks back.

hes going shopping today. I asked him to pick eye cream up for me and I’d transfer him the money. He just point blanked said no to be an idiot not because he isn’t going there. Just made me feel sad.

I feel sad I’m in a relationship with someone who cares little about me. I doubt he loves me: spends his time telling me to go away and be quiet. He said he jokes but I don’t take it like that.

oh thats rubbish having itchy eyes and he wouldn't get you an eye cream while he was at the shop. I'm guessing this is just one of many similar things he's done.

"ive got nowhere else to go otherwise I would."

In that case, prioritise either finding somewhere else to go, or getting him to go.

So think about things like:

• What's your current housing situation? Owned (if so - by you / him / jointly), rented (by you / him / jointly - also when's the next date you can end the lease without penalty)
• What's your current contribution to shared costs? Would these cover another place, or a room in a shared house/flat? If not, do you have enough spare money to make up the difference
• Is your current place big enough for you to separate while still being under the same roof, as an interim step
• You say you have nowhere else to go, but does he - could you ask him to go stay with friends/family/etc
• Do you have enough money in the bank to go stay somewhere short term, even if a Travelodge or Airbnb, in the hope of shocking him in to changing? Presumably he wasn't always like this or you'd not be together in the first place, so maybe a shock will put him back to being a decent human being.

How long have you been together? Do you have children with him? Whose house is it?
You need to leave and find happiness op

My DH is far from perfect (nor me) but if either of us went to the shop we would ask 'do you need anything?'.

If I had an uncomfortable skin condition he'd make a special detour to help me, not deliberately say no to be a twat.

If either of us were on leave while the other worked, we'd automatically take responsibility for the kids, any jobs that day and probably cooking dinner.

I think that's probably pretty normal & basic for 2 adults in a relationship.

I think you deserve a lot better & I'm pleased you're employed because that's the key to escaping him.

What she said with bells on

Sounds horrible. Leave him.

Also get yourself some hydrocortisone for your eyes. It will help.

No we don’t have children.

I don’t have money in the bank. It’s both our house. We have one cat who’d be coming with me.

he ended up getting me the cream and some chocolate.

I just wish all this winding up and things he thinks is funny would just stop.

im just exhausted at the moment and counting down until he goes back to work.

whoever said I don’t like him, I don’t when he’s acting like an idiot. But I do really love him.